AITAH for not buying a car just so I can pick up my sisters kids?

In a small town with no bus routes, a broken-down car sparked a family feud over childcare duties. The OP, jobless and fond of biking, agreed to pick up their sister’s kids from summer camp—until their car gave out. Faced with their single-mom sister’s plea to buy a new ride, the OP stood firm, unwilling to shell out for a favor they didn’t choose.

This Reddit tale pedals through duty, guilt, and boundaries—did the OP brake too hard, or steer clear of unfair demands?

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AITAH for not buying a car just so I can pick up my sisters kids?’

During the summers my sister has a hard time childcare since she’s a single mom and her kids summer camp only goes until 5pm. Since I’m the only one in the family that’s doesn’t work she asked me to pick up and watch her kids for an hour until she gets home around 6pm. I didn’t feel like I had a choice as my mom guilted me into it, so I agreed.

Yesterday my car crapped out. It wasn’t worth it to fix it. I was looking online for other cars yesterday night, but I realized that I really only used mine to pick up my sisters kids. I usually prefer biking wherever I want to go and have my groceries delivered. Given that I just don’t want to spend a bunch of money or take out a loan on a car that I’ll barely use.

Since there is no public transport here and it’s too far to reach the camp on my bike I texted my sister that I’m not going to be able to pick up her kids anymore. My sister got mad because she doesn’t know anyone else that can pick up her kids

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and when I was unable to pick the kids up yesterday because of my car she got charged a lot in late pick up fees. She says she can’t afford those fees everyday and since I had agreed to pick up the kids I have to get another car. I get its a last minute problem for her, but I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect me to just go out and buy a car.

Edit. Just to answer some repeated things in the comments. My sister doesn’t have her own car she can lend me. She shares a car with our mom. I don’t live with either of them and I support myself.

Family favors can skid into resentment when expectations outpace fairness. The OP’s sister, a single mom, relied on them for childcare, but her demand for a new car to continue the favor ignores the OP’s financial reality. The OP’s refusal protects their independence, while the sister’s frustration stems from real childcare struggles. Both have valid stakes, but the sister’s entitlement tips the scale.

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Family therapist Dr. Susan Newman, author of The Book of No, says, “Helping family is generous, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of your own stability.” Single parents face childcare gaps, with 30% citing unreliable support as a top stressor, per surveys. The OP’s biking lifestyle and lack of income make a car purchase impractical.

This reflects a broader issue: setting boundaries in family support. The OP could offer alternatives, like coordinating with other parents for pickups, while the sister explores camp extensions or subsidies. Open talks could ease guilt.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit’s crew revved up with sass and support, cheering the OP’s stand and roasting the sister’s car-buying demand. From snarky quips to practical jabs, the comments are a lively pit stop. Here’s what the community churned out:

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[Reddit User] − NTA. She can buy you a car if it’s that important to her

SnooWords4839 − NTA - You can't, you don't have a car.

ZarinZi − I'd just say 'I don't work so I can't afford to buy another car unless I get a job. But if I get a job, I won't be free to pick up your kids. So I guess you'll just have to figure it out.'

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AdvertisingFree8749 − NTA. It sucks for her but her kids aren't your responsibility. You were doing her a favor and now you can't. She needs to figure out other arrangements for getting her kids around, instead of relying on you.

2_old_for_this_spit − Wait  you were doing her a tremendous favor, and now you owe it to her to spend a lot of money so you can continue doing her that favor? NTA.

MonsterBugStudio − NTA, well, you can tell her she can always arrange a rental car for you to pick up the kids. To which she most definitely will tell you that you're insane and she can't afford that. Please be sympathetic with her😏. After all, you understand how f**king shite it is when you can't afford something, I mean a new car would be so awesome and you could even pick up her kid again, but you can't afford, such a bummer.

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JuliaX1984 − NTA No more free chauffeuring -she wants a driver, she buys the car and pays for your hours.

TopOfTheMorning_2Ya − In no way are you obligated to do a thing for your sister, her kids, or even your mother. That's some unhealthy family dynamics going on there that they pretend like you owe them anything. Your sister made her life choices and has to figure things out on her own.

Ordinary_Mortgage870 − NTA 'I'm not responsible for your kids. I agreed when I had a car. I don't have one now, and I cannot justify the expense since I only used it when picking up the kids. So I'm not getting another one. You're gonna need to find another solution. '

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Dull-Technician457 − How is OP going to manage a loan without employment?. What I'm guessing will happen is the kid's lose camp and sis dumps them on OP in the morning.

These Reddit takes are a zippy mix, but do they hit the road right? Is the OP a boundary-setting champ or too quick to bail?

This childcare clash shows family help has limits, like a car running on empty. The OP’s refusal to buy a new vehicle for their sister’s kids prioritizes their financial freedom, but it leaves their sister in a bind. A frank chat about other solutions—like shared rides or camp adjustments—could shift gears. What would you do if family expected you to foot the bill for their needs? Drop your thoughts below!

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