AITA For refusing someone a drink in the hospital?

Hospitals are tense places, where every decision feels like it could tip the scales. For one cyclist, recovering in the emergency ward after a rough tumble, a simple request from a fellow patient turned into a moral tug-of-war. Waiting for scan results, they watched another patient grow pale and dizzy, pleading for a cola. With hospital signs warning against eating or drinking before clearance, they hesitated, choosing caution over compassion.

When nurses finally arrived, the truth hit hard: the patient was diabetic, and the cola could’ve helped. Suddenly, the cyclist faced glares and guilt, with even their mom arguing the patient. This Reddit story dives into the chaos of quick decisions under pressure—was caution the right call, or a costly mistake?

‘AITA For refusing someone a drink in the hospital?’

I was in the emergency ward a few months ago because a car hit me while I was cycling home. They were at fault and brought me to the hospital im case of hidden injuries because I made quite the tumble, and my neck hurt really bad. After all the scans, we were waiting for the results, and there was this other guy in a similar situation.

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I'm not sure what happened to him, but he was also waiting for the results to come back. He started to feel dizzy, and with no one accompanying him, he asked for my mother if she could get him a cola. Now, when at the emergency ward, this hospital asks to not drink or eat anything before you are cleared to do so. I told my mom to get the nurse instead.

The nurses were taking way too long, and the guy kept begging for a cola. He really was looking pale, too. I was torn between getting it for him and the fear of doing wrong by him. But I kept a stance with my initial opinion. Especially because it was very hard for the guy to say why exactly he needed the cola so badly.

Two other guys wanted to give him a sip of their red bull, and I said that was even worse. The guy asked for something to eat instead because he had not eaten yet either. We already rang the alarm bel that this was an emergency because he was slowly starting to pass out, and eventually, the nurses came.

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But everyone was mad at me because the nurses gave him cola because he was diabetic. My mother's argument is that he knows his body best and is not asking for cola for no reason.  My argument was that he was in the hospital for something we did not know, and I did not want to end up giving him something that could speed up something bad.

Why else would there be signs to not eat or drink before you are told by a nurse that you are allowed? I still feel bad and like I was the cause for the guy to get near to passing out, possibly worse. I denied this guy multiple drinks and a snack to only find out it would have been fine in the end.. Was I the a**hole?. 

Hospitals are high-stakes, and this cyclist’s choice to follow protocol over instinct stirred up drama. Denying a struggling patient a cola seemed sensible with signs warning against food or drink, but learning the patient was diabetic flipped the script. It’s a classic case of good intentions clashing with unforeseen consequences in a chaotic ER.

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Emergency rooms are unpredictable, and understaffing only amps up the stress. A 2023 study by the American College of Emergency Physicians noted that 63% of ERs face staffing shortages, delaying critical care . Here, the cyclist’s caution aligned with hospital rules, but the patient’s diabetes—a detail unknown until nurses intervened—made the delay risky.

Dr. Danielle Ofri, an ER physician, writes, “Patients often know their needs, but ER protocols prioritize safety until conditions are clear” . The cyclist’s refusal to act without medical guidance was prudent, especially without knowing the patient’s condition. Yet, the patient’s distress highlights why clear communication, like stating “I’m diabetic,” can be lifesaving.

This story reflects a broader issue: navigating emergencies with incomplete information. The cyclist could’ve pushed harder for a nurse or asked the patient about medical conditions, but hindsight’s 20/20.

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Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit didn’t hold back, dishing out support, advice, and a few sharp jabs. From praising the cyclist’s caution to urging faster action next time, the comments were a lively mix. Here’s what they said:

Gregshead − NTA. You don't know what's wrong with him or what they're doing with him. Had they been prepping him for surgery and you gave him something to eat or drink, that would have delayed his surgery by 8-12 hours OR significantly increased the danger of the surgery (because the pt could vomit during surgery).

It's not your place to know or ask about these things. You did the right thing by calling the nurse. The only other thing you could have done was send someone to get the nurse, since this guy was passing out. Still, not your responsibility. I'm sure the nurses were busy and not just goofing off, and that's a problem with the healthcare system, not you or them.. Bottom line, NTA in any way.

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BirdNext220 − Did he say he was diabetic? Before he passed out?

Timely_Egg_6827 − NTA -he was in hospital for reasons unknown. Your mother would be blaming you for acting if you had given him something and he'd been ill due to it. Also your mother was the one adult in the situation who wasn't in pain and possibly confused - she had legs and a voice.

She could have walked over to reception and asked as he was on point of passing out. Edit: Giving food to a diabetic can be bad too. Almost hurt a friend badly that way because of way blood glucose going. I did what first aid courses advised but not right for that very specific case. If he had passed at, people on hand who could cope properly with situation.

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Puzzleheaded-Age-240 − NTA. You are not a medical provider and it's not your fault the ER was understaffed. You did the right thing. Hope you are feeling better! 

National_Conflict609 − Not the AH. NEVER give a patient anything to eat or drink to those you don’t know. And especially those in the ER. Pending test may require them not to eat or drink, they may have something going on with the stomach or worse having difficulty swallowing.

The triage nurse should be told the patient is desperate for a drink and you’re concerned. Then it’s up to them. If patient is diabetic the sugar may be too high which causes thirst. a Coke will make it even higher. If sugar is too low, a Coke may catapult the sugar level too fast into the to high range. No you mean well and you want to help but I’d refrain.

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nvrseriousseriously − This is on the hospital for poor staffing and slow response due to it. You cannot give another patient food or drink without knowing anything about them. Hell, post-giving birth I had complications and bleeding and they would not give me any water or even ice chips…even with me mumbling “fifty dollars for a cup of ice chips” because surgery could have been possible. Not to mention in our litigious society, if there were complications that’d be on you. NTA.

ThatWhichLurks782 − NTA waiting for the nurses was the right thing to do, even if they did take a bit to get to him.

Agitated_Wheel2840 − Info: why were you in charge of if this guy gets a drink or not? Were you actively blocking people from giving him anything or were you just voicing your opinion? If you were preventing people from giving him anything than yeah YTA but if you were just voicing your opinion to your mom than NTA

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imunjust − NTA. I am a nurse. Please don't treat anyone in the emergency room ever. Nope, not even then. Get a nurse. You can kill someone by trying to be kind. DON'T EVER TREAT ANYONE IN THE ER.

Internet-Dick-Joke − I'm going to go against the grain here and say that at this point it became YTA:  Two other guys wanted to give him a sip of their red bull and I said that was even worse. Look, it's one thing to not want to make yourself liable, but at a certain point you have to let other people make their own choices, even if they are bad ones.

It sounds like this man is an adult, not a child, and adults are allowed to make their own medical decisions, even if they are bad ones. You don't have to participate, but you shouldn't try to remove someone else's autonomy..  But everyone was mad at me because the nurses gave him cola because he was diabetic.

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People are mad because your actions could have killed that man. And if he had died as a result of not being given food or drink while diabetic, you would have been liable for that from the point where you actively prevented someone else from giving him something to drink.

Why else would there be signs to not eat or drink before you are told by a nurse that you are allowed? I'll be honest, I have never see  such signs in A&E in the UK, and I've been there a couple of times.  In fact, here, if you are waiting more than a certain amount of time to be seen, they are supposed to off you something to eat or drink.

It might just be a precaution for liability sake, so that people can't complain of eating means that they have to wait for a certain test or procedure to be done and they claim that they weren't specifically told not to, but for the majority of people, eating and drinking will be fine..

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 My mother's argument being that he knows his body best and is not asking for cola for no reason. Your mother kind of has a point. You apparently don't know what he was there for, and it could have been as simple as him having fallen and gotten a severe a**le sprain (hey, I've ended up in A&E for that one),

in which case he would probably have been able to guess by himself that eating and drinking will be fine. Look, not wanting to give him something yourself and risk liability is fine, and reasonable, but actively stopping him from getting something from someone else wasn't your place.

These Reddit takes are spirited, but do they crack the case or just add fuel to the fire? One thing’s clear: this ER drama has everyone talking.

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This tale of a denied cola and a diabetic’s distress shows how fast things can spiral in the ER. The cyclist’s choice to stick to hospital rules was logical but left them wrestling with guilt when the patient’s needs became clear. It’s a reminder that emergencies demand quick thinking, often with spotty info. What would you do in that frantic moment? Share your thoughts—have you ever faced a hospital decision that left you second-guessing?

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