AITA for tricking a crazy woman into leaving the thermostat set to a reasonable temperature?

Picture a chilly office morning, where the thermostat becomes a battleground and a young worker’s patience is as thin as the frost on the windows. Our protagonist, a 21-year-old navigating her dad’s office, faces off with a new coworker whose love for arctic temperatures leaves everyone shivering. What unfolds is a sly maneuver worthy of a sitcom, blending cleverness with a touch of mischief. But was it a brilliant compromise or a step too far?

This Reddit gem pulls us into a relatable workplace tussle, where comfort clashes with control. With a tampered thermostat and a coworker none the wiser, the story crackles with humor and tension. Let’s unpack the original post, dive into expert insights, and hear the Reddit crowd’s take on this frosty fiasco, all while pondering the ethics of a sneaky temperature tweak.

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‘AITA for tricking a crazy woman into leaving the thermostat set to a reasonable temperature?’

I (F21) work in my dad's office. He recently hired a new woman (45) to work there and she likes the temperature in the main office to be set to about 63-65 F. That is about 17-18 C. That is uncomfortably cold for me. Yes I could wear a sweater but I don't think I should have to.

I like it se to 70-72 and I am willing to compromise at 68 but all she does is complain that it is too hot and then she does no work. She is a friend on my parents and she needs the work. I asked my father if I could just work from home. No dice. I told him to tell her to leave the thermostat alone. Again he told me to be the bigger person.

Fine, last weekend my boyfriend came into the office and bent the bimetal strip inside the thermostat so that it read at 4 degrees colder than it was actually set for. All this week she has been bugging me because I was obviously complaining for no reason since the thermostat is set to 65 and I am not complaining about being cold in the office.

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My mom came into the office on Friday and she mentioned that it was good that I had convinced the woman to let me be comfortable. I shushed her and we went for lunch. I told her what I did and asked her to just not mention anything. She said I was being a d**k to the church lady and that she is probably having hot flashes or something.

I said that she was just a controlling j**kass and never even noticed the office was at a reasonable temperature as long as it was set to her desired temperature. My mom says I am gaslighting the poor woman. I just think I found a solution that works. I get to be warm and she gets to control the thermostat.. ​. EDIT.. Someone mentioned it so I looked it up. Please allow me to quote OSHA.. ​. ***Office Temperature/Humidity**.

As a general rule, office temperature and humidity are matters of human comfort. OSHA has no regulations specifically addressing temperature and humidity in an office setting. However, [Section III, Chapter 2, Subsection V of the OSHA Technical Manual]'*Recommendations for the Employer*,' provides engineering and administrative guidance to prevent or alleviate indoor air quality problems.

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Air treatment is defined under the engineering recommendations as, 'the removal of air contaminants and/or the control of room temperature and humidity.' OSHA recommends temperature control in the range of 68-76° F and humidity control in the range of 20%-60%.

Office thermostat wars are the stuff of legend, turning coworkers into rivals faster than a broken coffee machine. Here, the OP’s thermostat trick forced a compromise with a coworker fixated on icy temperatures, but it also stirred accusations of manipulation. Let’s unpack this chilly conflict with a smirk and some expert wisdom.

The OP, preferring a cozy 70-72°F, faced a coworker demanding a brisk 63-65°F, citing discomfort. The OP’s solution—tampering with the thermostat to display a false reading—kept the office at 68°F, satisfying both parties unknowingly. The coworker’s refusal to budge and the OP’s rejected requests to work from home fueled the sneaky fix. While clever, the deception sidestepped open communication, risking trust. The broader issue is workplace comfort: OSHA recommends 68-76°F for offices, per their Technical Manual, aligning with the OP’s preference.

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Dr. Susan Whitbourne, a workplace psychology expert, notes in Psychology Today, “Unresolved conflicts over shared spaces often stem from poor communication, not malice.” The OP’s trick, while effective, avoided addressing the coworker’s needs—possibly menopausal symptoms, as the mom suggested. A better approach? Propose a rotating thermostat schedule or involve management to mediate. Both parties should voice concerns respectfully, ensuring comfort without covert tactics. Transparency builds stronger teams, even when the air feels frosty.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit squad jumped into this thermostat saga with gusto, dishing out cheers, jeers, and a few zingers. It’s like a virtual potluck where everyone brought their spiciest opinions. Here’s the raw rundown from the crowd:

SecretJealous4342 − NTA you came up with a great solution. Your mom is wrong, and maybe don't tell her stuff that you don't want her to share.

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DanInBham1 − NTA but only because the woman isn’t hot anymore. This isn’t gaslighting because you aren’t trying to convince her she’s wrong or delusional. You’re essentially just lying to her - which I have no problem with.

You’ve deceptively forced a compromise which she has tacitly endorsed. If she were still hot and you argued that the temperature was where she wanted it, then that would be gaslighting and you would be an a**hole.

Beck2010 − So she’s a new employee, comes in and takes over the thermostat. You offer to work from home, are told no, and to be the bigger person. Hate that phrase - it means let the poorly behaved people get away with their behavior..

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Yes, you could wear a sweater. She could also wear something cooler. I really have to go with NTA due to her controlling behavior. You attempted a couple of concessions, she did not. Frankly, the solution was fairly brilliant.

Fatt3stAveng3r − NTA. Seems like she's fine with the temp as it is, so no harm no foul. If she starts 'over-heating', maybe then fix it to normal.

blinkingsandbeepings − I mean you're not gasLIGHTing her, you're gasHEATing her. I don't love it, especially the way you talk about her, but you tried everything else and you offered a very reasonable compromise and no one else was willing to try anything at all, so I've got to go with NTA.

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[Reddit User] − NTA it was 67 in my house today I was wearing slippers, a hoodie a blanket and a heating pad and I was shaking from the cold. You can only put so many clothes on to keep warm. She’s being unreasonable and won’t compromise.

[Reddit User] − NTA You nailed it, she is a controlling j**kass. Your only mistake was telling your mother. She will s**ew things up for you.

EmeraldBlueZen − NTA - the woman's demands that temperature be set from 63-65F are unreasonable. In the USA OSHA regs state that employers should set the thermostat between 68 and 76 degrees. EDIT: Many people are commenting that setting the heat up to 76 degrees would be way too hot.

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I completely agree. I think this is temperature recommendations for all over the USA, in places where heat is needed, when AC is needed, and when neither may be needed. But anyway, here's the link to OSHA: [https://www.osha.gov/laws-regs/standardinterpretations/2003-02-24](https://www.osha.gov/laws-regs/standardinterpretations/2003-02-24)

embopbopbopdoowop − YTA. For ‘crazy woman’, for ‘church lady’, for ‘controlling j**kass’, for ‘Yes I could wear a sweater but I don’t think I should have to’, for not accepting your boss’s decision about the temperature, for messing with the thermostat display, and for lying to her about the current temperature (through having messed with the thermostat).

You don’t know that she hasn’t noticed the difference. All you know is that she hasn’t raised it with you, and that could be because you’ve made a big enough deal about the current temp that she doesn’t feel she can raise it again. Edit to respond to your edit: present her and your boss with this information and talk through it. Judgement stands.

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rickallen71 − Nta she's trying to dominate the situation. If she was really to hot she would be too hot because it is hotter. You're giving as good as you're getting.

Reddit mostly backed the OP’s clever hack, praising the workaround while chuckling at the coworker’s obliviousness. Some called it a fair compromise; others flagged the deception as shady. But do these hot takes hold up, or are they just fanning the flames of office gossip?

This AITA tale turns a mundane office issue into a masterclass on creativity and conflict. The OP’s thermostat trick may have warmed the office, but it also cooled trust with a coworker. Expert advice points to communication as the real fix, while Reddit’s mixed reactions show there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. It’s a reminder that workplace harmony hinges on compromise, not clever cover-ups.

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Have you ever faced a workplace standoff like this? Would you tweak the thermostat or talk it out? Share your stories and hot takes in the comments—what’s your move in this frosty office drama?

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