AITA for snapping when someone rubbed my belly and implied I might be pregnant?

Imagine a lively office fiesta, tacos sizzling and chatter buzzing, until an uninvited hand grazes your belly with a cheeky pregnancy quip. For one woman, this wasn’t just a fleeting annoyance—it was a violation that sparked a fiery retort. Her coworker’s bold assumption, paired with an unwelcome touch, turned a free lunch into a battleground over bodily autonomy. Now, with her boss’s raised eyebrow and whispers of overreaction, she’s left wondering if her rage was justified or if she’s the office villain.

This tale is a spicy mix of workplace woes and personal boundaries, as relatable as a crowded lunch line. Who hasn’t cringed at an overstepping comment? Her sharp comeback pulls us into a drama that’s equal parts infuriating and empowering, begging the question: when does a “joke” become a job for HR?

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‘AITA for snapping when someone rubbed my belly and implied I might be pregnant?’

This Reddit post dishes out a cafeteria clash that’s as bold as a jalapeño. Here’s the woman’s account of her coworker’s boundary-busting moment:

So today, my office building was throwing a little fiesta-themed event and they offered free lunch in the cafeteria. A bunch of us went down to grab food. While I was standing in line, I opened the Nest camera app to check on something and saw a little bird that’s been showing up outside every day. I laughed and casually said to no one in particular, “This bird comes to visit me every day.”

Right after I said that, a coworker (who has made pregnancy comments toward me before) came up, rubbed my belly without asking, and said something like, “Maybe it’s because you’ve got a baby bird on the way.” I felt this immediate wave of rage—like why are we still doing this in 2025?? So I said, “Don’t be wishing that kind of bad luck on me.”

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She looked super taken aback, and my boss (who overheard) also looked at me like I’d just said something offensive. It felt like I was the crazy one for being upset. But I didn’t ask to be touched, I’m not pregnant, and I really don’t like people making those kinds of comments about my body.. Now I’m wondering—AITA for reacting the way I did?.

EDIT: I am not overweight, which only makes it weirder cause I do not look pregnant. There’s a couple of rays of sunshine trying to make me feel bad about my weight… maybe I need to be more specific, my coworker did not do this out of my “looks” that’s why I’m concerned cause even tho yes I’m not the fittest person, I know I don’t look pregnant.

A festive office lunch shouldn’t double as a free-for-all on someone’s body, but this coworker’s belly rub and pregnancy jab crossed a clear line. The woman’s snap-back, calling it “bad luck,” was a visceral response to an invasive act, especially given the coworker’s history of similar comments. Her boss’s shocked look suggests a workplace culture that might downplay such breaches, but the coworker’s touch—unconsented and personal—was the real offense. The woman’s not pregnant, nor does she appear so, making the comment doubly presumptuous.

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This incident reflects broader workplace boundary issues. A 2021 Journal of Occupational Health Psychology study found 30% of women report unwanted physical contact at work, often tied to gender stereotypes. The coworker’s fixation on pregnancy may stem from outdated norms, but it’s no excuse.

Workplace expert Alison Green advises, “Unwanted touching or personal comments, even if ‘joking,’ warrant a firm response and HR involvement if they persist”. The woman’s reaction was instinctive, not unprofessional, but documenting the incident with HR, as Redditors suggest, could prevent escalation. A calm, “Please don’t touch me or comment on my body” might set future boundaries.

She could also request a team training on workplace respect to shift the culture.

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Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit’s posse swooped in with takes hotter than a habanero! Here’s what the community tossed into this boundary-busting brawl:

JeepersCreepers74 − NTA. Your boss was just giving their initial reaction to one employee verbally snapping at the other, I wouldn't worry about that unless it is followed up with comments confirming they believe you are in the wrong. A lot was happening in the moment, I think you should follow up with an email to your boss, coworker, and HR so your feelings are clear.

Namely, '*I want to explain why I raised my voice to coworker today as it is usually not my style to snap at others. In the past, coworker has made many comments to me suggesting I might be or will be pregnant--I am not pregnant and I don't appreciate such speculation about my personal life or private reproductive issues at the office.

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I also found it jarring when coworker rubbed my abdomen today without warning or consent, again indicating I was pregnant. I realize some may think these things are no big deal and assume others feel the same way. Thus, I want to be perfectly clear that I do not welcome the comments or the touching.*'

Confident_Set4216 − NTA. Why is she so obsessed with the idea of you being pregnant? She needs therapy. Start recording every encounter with this crazy ass and bring it to HR.

wesmorgan1 − NTA and you need to put a stop to this as soon as possible. If you haven't already told this person to stop their behavior (both spoken and physical), do so in a calm, clear manner. If they continue, it's time to bring management/HR into the picture. (If you think it necessary, you can ask your boss to present when you tell the person to stop their behavior, so that there are no questions later about how you handled the matter.)

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bassoonprune − NTA. Don’t touch people’s bodies. Don’t comment about people’s bodies. These are good life rules, and imperative office rules. I’d be chatting with HR immediately if I were you.

rogue1206 − NTA I hate it when people touch other people w/o permission or assume pregnancy. My petty self would have started crying and loudly talking about my infertility issues.

Chocolattemnmss − NTA and your boss was probably mortified that she touched you. You should report her to HR since she touched you without your consent and made you feel uncomfortable.

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Ulquiorra1312 − Nta. 1 passive aggressive fat shaming. 2 s**ual harassment. 3 a**ault. 4 creepy touching.

ButItSaysOnline − NTA. No touching. And no assuming a woman is pregnant until she tells you or you see the baby crowning.

pacalaga − Normalize slapping people's hands away. And report said coworker to HR.

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OldSaggytitBiscuits − NTA, unwelcome touching is just that, UNWELCOME. That's so gross of someone to do that Contact HR immediately!

These opinions are zesty, but do they slice through the issue or just add salsa to the drama?

This woman’s fiesta fiasco is a sizzling blend of rage, rights, and workplace wrongs, showing how a single touch can spark a firestorm. Her coworker’s overstep, met with a sharp retort, leaves us debating: was she too harsh, or justifiably human? In an era where boundaries should be sacred, this story hits home. Should she brush it off or take it to HR? What would you do if someone crossed your personal line at work? Drop your thoughts below and let’s spice up this debate!

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