AITA for giving my girlfriends makeup to my best friends girlfriend?

A lively get-together takes a sour turn when a 22-year-old woman, aiming to impress her best friend’s new girlfriend, Katy, offers her a limited-edition eyeshadow palette belonging to her partner, Jade. Assuming Jade’s vast makeup collection would cushion the loss, she’s stunned when Jade erupts, revealing the palette’s irreplaceable value. Refusing to reclaim it, she offers a replacement, but days of sulking and silence follow. Even after retrieving the palette, the rift lingers.

This isn’t just about makeup—it’s a clash of respect, boundaries, and thoughtlessness. Her gesture was impulsive, but was it unforgivable? Readers are hooked: did she cross a line, or is Jade overreacting? The relationship drama demands a verdict.

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‘AITA for giving my girlfriends makeup to my best friends girlfriend?’

This woman shared her makeup misstep on Reddit, detailing Jade’s anger and her own initial refusal to fix it. Here’s her original post and update, unpacking the fallout.

My girlfriend Jade (21 F) and I (22 F) have been dating for two years. She’s a fantastic partner. Kind, caring, and loving. Genuinely, haven’t met someone who didn’t love her. My childhood best friend Kevin (22 M) recently started dating Katy (24 F) a couple months ago. Jade is very into makeup, like REALLY.

Her makeup collection at this point is probably worth around 10K. Well, last weekend I hosted a get together at our place so that we could get to know Katy better. I offered our spare room up so that everyone could drink. After a couple of drinks in Katy asked to use the bathroom.

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When she came out of the bathroom she was holding one of my girlfriends eyeshadow palettes that she had accidentally left in there while rushing to get ready and was raving about how long she had wanted it. Without thinking I said she could take it considering Jade has an extensive collection and probably wouldn’t miss it.

Jade didn’t say anything but I could tell by her look that she was fuming. When everyone went off to bed Jade confronted me and told me off for offering up her palette. I told her if it was that big of a deal I could buy her a new one.

This made her more upset and she said that it was a limited edition palette so that couldn’t happen and demanded I ask for it back. I said no because to ask for the item back is weird and that I’d buy her a similar one. This happened Saturday night and it’s Thursday and she still won’t let it go. She’s barely spoken to me since and is very sulky. AITA?

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Edit 1: why would y’all want my girlfriend to dump me over a mistake? I admit that I definitely fucked up but some of these comments are unnecessarily harsh.. Edit 2: I AM A WOMAN. MEN ARE NOT THE ONLY GENDER THAT DATES WOMEN.. Edit 2: I will be asking for it back.

Relationships thrive on mutual respect, but this woman’s casual gift of her girlfriend’s prized possession shattered it. Offering Jade’s limited-edition palette to Katy without permission was a breach of trust, compounded by dismissing Jade’s anger and refusing to retrieve it initially. Her assumption that Jade’s large collection made the loss trivial ignored the emotional and financial value of the item. Retrieving it later was a step, but the damage lingered.

This reflects broader issues of respecting partners’ belongings. A 2023 study in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that disregarding a partner’s personal property often signals deeper disregard, eroding trust. Jade’s reaction aligns with this, as the palette represented her passion.

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Relationship coach Dr. Rhoberta Shaler says, “Giving away a partner’s possessions without consent is a power move, intentional or not; repair requires accountability” (source). Her insight frames the woman’s error as a thoughtless overstep, though her eventual effort to fix it shows remorse. Jade’s sulking suggests lingering hurt needing open dialogue.

The couple could rebuild trust through honest talks about boundaries. Katy should’ve checked with Jade before accepting.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit dove into this makeup mishap with takes as bold as a neon eyeshadow. Here’s a roundup of their thoughts, sprinkled with humor—because even relationship spats need a chuckle.

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Dry_Distribution_964 − YTA- imagine your gf gave away one of your things that was a limited edition without a thought for you! How would you feel? It doesn’t matter how much makeup she has, this is something she is passionate about and buys herself, so what gave you the right to give it away so your friends new gf likes you! You need to apologise and get it back, it was not your property and is theft.

MerlinBiggs − YTA. Her stuff isn't your to give away. As she has so much it's obviously something that's important to her. To top it off you gave away something irreplaceable. Go ask for it back.

iolaus79 − YTA. Your girlfriend may be a fantastic partner but she hasn't got a fantastic partner. The fact that Katy said she'd been looking for that one for ages should have clued you in that it was limited and difficult to get hold of.

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The fact that Katy didn't check with the person who owned it also puts her down in my estimation. You did something wrong and then refused to try and put it right, sooner Jade leaves you the better.

mongoIz777 − YTA the palette wasn't yours to offer.

janewilson90 − YTA. Come on. You didn't think she would miss it despite it being out in the bathroom showing that your GF had used it recently? It wasn't yours to give away. You need to get the pallet back, have it cleaned (because f**king ew sharing eyeshadow), and apologise.. How have you got to age 22 and need it explained that you don't give away other people's possessions?

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Typical_Bid9173 − INFO: Do you find Katy way hotter than your girlfriend? Because the only plausible explanation for why you pulled this s**t is because you were thinking with the wrong head.. Also, you do realize that sharing makeup is a fast pass to an infection?

And what’s wrong with Katy lmao. “OMG look OP, so pwettyyyy, i want iiiiiiit”. That’s how toddlers ask for stuff lmao. YTA, i hope your girlfriend either dumps you or gets rid of something you love.

leavers2021 − Yta it wasnt your property to give away. It was your girlfriends. The fact that u thought u had the authority to give away her possession without asking her first is ridiculous.

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ForsakenTeaching756 − 100% yta.. 1. It wasn't yours to give. 2. Make up is damn expensive. 3. Again, it wasn't yours to give. All you had to so was say - yeah, it is nice. Gf should be able to tell you where she got it, etc.

EvadeNightShade − YTA! Don't offer another person's belongings to someone else. It was NOT yours to give!

VallisGratia − YTA. It's irrelevant whst the item was or its monetary value. It was NOT yours to offer! And guess why that guest did her act in front of you all? She counted on Jade feeling the social pressure of it all happening so openly would make her to be polite hostess and offer it.

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But what's even worse, like a fool, you wanted to impress the lady and act like big shot with someone else's property. It's sooooo easy to play generous and big boy with someone else's dime eh?. I bet if she would do the same to you, you wouldn't shrug it off either.

These Reddit quips are vibrant, but do they blend the truth? Was the woman’s gift a reckless blunder, or is Jade’s reaction too harsh?

This woman’s makeup blunder is a vivid clash of carelessness and consequence. Giving away Jade’s irreplaceable palette, then brushing off her anger, was a misstep that Reddit decried, though her eventual fix shows effort. As Jade’s silence persists, one question looms: can they restore trust? What would you do if your partner gifted your treasure? Share your stories and weigh in on this colorful drama!

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