AITA for going off on a mother for bringing her kid to a freestyle skate session?

In the crisp chill of an ice rink, blades carve smooth arcs under the hum of overhead lights. Mia, a 20-year-old figure skater, glides into a freestyle session, her sanctuary for perfecting jumps and spins. But the calm shatters when a young boy, egged on by his distracted mom, zips recklessly across the ice, ignoring warnings and crashing into Mia mid-jump. Her knee throbs, her program’s ruined, and the mom’s fiery accusations sting worse than the fall.

As voices rise and the coach steps in, Mia’s frustration boils over, landing her in a rink-side showdown. Was she wrong to snap, or justified in defending her space? This story spins through the chaos of shared spaces, unspoken rules, and clashing priorities, inviting readers to weigh in: when does standing up for yourself on the ice cross into losing your cool?

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‘AITA for going off on a mother for bringing her kid to a freestyle skate session?’

So I'm (20F) a figure skater, for thoes to don't know, freestyle skating sessions are for figure skaters to safely practice, since public sessions are too crowded and my rink doesn't allow figure skating moves to be done during public sessions.

My rink has you pay for the session online, where it very clearly says that this is for figure skaters to practice on, however there isn't any verification on the website so technically anyone could buy it. Anyway, yesterday I went to one of these sessions and saw a woman and her son (who I guess is about 7 or 8) enter and go get rentals for the kid, I didn't think much of it,

and just assumed that he was just starting out and they haven't gotten skates yet, plus I've seen other beginners use rentals so it's not a huge deal. Once we get onto the ice however, this kid starts doing circles around the rink super fast and every time he passes his mom yells 'mom look!' (his mom was sitting in the bleachers on her phone).

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After I guess he got bored of that he starts skating wherever he pleases, often getting in the way of other people. Some of the coaches told him to slow down but he didn't really care. Well, the issue began when I started doing my program, for thoes who don't know, when someone runs their program during a practice session, they wear a yellow belt and the basically have the right of way in the rink, you can still skate but if they come towards you you have to get out of the way.

Well I'm wearing the belt and I start my program and everything is going fine until my first jump, while I'm mid air this kid crashes straight into me and we both fall, I ended up hurting my knee but the kid seemed fine, maybe a few bruises, we'll, he starts wailing like he's being stabbed and his mother finally looks up from her phone and runs onto the ice (no ice skates, just regular shoes) and starts berating me in front of everyone for hurting her son.

I was super pissed about being interrupted and getting hurt because of this kid and start yelling back that he should learn the etiquette of being on a freestyle session. After this a coach comes up to her and says that they need to leave because her son in a hazard to himself and others (before this he also crashed into people doing spins and other things).

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The mom then yells 'But public sessions are too crowded! He can't have fun on them!'. So she basically admitted that she was planning to use this time for her kid to run wild. The coach later came up to me and said that I was right to be upset, but I should have let her handle it and not yelled at them.. So, as I TA?

Ice rinks are sacred ground for figure skaters, but Mia’s practice turned into a collision course with a child’s unchecked energy. The boy’s reckless skating and his mother’s failure to supervise disrupted a space meant for focused training. Mia’s yellow belt signaled her right-of-way, yet the crash—and the mother’s misplaced blame—upended rink etiquette. Mia’s heated response, while understandable, escalated the tension.

The mother likely saw the freestyle session as a workaround for crowded public skates, ignoring its purpose. A 2023 article by U.S. Figure Skating stresses that freestyle sessions require strict etiquette to ensure safety, with 90% of rink injuries tied to collisions (usfigureskating.or). The boy’s behavior posed a clear hazard, validated by the coach’s intervention.

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Sports psychologist Dr. Caroline Silby notes, “In high-stakes environments like rinks, clear communication prevents conflicts; frustration often erupts when rules are ignored”. Mia could have deferred to the coach to de-escalate, perhaps later explaining rink rules to the mother calmly. Moving forward, she might advocate for stricter session verification at her rink. For now, resting her knee and reflecting on the coach’s advice can ground her.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit posse laced up for Mia’s story, dishing out a lively mix of cheers and hot takes on rink etiquette. It’s like a post-skate huddle where everyone’s got a spicy opinion on the mom’s lapse. Here’s the unfiltered buzz from the crowd:

CrewelSummer − NTA And I think that coach is trying to deflect onto you so you don't ask them why it took an injury for them to ask the child to leave. There was a clear safety situation present before the incident happened, but they ignored it until you were hurt. That was irresponsible, and they know that.

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They are LUCKY that no one was hurt worse because they did not do their jobs and step in to keep everyone safe. Seriously, if I were you, I would follow up on the incident and start asking questions for the safety of everyone in practice sessions so that there are no future incidents.

Should another situation like this arise, when should the child be asked to leave? Who is responsible for removing a skater who is presenting a safety issue to other skaters during these sessions? And should said individual fail to act, what is the procedure for escalation to address the safety issue and how should that individual be held accountable for failing to address a safety issue?

videoslacker − After this a coach comes up to her and says that they need to leave because her son in a hazard to himself and others (before this he also crashed into people doing spins and other things). ... The coach later came up to me and said that I was right to be upset, but I should have let her handle it and not yelled at them.

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NTA. If the coach was going to 'handle it' they should have done so when he was crashing into people who weren't airborne. You had no way to know they were going to intervene since they couldn't be bothered until you started yelling back.

Tdluxon − NTA If this mom is going to bring her kid to these special sessions, everyone needs to know the protocol/etiquette and she needs to make sure that he is following it. This is how people (could be him or you or someone else) get injured.

It probably would have been better for everyone to just let the coach or rink staff handle it but it sounds like they hadn't been doing a good job enforcing the regulations, if they had this wouldn't have happened in the first place. It's also kind of ridiculous to tell you that you shouldn't have yelled at them when you were responding to being yelled at...

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what are you supposed to do, just stand there saying nothing while you are getting yelled at? I'd say that the coach/rink staff are really at fault here as much as the mother... they are creating an unsafe environment by not paying attention or enforcing the rules, especially if there had already been other crashes).

StAlvis − INFO The coach later came up to me and said that I was right to be upset, but I should have let her handle it and not yelled at them.. Are you asking us if you were being an a**hole to the mom/kid, or an a**hole to the coach?

OldSaggytitBiscuits − NTA, and if your coach was so concerned about handling the situation, she and other coaches should have handled it before it got out of hand. The kid shouldn't have been there. He injured you. You have every right to be pissed at her.

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Adelucas − You were injured, even if it wasn't serious and that can impact your training for a while. The coach was obviously trying to make it seem like you were partly at fault so if you complain it'll be treated less seriously. I'd be talking to the management about the fact they allowed an undisciplined child to enter a paid for training session.

He wasn't a beginner learning to skate for competition, he was a typical child going mad on the ice because it's fun. I'd have been yelling at the mom too. Ice skating is dangerous and accidents can cause serious injury. The coach is the Ahole if the child had already disrupted other peoples training. It sounds like they only stepped in when you actually went mad at the mom.

Expression-Little − So the rink staff just let this random kid and his mother in during a freestyle session? In my old rink, you had to be registered to one of the coaches or approved by the rink to attend free skate. This is on the mom and the rink. NTA.

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Slothmr4 − NTA she's using the freestyle skate sessions for her child to act like an animal because her child couldn't do that in the public sessions which resulted in you getting hurt. The mom is an i**ot 

catscausetornadoes − Absolutely NTA! The coach who “would have handled it”? Why didn’t he handle it when the kid ran into other people earlier? That guy is full of s**t.

Ok_Researcher_8586 − NTA. You were hurt, in pain, and for the mom to get in your face- you were just being reactive. She didnt respect the sessions purpose and being an absent parent until he caused the accident. Hopefully this never happens in the future, but at least you know the coaches will be there and hold folks to the rules if needed. 

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Redditors largely backed Mia’s frustration, slamming the mother’s negligence and praising the coach’s call. Some nudged her to keep cool next time, while others shared tales of rink rule-breakers. But do these fiery takes capture the full spin, or just glide over the nuance?

Mia’s freestyle session turned into a lesson in rink rules and restraint, with a child’s chaos and a mom’s misstep stealing her focus. Her snap-back was human, but the coach’s nudge to stay calm rings true for keeping the ice a safe haven. As Mia heals her knee and her pride, the question lingers: how do you defend your space without losing your edge? Share your stories and tips below—what would you do when someone crashes your passion’s turf?

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