AITA for not telling my section head that my fan was in my car?

n the sweltering heat of an office, where the hum of fans should bring relief, a small personal fan became the center of an unexpected tug-of-war. A worker, desperate to beat the heat with a 5-inch desk fan, found their respite hijacked by a section head who kept claiming it for herself. Frustrated, they opted to stash the fan in their car, dodging the question when asked, only to sneak it back during lunch—until the boss caught on.

This tale weaves a quirky clash of personal comfort and workplace politics, pulling readers into a sticky situation where a little breeze turned into big drama. It’s a story that resonates with anyone who’s fought to keep their own space in a shared environment.

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‘AITA for not telling my section head that my fan was in my car?’

It was really hot at work today and yesterday, so yesterday I bought in my 5 inch fan to sit on my desk and blast at my face, which really helps. I know it doesn't bring the temp down, but it makes it ok to work in the heat. The section head saw that I had it and asked if she could borrow it for a bit, and I didn't want to but she was overheating so I said yes.

When I asked for it back about half an hour later she said that she still needed it as she was going to be on a call and had to be focussed and not sweaty so I said OK, but I was really getting hot by this point. After the call ended, which took another hour, I came to fetch the fan and she looked really annoyed, but I took it back.

Then she said she needed to get some work done and so needed a fan, and so made me give it back to her, and then she kept it for the rest of the day. I was quite annoyed and really hot by the end of the day and by the time she gave it back to me it had run out of battery and it uses the old USB port so I couldn't plug it in.

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So I charged it last night and today I decided to leave it in my car as I didn't want to bring it up just for someone else to use I guess, and she asked if I had it and I said no. Then later she left for lunch and I was hot again so I went and got it and cooled down - it was really great.

Then when she came back she said that she thought I had said I didn't have it and then I said that's right it was in my car and she said that I should have said that and I think I was allowed to say I didn't have it. Anyway she basically took it then saying she needed it for a call like she did yesterday.

Also there aren't really any shops around the office only a sandwich bar so you couldn't really go and get one although we do have Amazon deliveries. So anyway I don't want to bring in my fan just for someone else to use, so I think I'll stop or hide it, but I don't think I was wrong to not say it was in my car. AITAH?

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This fan fiasco highlights workplace boundaries and assertiveness. The worker’s initial generosity in lending the fan was kind, but the section head’s persistent borrowing crossed into entitlement. Dr. Amy Gallo, a workplace conflict expert, notes, “Personal items become shared resources when boundaries aren’t set, leading to resentment”. The worker’s decision to withhold the fan’s location was a passive response to this overreach.

The heat issue itself suggests a broader workplace problem—unaddressed environmental conditions. OSHA guidelines recommend temperatures below 85°F for comfort, yet the lack of action implies management neglect. The section head’s insistence, despite the worker’s discomfort, reflects a power imbalance, though her needs during calls were valid.

The worker’s avoidance tactic—lying about the fan’s whereabouts—stemmed from an inability to say no, a common workplace struggle. Dr. Gallo advises, “Direct communication, like a firm ‘no,’ prevents escalation.” The section head’s annoyance suggests she expected deference, but the worker’s ownership of the fan justifies their stance.

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Moving forward, the worker should practice asserting boundaries, perhaps offering to help the section head order her own fan. If the heat persists, escalating to HR or management about building conditions could address the root cause. This episode underscores the need for clear personal limits in professional settings.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit community had mixed reactions, with many leaning toward the worker needing to assert themselves. Some labeled both parties at fault, criticizing the worker’s lack of spine and the section head’s entitlement. Others defended the worker’s right to their fan, urging them to say no and suggesting the boss buy her own.

The consensus encouraged the worker to grow bolder, with creative ideas like sending the section head a fan purchase link. Redditors saw the worker’s lie as a symptom of poor boundary-setting, while sympathizing with their heat-induced frustration. The advice was a push toward confidence in reclaiming personal space.

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BertiepopsJG − Use your words.. 'No. This is my fan, not yours. I'm using it. If you want a fan, buy one'. Essentially, grow a spine.

poweller65 − ESH she needs to stop taking your fan and you need to grow a spine and tell her no. Lying is not the answer

Zestyclose_Mix_7650 − Repeat after me:. No.. Use as needed.

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IAmTAAlways − Sorry man, you dropped the ball here. She didn't 'make' you give her the fan. You just didn't say no. She can't just take your property no matter who she is. You should've never given it to her in the first place and left it at home if you can't say no to another adult. Why is nobody doing anything about the heat in the building? ESH

EdenCapwell − NTA but learn to say no. Or simply say, 'I'm using it. But you can get them at Walmart, Amazon, or Target if you need your own.'

rmric0 − NTA. She is perfectly capable of purchasing her own fan, and now that she has seen the value of it she should do so

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Champi_Feuille − ESH - I'm sorry but are you a doormat or...? No is a complete sentence. Tell her this is your fan and you bought it. If she wants to use one all day then she can buy her own.. Grow a spine dude, don't let her walk all over you.

cupcakeprincess29 − Text her. ‘Hey, coworker! Here is the link to the fan I have. I thought since you’ve found it so useful, you might want a similar one for your desk!’ Next time she demands to borrow yours, ask her when hers is supposed to arrive.

Spare_Necessary_810 − Don’t be silly OP, just tell her no, sorry l need it , turn away and carry on working .

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ElleArr26 − Tell her to buy her own fan.

This hot office tale blows a breeze of workplace lessons our way. The worker’s fan became a battleground for boundaries, and their quiet rebellion was a start, though not the final stitch. Saying no could cool the tension. Have you ever had to defend your personal items at work? Share your stories—let’s fan out this debate together!

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