AITA for not making a stuffy for my dad’s baby with his affair partner when I made them for both my younger siblings and other family?

A quiet room hums with the weight of unspoken grief, where a 17-year-old girl threads a needle through fabric, crafting memories in the shape of stuffed animals for loved ones lost. Each stitch carries the love for her mother and siblings, now resting in graves marked by her creations. But when her father, fresh from a years-long affair, asks for a stuffy for his new baby, the needle stops, and old wounds reopen.

The girl’s refusal sparks a family firestorm, with her dad pleading for sibling love and her standing firm in her pain. Caught between betrayal and expectation, she’s wrestling with a choice that feels like erasing her mother’s memory. Readers are pulled into this raw clash: should she honor her father’s new family, or protect her heart’s fragile stitches? The drama begs for a verdict.

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‘AITA for not making a stuffy for my dad’s baby with his affair partner when I made them for both my younger siblings and other family?’

This teen turned to Reddit to share her story, laying bare the pain of loss and the sting of her father’s actions. Here’s her original post, diving into the heart of the conflict.

I (17F) don't want this to take up too much of anyone's time so let me explain quickly. My grandparents bought me this kit that lets you make stuffys/stuffed animals/plushes or whatever you call them. I made loads for myself at the time and for both my younger siblings when my mom was pregnant.

Both my younger siblings died at birth or before it so they were put in a protective casing and they're now on my mom and siblings grave. My mom died a little over a year ago from cancer. She was sick for a year before. A day after my mom died my brother (20M) and I found out that dad had been with another woman when mom died and that he'd had a 3 year affair with this woman.

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The first two or three weeks after mom died were rough for all those reasons and I went to live with another family member because I couldn't look at my dad. He tried to stop me and has attempted to keep in touch but I went as no contact as I could while still being under 18. My brother is full no contact with dad.

Dad married his affair partner and now they're expecting a baby. He reached out to my family member and said he was hoping I'd make the baby a stuffy like I did for my siblings. He said this baby is my sibling too even if I don't want that to be true and that it would be so kind to let the baby feel loved by me.

I'm not making it and my dad has realized that since it's been several weeks now. So he reached out again and said if I can make them for other babies born close to me I should do it for this baby too and reminded my family member that again this baby will be my new sibling. My family member told dad it's my decision and my answer is clear.

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My dad started a fight with the family member and said I needed to find a way to love and care for the baby because they don't deserve both older living siblings refusing to know them. But I don't want to know the baby or make them a stuffy. I don't love this baby. I don't care about them either.

There won't ever be a time where I'll want any kind of relationship even a distantly friendly one. That's just not in the future. But there's still a chance that not making the stuffy makes me an AH. So AITA?

Grief and betrayal can turn family ties into a tangled knot. This teen’s refusal to make a stuffed animal for her father’s new baby stems from deep wounds—her mother’s death, her siblings’ loss, and her father’s affair. He sees the stuffy as a bridge to family unity, but she views it as a betrayal of her mom’s memory, especially given his manipulative pressure.

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The issue reflects the broader challenge of navigating blended families amid unresolved grief. A 2022 study in Family Process notes that infidelity can fracture family trust, particularly for children processing loss. The father’s insistence risks further alienating his daughter.

Dr. Kenneth Doka, a grief expert, says, “Grief is personal; forcing connection can deepen pain rather than heal it”. His insight underscores the teen’s need to set boundaries. Her father’s push for inclusion ignores her emotional reality.

She could maintain her stance while expressing her feelings calmly to her family member, avoiding escalation. Her father should respect her grief’s pace.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit jumped into this emotional storm with takes as sharp as a sewing needle. Here’s a roundup of their thoughts, laced with a pinch of humor—because even heavy family drama needs a light touch.

CreepyStable6192 − NTA. Sounds like you made a decision and no matter how much your father rants and raves, he should know that everything is a consequence of his actions.. Good luck OP.

limpminqdragon − Would the child even be aware of the other stuffies you made? How would they even know they were excluded? This has nothing to do with the baby. This is your father desperate for forgiveness he doesn’t deserve.

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RawStomper − NTA. Parents don't get a free pass on the consequences of making terrible decisions just because they're your parents. You're aloud to make your own choices, you don't owe your dad a stuffy just because he's your dad. He made his choices, and you're making yours.

rojita369 − NTA. Your dad is the reason women who are diagnosed with cancer or other serious illnesses get pamphlets informing them that their spouse may leave them. F that guy and his AP. Yes, the baby is innocent, but it’s no family of yours.

Crazy_Breadfruit4535 − I’m sorry for your multiple losses. I hope you are in a safe place where you can properly grieve. You are not the AH here because your birth father is not respecting your boundaries. He is the adult and he should realize that his actions have consequences.

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He is only thinking about himself right now and not your needs. I’m sorry you have a birth parent who is like that. He is most likely reaching out for free child care instead of reconnecting with a daughter. I hope you have a supportive circle to help you heal as you continue to transition to adulthood. Good luck and stay true to your boundaries.

Avalon_Angel525 − Your dad told on himself: 'You need to find a way to love *and care for the baby*.'. He doesn't want a stuffy. He wants a babysitter.. NTA.

SeriousDay5968 − Follow your brothers lead and go no contact with him.

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WinterFront1431 − Yeah I'd tell family member to stop engaging with him at this point.. You don't need to see or speak to him,ever.

SerenaCalico − NTA: you’re a much nicer person than me. I’d give him the stuffy… made out of custom made fabric that says “product of a**ltery”, “My mom’s a Homewrecker”, “My dad’s a spineless cheat”.

ghjkl098 − NTA Whether the baby has a stuffy from you will make zero difference to the baby. This is about your father emotionally manipulating you. Don’t play his games.

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These Reddit opinions are fiery, but do they cut through the pain? Is the teen right to hold her ground, or is her dad’s plea for the baby fair?

This teen’s story is a heart-wrenching tapestry of grief, betrayal, and family expectations. Her refusal to craft a stuffy for her father’s new baby isn’t just about fabric—it’s about protecting her heart from a painful past. Reddit cheers her boundaries, but the tension lingers: can family heal after such a fracture? What would you do in her shoes, balancing loss and new beginnings? Share your stories and weigh in on this emotional standoff!

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