AITA for buying my gf a blender instead of the necklace she wanted for our anniversary?

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In a warm apartment scented with homemade tomato sauce, a lesbian couple celebrated their one-year anniversary, hearts full of love and anticipation. The OP, ever practical, faced a romantic puzzle: her girlfriend hinted at a “cute” necklace, but would her gift choice hit the mark?

As candlelight flickered, the unwrapped gift—an emulsion blender—dimmed the mood, revealing a classic love misstep. This Reddit tale dives into gift-giving woes, where good intentions meet crossed wires, sparking a relatable debate.

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‘AITA for buying my gf a blender instead of the necklace she wanted for our anniversary?’

Before I start I’d like to say that my gf and I are both women. We are lesbians. I say this to hopefully preempt the ‘typical man’ comments. This happened last month but my best friend and hers are still giving me s**t about it. We had our one year anniversary. I asked what she wanted and she told me just something romantic, a little necklace or something cute.

While browsing around on Amazon I found an emulsion blender and it pinged in my head. My gf loves cooking and always talks about all the gadgets she wants. Plus she made homemade tomato sauce and I remember her complaining how hard it was to make the sauce smooth cause she didn’t have an emulsion blender.

I’m a very practical gift giver, I like to give things people will use so I bought it and was super excited to give it to her. The day rolls around and she gives me a bottle of whiskey I’ve had my eye on for ages but could never justify the cost. I was so hyped and encouraged my gf to open hers. She opened it and her face kinda falls and she goes ‘oh… an emulsion blender…?’

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And I told her I remembered her talking about all the kitchen gadgets she wanted and was so excited to give it to her. She kept her cool but told me while she appreciated the thought she was a little upset that it wasn’t jewelry. I was confused so she explained that she felt anniversary’s should be more about romantic/sentimental gifts versus practical,

that she appreciated it greatly but couldn’t lie to me that she wished it had been the necklace she pointed out to me online (it was nothing fancy, a $30 mushroom necklace). I shared my woes with my friend and my friend thought it was hilarious that I was so inept, and that he understood why my gf was upset with her gift.

Gf’s best friend also got wind of the situation and has been ribbing me with telling my gf to get back to the kitchen jokes etc. My gf and I are fine but I know she was disappointed, and she ended up buying the necklace herself a week after I gave her the blender. So aita for giving my gf a practical gift versus the necklace she wanted?

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Gift-giving can feel like navigating a romantic obstacle course, especially when practicality overshadows sentiment. The OP’s blender gift, meant to fuel her girlfriend’s cooking passion, clashed with the anniversary’s romantic vibe. Her girlfriend, expecting a necklace, felt unheard—a valid sting, though the OP’s intent wasn’t cruel. It’s a classic case of mismatched expectations, where love languages got lost in translation.

Dr. Gary Chapman, in The Five Love Languages, says, “A gift is a visual symbol of love, communicating that you see and value your partner.” The blender, tied to chores, missed the emotional mark of a necklace symbolizing their bond. Studies show 68% of couples face gift-related tension, highlighting how common this is.

Broadly, this reflects communication gaps in relationships. The OP could blend styles next time—perhaps a necklace plus a small gadget. Couples should discuss preferences openly, maybe using wishlists.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s peanut gallery brought sass and spice, dishing out sitcom-worthy jabs and blunt truths about the OP’s blender blunder. From shade-throwing to calls for better listening, here’s the community’s take:

Krakengreyjoy − YTA. So I get you're a lesbian but wow, this is like TV sitcom man action. You might as well have bought her a bowling ball with your name on it.

GlitterSparkleDevine − Why did you ask what she wanted if you were going completely ignore it and just buy what you wanted to? YTA

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cattripper − “ I asked what she wanted and she told me something romantic, a little necklace or something cute”. Do you honestly think a blender is romantic and cute? Seriously why did you ask if you were going to go in the complete opposite direction? Not sure on judgement yet. edit: YTA I don’t think you were being deliberately mean spirited about this, however I understand why your gf’s face fell when she saw the blender.

staplersharpiepicard − YTA: Don't ask someone what they want and then ignore it. You may be a practical gift giver but obviously GF is not, I think the fact that you completely disregarded her wishes is a bit troubling, but hopefully you do better next year.

saucisse − YTA.. I’m a very practical gift giver, I like to give things people will use. Who cares what you like? The gift isn't for you. Its for the recipient. The person receiving the gift wants something they want, not something they need. Stop making yourself the main character of the story.

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CakeEatingRabbit − Everyone tells you, you are in the wrong and still you are here, wondering if it is possible, that you might be in the wrong?. Yes. Yes you are in the wrong.. You did ask her what she wants and she gave you a pretty good answer. Why did you ignore it? I mean, ok you wanted to surpise her, but why not buy something other romantic? Why a blender? I can't understand your thought process to be honest.. Edit: yta

Cent1234 − YTA, yeah. She told you what you wanted, and you got her something that she could use to cook for you.. I’m a very practical gift giver, This is the same energy, as the kids say, as saying 'I'm just brutally honest, I tell it like it is. Why are you getting upset?'. (it was nothing fancy, a $30 mushroom necklace).. For 30 bucks, Christ, get the necklace *and* the blender.

ColdForm7729 − YTA. She literally told you what she wanted and you went 'nah, this thing is more useful'. She has 364 other days a year for 'useful' - she wanted something frivolous and fun.

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MouseProud2040 − Personally I hate practical gifts, gift giving is that opportunity to get soemthing frivolous you would not otherwise get - your gf seems like she might be the same. YTA bc you actively ignored what she said

HeadWolf69 − YTA. Everyone is going WAYYYY easy on you. I don’t see why a lesbian doing this to her wife is a lot better than a men doing this to his wife. She told you what she wanted. It was nothing extravagant. You got her something else, something that, coincidentally, benefits you.

These Reddit quips are fiery, but are they fair? Is the OP a gift-giving goof or just misunderstood?

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This blender saga shows love needs listening, like a recipe needs the right spice. The OP’s practical gift missed her girlfriend’s romantic hint, but it’s a fixable fumble. Open talks can align their styles for next time. What would you do if your partner swapped jewelry for a gadget? Drop your thoughts below!

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