AITA for telling my gf’s friend who is staying at our place that she can leave?

In a cozy apartment, the steam of a hot shower fades as a man steps out, unaware he’s about to walk into a bizarre showdown. His girlfriend’s best friend, a guest for the week, storms in, clutching a loofa and accusing him of using it—sniffing it for proof. What should’ve been a chill visit turns into a clash over personal space, with his girlfriend siding with her friend’s wild demand: no showers for a week. His blunt response? Pack your bags.

This Reddit tale is a quirky yet heated dive into houseguest drama, where a loofa becomes a battleground for respect. It hooks readers with its absurdity, raising the question: how far should you bend for a guest in your own home?

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‘AITA for telling my gf’s friend who is staying at our place that she can leave?’

My gf's best friend is staying with us as she is just visiting from out of town. I know she has always resented me a bit for whatever reason (I honestly dont know why) but I've learnt to just stay out of her way. When my gf is around we will talk,

but I dont think we've ever even had a conversation when she isnt around us.. She's staying for a week and its been relatively fine, literally 0 problems for the first day.. I like to take showers every night after the day is over, which is where the problem began.

Our guest washroom is out of service atm the bathtub works but its dusty as s**t and no one has touched that thing in who knows how long. We all have to share the master bed's washroom in the mean time. I was taking a shower, and when I came out she ran in and accused me of using her luffa because it was 'wet'.

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I had no words. I didnt even realize it was in there until she made a fuss about it, she smelt the f**king luffa and then smelt my body wash and said it smelt the same. I didnt even know what to say besides 'I didnt use it'. She said even then it weirded her out that I was showering while her luffa was in there.

My gf tried mediating, told her to take out the luffa while I shower even. She told me to use the bath in the broken washroom and I said no because it's dirty as f**k and I'd have to spend at least an hour to get all the grime out of that thing.

My gf and her bff had a talk in a seperate room and when she came back she just asked me to hold off on showering for a week L M F A O. Yeah right, I told her bff she can leave if I make her feel so uncomfortable and she did. She left and packed her things.

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My gf was mad at me, she said that she was our guest and yes, maybe she was being a bit too much but it was 'valid' to be uncomfortable about the luffa situation. She tried calling her friend and she didnt pick up once. wtf was I supposed to do in that situation, yeah maybe I could have cleaned out the bathtub in the guest washroom but I dont understand why I have to inconvenience myself that much just to make her friend happy. AITA?

This loofa fiasco isn’t just odd—it’s a clash of boundaries gone haywire. The friend’s accusation, complete with sniffing theatrics, reeks of overreach, while the girlfriend’s no-shower suggestion dismisses her partner’s basic needs. Psychology Today notes that clear boundaries are key in shared spaces, especially with guests.

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, says, “Respecting a partner’s comfort builds trust.” The girlfriend’s siding with her friend over a baseless complaint undermines this, as a 2022 American Psychological Association study shows prioritizing guests over residents breeds resentment. The friend’s discomfort doesn’t trump the host’s right to hygiene.

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He should calmly discuss boundaries with his girlfriend, emphasizing mutual respect, as The Gottman Institute advises. She needs to prioritize their home’s harmony over her friend’s whims. If the guest returns, clear rules—like removing personal items from shared spaces—can prevent repeat drama. His home, his rules, no loofa required.

See what others had to share with OP:

The Reddit posse dove in like they were judging a soap opera, slinging shade and support with gusto. It’s like a backyard BBQ where everyone’s got a hot take. Here’s the unfiltered buzz from the crowd:

deepwebslut − NTA. Her friend is insane to literally smell your body and the loofa....wtf. I have no idea how that could make someone uncomfortable, it sounds like she just seriously doesn't like you unfortunately.

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innocentsubterfuge − NTA What the hell? Does your GF and her BFF not know that water...splashes? And when the shower is on everything in the shower gets wet? Not showering for a week to appease a guest is a ridiculous suggestion, but I think you should take her up on it anyway and see how she appreciates sleeping next to a person with 7 day old BO.

darkstarr82 − NTA. The gf bf sounds unhinged. Who expects someone not to shower for a week?! She’s not the queen and it’s your home, guest or no guest.

Key-Bit1208 − NTA. If your gf is THAT concerned about her bff’s loofa craziness, then SHE should go clean the guest bathroom for her friend.

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ResoluteMuse − ESH. BFF for being utterly ridiculous and seriously overstepping.. GF for telling you not to shower for a week. You for letting your bathroom get so disgusting it would “take an hour” to make it usable..

“Our guest washroom is unusable atm” and “the bathtub is dusty as s**t” so the bathroom isn’t unusable “atm” you’ve left something broken in the MAIN bathroom for months.. Be an adult. Clean your bathroom. Better yet, fix it.

streaksview − Is it normal not to clean your house? I have guest bathrooms that don’t get used. I still clean them often.

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Healthy_Menu1457 − NTA, she is the guest in your house and if she did not want her stuff to get wet, for whatever reason, she should have taken it out after she was done. She has very poor manners to throw accusations at you when she is the guest, and to ask you to refrain from showering.

Beck2010 − NTA. Is your gf serious? You live there, this friend doesn’t. You need to have a serious conversation with your girlfriend and ask her why she thinks your comfort is disposable.

Norwinus − NTA. She is totally entitled and ungrateful. Also not willing to listen to anything else but her pre-formed opinion. Besides, what were you supposed to do about the loofa? Ask? Remove it? She probably would have thrown a fit as well. Also why doesnt she use the other bathroom if she is so uncomfortable?. Your GF is also an AH, why does she believe the friend over you? On what base?

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NannyBismo − NTA, but why the f**k did your GF stand up for a luffa over you?

Redditors roasted the friend’s loofa obsession, cheering the guy’s stand and side-eyeing the girlfriend’s stance. Some called out the dusty bathroom neglect, but most backed his right to shower. Do these spicy opinions nail the chaos, or just crank up the drama? One thing’s clear: this loofa’s got everyone lathered up.

This tale is a sudsy reminder that guests don’t get to rewrite house rules, especially over a wet loofa. His sharp eviction was a stand for his space, though his girlfriend’s defense of her friend stings. It’s a story that bubbles with questions about hospitality and loyalty. Ever had a guest overstep in your home? Drop your story below—let’s rinse out this drama!

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