AITAH for leaving a trip early cuz I was the only one paying for everything “since I don’t have student loans”?

A weekend road trip with friends promised fun and adventure, but for one woman, it turned into a lesson in entitlement. Driving her own car and covering gas, snacks, and tolls, she expected her college-aged pals to split costs. Instead, they leaned on her loan-free status, branding her “stingy” when she pushed back.

Frustrated by their freeloading, she packed up and drove home, leaving them stranded. This Reddit saga dives into the clash of friendship and fairness, where a single comment about “rich girl energy” sparked a dramatic exit.

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‘AITAH for leaving a trip early cuz I was the only one paying for everything “since I don’t have student loans”?’

Went on a weekend road trip with 3 friends (we’re all in our 20s). I work full-time and don’t have student loans paid my way through school. The others are still in collage or paying off debt. We took my car since i was the only one comfy driving long distance.

Right from the jump I ended up covering all the gas, snacks, tolls, parking everything. When I asked if we we’re gonna split it, one of them goes 'you don’t have loans, you can afford it' thought it was a joke at first, but nah they doubled down and started saying I was being stingy and had “rich girl energy”

By day two i was over it… told them I was done packed my stuff and drove home alone. They were stuck there and had to figure out their own way back. Now they’re blowin up the group chat saying i 'ruined the trip' and “don’t understand what it’s like to struggle” AITAH?

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A road trip should bond friends, not break them, but this story shows how financial assumptions can derail relationships. The woman’s friends exploited her debt-free status, expecting her to fund their fun while dismissing her request for fairness. Their “rich girl” jab and refusal to chip in reveal a sense of entitlement that shattered group trust.

This scenario reflects broader issues in peer dynamics. A 2023 Journal of Consumer Culture study notes that 35% of young adults report financial disputes in friendships, often tied to perceived wealth disparities. Financial psychologist Dr. Brad Klontz, in a 2024 Forbes article, states, “Money assumptions strain relationships when boundaries aren’t set.” Klontz’s insight highlights the friends’ error—assuming her financial stability meant she owed them support.

The woman’s decision to leave, while abrupt, was a stand for self-respect. Her friends’ refusal to contribute, despite her driving and initial payments, ignored basic fairness. Their post-trip accusations further show a lack of accountability. She wasn’t obligated to subsidize their vacation, especially without prior agreement. The group’s entitlement likely stemmed from envy or misunderstanding of her hard-earned stability.

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To move forward, the woman could calmly explain her boundaries, though the friends’ reactions suggest they may not listen. Seeking new, respectful companions, as commenters advised, is wise. Group trips require clear financial agreements upfront, like splitting costs evenly. This story underscores that friendship thrives on mutual respect, not exploitation.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s response was fiery, cheering the woman for ditching her freeloading friends. Commenters slammed the group’s entitlement, calling their refusal to pay and “stingy” accusations manipulative. They praised her for standing up for herself, noting that true friends don’t exploit financial differences.

Many shared stories of similar mooching, urging her to find better companions. Suggestions included setting clear trip budgets in the future or cutting contact altogether. The consensus was clear: her hard work didn’t make her a bank, and leaving was a bold move to reclaim respect.

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Old-Eagle-5041 − They’re just mad because they can’t use you anymore. You did your struggling early on by working and paying your way through college. They did not. That’s not your fault. It’s not up to you to fund your friends’ vacations. If they can’t afford to pay their own way, then they shouldn’t be going on vacation in the first place.

Leaving them there was a little petty, but I am the queen of petty, and they asked for it, so I approve. Anyone who is there because you’re paying their way, and you didn’t agree to this beforehand, deserves what they got for being so selfish and rude. The amount of entitlement they show towards you and your money is ridiculous. Time to find new friends.

Alternative_Rest5150 − NTA even a little bit. You don't spend other people's money.

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No_Atmosphere_3702 − NTA. They premeditated to take advantage of you. What a friend red flag. Do they think you're their sugar mommy ?

dastardly_troll422 − I’m someone who never bums from people and I have learned to recognize irresponsible broke people at twenty paces. I was always getting invited by these two co workers to go on vacations with them? When I really didn’t know them all that well?

They wanted to go to Vegas - which I hate - I said I’d think about it - I said well did you make the reservations nope said they couldn’t *because between all of the women going all of them had such bad credit they only had prepaid gift card that didn’t work to put deposits down for hotels in Vegas* ohhhh!!!

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That’s why me and my good credit became their instant bestie! Got it! Explained to these goofy gals I didn’t like Vegas and one friend of the gal actually left me a voicemail saying they were depending on me to make the reservations so they could celebrate a friend’s engagement? Again - NO, ladies. I can only imagine all the charges to the room (held by my card) they’d help themselves to.

Your_Daddy_1972 − NTA So because they CHOSE to take out student loans, you're now the 'Bank of OP'? Yeah no. You don't go on a trip that you can't afford. PERIOD. And to say 'you don't understand the struggle' when you worked your way through school is ridiculous

fkoff09 − Sounds like the end to a s**tty friendship. Don't look back

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Joshualevitard − If you drive / the others pay gas. this is just basic.

12th_MaMa − NTA. I'm honestly so glad you left them there.

Informal_Present9998 − What the heck. Get new friends babe. I have wealthier friends than me, I never act like they owe me anything. That’s really appalling behaviour and it makes me wonder whether they are just taking advantage and ganging up against you.

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Impossible_Town_7258 − YNTA💯. They know what they are doing, they thought it's okay to use you. You did the right thing 💯, hope you are doing good now. And if you are feeling stressed just leave the group They aren't your friends when they haven't informed the trip financial situation and try to use you.. just because you don't have a student loan...

This road trip fiasco proves that friendship falters when fairness is ignored. The woman’s solo exit, sparked by her friends’ entitled freeloading, was a powerful stand for her worth. Money shouldn’t dictate bonds, but respect should. Share your stories of friendship dealbreakers or trip dramas below—let’s keep the conversation rolling!

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