AITA for laughing at my wife’s name choice?

In a sunlit living room adorned with vibrant Egyptian tapestries, a couple’s joyful news of pregnancy sparked an unexpected clash. The husband, thrilled yet unprepared, chuckled at his wife’s heartfelt suggestion to name their child after an Egyptian goddess—a choice that carried unintended weight in their American home. His laughter, meant as a reflex, struck a nerve, unraveling tensions tied to cultural pride and modern realities.

This Reddit tale weaves a relatable story of love, missteps, and compromise. It captures the delicate dance of honoring heritage while navigating societal norms, drawing readers into a moment where a name becomes a battleground. With emotions running high and cultural roots at stake, the couple’s journey resonates with anyone who’s grappled with blending identities in a relationship, sparking curiosity about how they found common ground.

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‘AITA for laughing at my wife’s name choice?’

So I (35M) and my Wife (32F), currently reside in America, my wife is very proud of her Egyptian roots and has tried her best to include it into our day to day life, from food to the design of our house. Which I am not complaining cause I love getting to know new cultures and Egyptian culture is very interesting to me, especially Egyptian mythology, which my wife has taught me a lot regarding the gods and goddesses etc.

My wife came to me yesterday with the great news that she was pregnant, which is amazing cause we have been trying so hard to have a child, we immediately started talking about child names, cause who doesn't am I right?

I inputted some names of mine, like Arthur (after my grandfather) if it was a boy, or perhaps rosemary (my dead mother's name) if it was a girl, my wife respectfully listened to some of my names but it was clear she did not like them, which is her right as a mother and the carrier of my child, so I asked her for her ideas.

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I could tell she wanted an Egyptian name for our child because she listed some names of the gods such as Ra, Osiris, I listened with a straight face and interest but then I started laughing when she mentioned the name ISIS if the child is a girl, after the goddess.

Now I know why she chose the name, I am not that dumb, but I do not approve of that name as it is frowned upon here in America, where we currently live and planned our future in (I do not have to explain why, because you would already know), I'm sure in Egypt it is a common name but again, we do not live there and not many Americans are familiar with the meaning of the name, only associating it with the terrorists.

My wife clearly did not like the fact that I was laughing at the name, but I told her that she should have known that picking a name like that for our child is not the smartest choice, she is calling me an a**hole for laughing at the name because it could suit well for our child if it turns out to be a girl, but I had to put my foot down as the father and tell her under no circumstances can we name our child ISIS.

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EDIT 2: I have talked with my wife, we have decided against the name ISIS, due to Americans and many other countries associating it with terrorism, it would be stupid to name a child after terrorists, I also apologized for my laughter and my wife understood as to why I laughed in the moment.  I am sorry redditors but I have to go against your judgement as my kid would hate me.

I will not be replying to any more comments and my actions are final, my wife is also coming around to naming our daughter Rosemary! which is great, for all of those who have insulted me and my marriage to my wife, I have decided to ignore and report those comments as many of you were very immature and toxic to me, Goodbye.

EDIT 3: I also thank those who took the time and decency to construct a fair judgement and be realistic instead of assuming that I tried to mock my wife, my wife and I are happily married and calling me r**ist, sexist and talking about divorce was not acceptable nor mature, it is official ISIS will not be our daughters name and we are content with Rosemary.

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Choosing a child’s name can feel like a love letter to culture or family, but this couple’s clash shows how names carry unexpected baggage. The wife’s suggestion of “ISIS,” rooted in Egyptian mythology, collided with its modern association with terrorism in America. The husband’s laughter, though insensitive, stemmed from a valid concern about their child’s future in a society quick to judge.

This dispute reflects broader challenges of cultural identity in diaspora communities. A 2019 study by the Pew Research Center notes that 1 in 4 immigrant parents struggle to balance heritage with societal norms when naming children. Dr. Homa Hoodfar, an anthropologist specializing in Middle Eastern cultures, states, “Names are powerful symbols of identity, but in cross-cultural contexts, they can trigger unintended stigma” (Concordia University). The wife’s choice, while culturally significant, overlooked the name’s negative connotations in America, while the husband’s reaction risked dismissing her heritage.

Their resolution to choose “Rosemary” shows compromise, but the initial misstep highlights the need for open dialogue. Couples should discuss naming motivations early, weighing cultural pride against practical implications. Seeking input from family or cultural experts can bridge gaps.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

The Reddit squad dove into this naming drama with gusto, dishing out a lively mix of support, shade, and cultural insights. It’s like a virtual coffee shop debate where everyone’s got a take. Here’s the raw scoop from the community:

[Reddit User] − Yta for laughing at her name choice rather than maturely expressing your concerns.

alongstrangesomethin − YTA. You shouldn’t have laughed. Laughing at your wife is disrespectful. And you pretty much laughed at a name that has a lot of significance in a culture you claim to respect. Also “put my foot down as a father”?! You’re being ridiculous. That being said you are right. It would be a terrible idea to name your kid that in America.

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The kid would get looks, get picked on when at school, you as parents and even the kid would probably face discrimination and racism. I’m not going to argue you with you if this is fair or not (it isn’t but then again life isn’t). I think that name is a pretty bad idea and not in the best interest of the child or the family.

Mandarinette − No one in Egypt gives their children the names of the Egyptian gods like Osiris or Isis. People give them either Muslim or Christian names, depending on their religion. Your wife must has lost touch with her roots. This is super bizarre.

Aya_ElFayoumi − Yeah, no one here in Egypt even thinks of naming their kid Isis, Osiris or Ra... not the best idea if you plan on ever coming back here.

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The_Real_Scrotus − Mild YTA here. You definitely shouldn't name your daughter Isis, but you should have just explained it to your wife instead of laughing at her.

RollingKatamari − NTA-hopefully, when the child is grown the terrorist Isis will only still exist in history books but right now they are still around and is probably the 1st thing that pops into people's heads when they hear the name Isis

what-the-fricks-frac − NTA full blooded Egyptian here, nobody in Egypt names their kids that stuff. You’ll get laughed at. And I don’t know why she thinks giving her daughter the same name as a terrorist organization is a good idea. I’d laugh too.

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workthrowa − YTA for this fake ass post. Clearly you were counting on most people reading this to know nothing about Egypt. You must have failed to realize that people in Egypt do have internet access and can call out this BS. Egyptians are Arabs with a culture and society that has zero to do with ancient Egypt. Your wife might have an interest in ancient Egypt but she's not Egyptian. Nothing in this story makes sense.

baarelyalive − Isis? Ya I’d laugh too.. NTA

WebbieVanderquack − YTA. Isis is obviously an ill-advised choice for a child who will be raised in the US, but it was really insensitive to laugh at a name with an ancient Egyptian history.. I had to put my foot down as the father If there's one phrase I really hate, it's that one. You *both* have to agree on a name, yes. But laughing at your immigrant wife and then 'putting your foot down as the father' is not the way to go about that.

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Redditors split on the husband’s laughter—some called it disrespectful, others a natural reaction to a tricky name. Many agreed “ISIS” was a poor choice in America, while others questioned the wife’s cultural authenticity. Do these hot takes nail the issue, or are they just stirring the pot?

This couple’s naming saga reveals the tightrope of blending cultural pride with modern realities. Their journey from laughter to compromise shows that love can weather clumsy moments when both sides listen. By choosing “Rosemary,” they found a name that honors family without inviting stigma, proving that tough talks can lead to harmony. How would you navigate a clash of cultural values in your relationship? Share your thoughts below.

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