AITA because I didn’t tell my roommates I own the house and letting them evict themselves?

In a charming old house, a 28-year-old woman tends her grandmother’s garden, her dog romping among raspberry bushes planted decades ago. But the peace is shattered when her tenants, a couple leasing the upper floor, boldly suggest she find a new place to live so they can take the whole house. Instead of revealing she’s the owner, she plays a sly card: a 50% rent hike for the ground floor, nudging them toward the exit.

This isn’t just about rent—it’s a tale of legacy, boundaries, and quiet revenge. Her parents call it mean, but she’s guarding her home. Readers are hooked: was her rent-hike gambit a brilliant move, or a touch too harsh? The backyard drama demands a verdict.

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‘AITA because I didn’t tell my roommates I own the house and letting them evict themselves?’

This homeowner shared her tenant tussle on Reddit, detailing the couple’s overreach and her calculated response. Here’s her original post, digging into the roots of the conflict.

I (f28) own a house. I wish I didn't because I inherited it from my grandmother whom I would prefer to have back. It is an older house in a mature neighborhood in my city. It has a huge yard, a garden, and a detached garage large enough for a couple of cars and an RV. It also has an in-law suite where I live.

I started living there when I started university and I love it. My exit leads to the back yard and my garden. After the estate was all settled I was left with a little money and a fully paid off house. I am the baby of all the cousins and I was an oops baby. I am 17 years younger than the next youngest.

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I decided that I would keep living in my area and just take on short term renters to help me cove expenses. I also planned to allow any of my nieces and nephews who went to school n my city live with me. So far only my one nephew has and he was well behaved and moved out when he finished school.

I found a couple that wanted the entire upper floor for one year while they got settled from moving across the country for work. No big deal. I have three niblings graduating the next year and only one might go to school in my city. So I let my property manager set up a one year lease. My city does not have a minimum rental increase. This is important.

So after six months the problems start. The wife got pregnant. And they like the house. They have not found a house they want to buy. They want to keep living here. But they don't want a roommate. So one day the husband catches me and says that he has talked to the property manager about renting the entire house and that I might want to start looking elsewhere for a place to live.

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I check with my guy and yup he wants the whole house. So I talk to my lawyer because I don't want any problems. As long as the increase is one year after tenancy and I give three months notice there is literally no limit on the rental increase. So I tell my property manager to raise the rent for the ground level 50%. They have five months notice of a rental increase so I am in the clear.

Now I can hear them fighting about having to find a new place. Which I don't get because I was clear in the lease that it was only for one year. And I gave them a good price because they had excellent credit and rental history. The real estate market in my city isn't crazy. They should be able to find something to buy in time.

Or at the very least somewhere else to rent. I have talked to my parents about this and they said I'm being sort of mean. I don't think I am. I have a plan for my home and it does not involve me moving out. I have a garden that I worked with my grandmother my entire life.

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I have a yard with raspberry bushes my grandfather planted for his kids and grandkids. My dog likes having a yard to play in. I could have told them it's my home but it's not their business.. AITA?

Owning a home doesn’t mean bending to tenants’ whims, and this woman stood her ground. The couple, leasing her upper floor, assumed they could claim the entire house, urging her to move out. Her response—a 50% rent hike for the ground floor, where she lives—was a legal maneuver to protect her space without disclosing her ownership. Their complaints about moving ring hollow, given the one-year lease and five months’ notice.

This reflects landlord-tenant power dynamics. A 2023 study in Housing Studies found that clear boundaries, often through third-party managers, reduce tenant overreach in shared properties. Her use of a property manager and lawyer aligns with this, preserving distance and authority.

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Real estate attorney Susan Green says, “Landlords living on-site benefit from anonymity to avoid entitlement or disputes”. Her insight supports the woman’s secrecy and strategic increase, though a direct “no” might have avoided their stress. The tenants’ audacity, not her actions, sparked their predicament.

She could clarify lease terms with future tenants to prevent repeats. The couple should respect the lease’s limits.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit plowed into this landlord drama with takes as juicy as a ripe raspberry. Here’s a roundup of their thoughts, sprinkled with humor—because even tenant feuds need a chuckle.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. When the husband told you to start looking, he told you exactly what he’d do if the roles were reversed. He’d kick you to the curb. Funny that they did not even respect your seniority and wanted to kick you out of the house you occupied beforehand.

You can get rid of them with no guilt. Also, the fact that she’s pregnant is of no importance here. She can manage her stress by herself. Not your problem. Edit: wow thank you everyone for all the awards and points and stuff!!! I didn’t expect my comment to have such impact.

[Reddit User] − NTA and for y'all renters who don't understand. 1. If you own a property and still living there, you absolutely DO NOT want the other renters to know you own the place. That's a nightmare and headache. Op did right by creating distance with a PM.

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2. With COVID, LLs are spooked about ppl overstaying. Op referred to their lawyer and the LAWYER said to go the route of increasing rent so dramatically. Op wants them out with no chance of a judge saying blah blah homeless blah blah. They aren't getting evicted. They can stay, just have to pay more.. 3. NTA

4. OP doesn't owe the tenants the knowledge that they own the place. If they told the husband, no a situation is created that OP cannot avoid since they are living in the same place. You ever had a roommate or fam you're angry with but can't avoid? Imagine that.. NTA..

Edit:. 1. Sorry some got downvoted for asking questions.. I'll clear up a few things since 10 hours later, there still seems to be confusion. Source: I'm a landlord and I also worked heavily with renters when I was a realtor (not active now but still hold my license)

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A. Most people do not look up property owners. 90% of the population probably don't know where to get the info or how to accurately search the data. Most people live in an apartment complex or Corp owned property. So we're 'trained' to think oh, ACME owns this. You renting a house, your behavior won't change in that, you'll think, oh ACME owns this.

B. OP has a lawyer. Any good lawyer would have wrapped that property in a trust, established in Wyoming even if the house is in NYC. Why, asset protection. I'd be shocked if the house is in OP name or easily tied to her. And established in WY for a reason instead of the home state. Ask me how I know? I got lawyers.

C. Someone said it well. OP presented dilemmas to the tenants, not a problem. A problem (no renewal) has a solution (I'll just overstay the lease) whereas a dilemma (stay and pay 50% more OR leave) has 2 problems with no solutions. Hence, why she's now hearing the tenants argue.

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D. Anecdotes are great but most people should not be LLs. A lot of people fell into the house hacking, self included. Only to find that being a PM while living with your tenants is a f**king nightmare.. Hey, toilets clogged with my s**t and tampons, can you plunge it? Lights out, I need a new bulb.

Or, the envy, pettiness and unpleasantness when they know you own the place and they don't. Then you start getting slumlord comments, capitalism eat the rich s**t. You're getting rich off me. Imagine coming home to that everyday?

Affordable housing is tough to get. If you find a property that you like and it's affordable to you, do nothing to make the owner not want to rent to you. And that concludes my TED talk. Thank you for the upvotes but please don't downvoted people who ask honest questions.

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FluffyRelease6637 − NTA. You could’ve told the guy it’s your house, but tbh like you said, it’s not really his business. I’m honestly shocked at the audacity to tell you to prepare to leave just because he mentioned to the property manager about potentially renting the whole house.

What if you were a resident but your lease was longer term? This is just odd on so many levels. Don’t get why your family is against you either. You gave the tenants plenty of notice it wouldn’t be possible, so they can find a place that better suits their needs.

PoppysMelody − Dude he came to you “you are going to wanna find somewhere to live.” 😂 you said “bet.” And I’m living for it. NTA.

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getstrong − NTA. The audacity of your tenant to just tell you to move out. Him just assuming that he somehow had the right to push you out is A**holish. You didn’t cause the fight between him and his wife. If they want a bigger space they can search for a new rental an move out. They have 5 months which is more than enough time to find a new place.

PleaseCoffeeMe − NTA. Your renters entitled themselves into a move, or a nice increase in revenue for you. Stupid games, stupid prizes.

imtooldforthishison − NTA. you handled it better than I would have. But curious why your property manager won't just say 'No.'

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fatale_x − I think what people don't understand is that OP is ok with the couple staying on the upper floors. Just not with them renting the whole house as she needs the ground floor for her and her family just in case they need a place to stay.. So by raising the rent on the ground floor, the couple can either decide.

1. renew their lease for the upper floor only. 2. move out and find a new place. I think OP made a good decision.. NTA.

BaronsDad − NTA. You hired a property manager for a reason. Letting people know you're the homeowner potentially creates a lot of problems. They have plenty of notice. They'll move out soon enough, and this will all be forgotten.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. i wish i had my grandma back too, i miss her everyday.

These Reddit quips are ripe, but do they harvest the truth? Was the woman’s rent hike a masterstroke, or could she have been more direct?

This woman’s story is a vibrant patch of family legacy, tenant audacity, and clever retaliation. Her rent-hike ploy to keep her grandmother’s house, without revealing her ownership, was a bold defense of her roots, cheered by Reddit but questioned by her parents. As the tenants scramble, the question lingers: did she plant the perfect solution? What would you do when tenants try to uproot your home? Drop your stories and weigh in on this garden-fresh clash!

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