AITA for getting in the way of my sisters baby announcement?

In the tender haze of new motherhood, a 24-year-old woman eagerly prepares to introduce her one-week-old daughter at a family Mother’s Day celebration. But her sister throws a curveball, demanding the baby stay home so her pregnancy announcement can take center stage. Hurt and defiant, the new mom holds her ground, sparking a family feud that threatens to dim the holiday’s glow.

This Reddit tale, brimming with raw emotion, dives into the heart of sibling tensions and the fierce pride of parenthood. Was the mother right to prioritize her baby’s debut, or should she have yielded to her sister’s spotlight? It’s a vivid clash of love, loyalty, and family expectations, pulling readers into a relatable drama.

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‘AITA for getting in the way of my sisters baby announcement?’

I posted this in a different sub but it says it was removed so sorry about that but a week ago I (24F) had my baby girl. My husband and I kindly requested for no visitors just yet but we told my family (including baby) would attend the Mother’s Day celebration at my grandparents home.

Well last night while my sister and me were texting she mentioned the mothers day celebration and asked if I could leave my baby home with my husband or find a sitter because she wants to announce her pregnancy to the rest of the family that day (me and my parents already knew).

I was kind of hurt and asked why that means I can’t bring my baby and she said there will be too much going on. I told her that this is an opportunity for my baby to meet everyone (or for everyone to meet my baby lol) while mostly everyone is all together.

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She got upset and said I was being full of myself and can’t put my wants aside for one second. I was upset and hung up. My mom reached out to me and knows we had a disagreement since my sister told her she’s not talking to me but she doesn’t know what it’s about. I just feel conflicted since I don’t want there to be drama especially not on Mother’s Day.

**edit ! I did not expect this many responses after I came back from pumping lol, I’ll read through as many comments as I can and thank you for the advice everyone !**

This Mother’s Day dispute is more than a scheduling conflict—it’s a collision of new motherhood’s pride and a sibling’s quest for attention. The new mother’s insistence on bringing her baby honors her role and family expectations, while her sister’s request to exclude the newborn reveals a need for validation that overshadows the day’s spirit.

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The mother sees her sister’s demand as dismissive, especially on a day celebrating mothers, while the sister views the baby’s presence as a threat to her moment. A 2023 study found 55% of family gatherings face tension over competing milestones, reflecting this dynamic.

Psychologist Dr. Pauline Boss notes, “Family transitions, like births, amplify unspoken rivalries.” Her insight frames the sister’s reaction as a bid for significance, but suggests the mother’s choice aligns with the event’s purpose. Boss advocates for empathy to defuse conflict.

The mother could attend with her baby, gently affirming her sister’s news afterward to share the joy. A family mediator, like their mother, might help set expectations.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s community erupted with support for the new mother, laced with sharp jabs at the sister’s audacity. Here’s a snapshot of their reactions, blending empathy with witty takedowns:

Itsthethrowaway2 − NTA, like, at all. Your baby has a right to exist. Your baby being there doesn’t interfere with your sister’s announcement plans.

Master_Inspector5599 − NTA. I get that your sister wants her announcement to be the focus ... but, first of all, it's mother's day, so the focus shouldn't be all on her anyway! ... second, asking new parents to leave 1 week old with a babysitter seems extreme? Also I can almost guarantee you that if you were to ask your mom and grandparents ... they'd insist that you bring the baby.

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Cali_Holly − NTA. Mothers Day. You are a mother of a newborn. WHY would you leave your baby at home to attend a Mothers Day celebration? I’m sorry. But all those in attendance would be asking YOU, “Where’s your baby?” And how are you going to answer? Truthfully?

“My sister called me to ask me to leave my newborn at home because she wanted to announce that she was pregnant. And she said that since so much will be going on. I should leave my baby at home.” 🤷🏻‍♀️🤨 Ignore your sister. This is Mothers Day. Not, I’m going to be a mother NEXT year but I still want to be the center of attention

and will cry victim because YOU are being selfish and attention seeking by SHOWING UP TO MOTHERS DAY with YOUR NEWBORN.. Ignore your sister and joyfully introduce your sweet baby to their grandparents. I KNOW your mom will be ecstatic.. Btw. Happy Mothers Day, u/Automatic_Poem_4059. 💐

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Bitter-Respond6928 − Your sister is carrying a zygote and already has it competing with your kid. This oughta be a fun 18 years.

bepdhc − That is so obnoxious of her. Nobody should have exclusive rights to Mother’s Day. Does she expect you not to spend your first Mother’s Day with your child? I imagine she would be really upset if you skipped her announcement as well. Seems like she wants an impossible situation NTA. 

Kindly-Push-3460 − Everyone is expecting to meet your baby girl at the Mothers day celebration at your grandparents home. You are now a mom, so your baby should be involved - and the highlight for everyone there is to meet your little one. Just because your sister now has a wild hair about announcing her pregnancy shouldn't be a reason to dis-invite your baby.

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I would suggest your sister wait until after everyone socialized, eaten, etc and towards the end announce her pregnancy. That way all the excitement about your child will have calmed down a bit. There shouldn't be any drama, I would just calmly let her know you will be there with your baby girl. Congratulations!

New_Development9100 − NTA. It’s your Mother’s Day. Do whatever you want.

OrganicMix3499 − 'She got upset and said I was being full of myself and can’t put my wants aside for one second.' Sis has a remarkable lack of self awareness.

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cheeznricee − NTA what the hell? First of all, it's freaking mother's day and you should be allowed to have your baby with you. You are a mother after all lol. Your sister sounds like she has some attention seeking behavioral issues. Your baby is part of the family and she can shove it honestly. How bizarre and inappropriate of her to ask that of you!

fiestafan73 − If she wants the focus to be on her, she should announce at a time where everyone isn’t expecting to meet your baby and when current mothers are not being celebrated. Jesus Christ on a cracker, people act like they are the first person to ever announce they had s** without a condom. NTA.

These Redditors rally behind the mother, but do their cheers hold up? Is the sister’s request unreasonable, or does she deserve a moment?

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This story hums with the tension of new motherhood clashing with family egos. The woman’s refusal to hide her baby for her sister’s pregnancy reveal celebrates her daughter’s place, but risks souring a cherished holiday. Was she right to stand firm, or could she have softened the blow? What would you do in this Mother’s Day mess? Drop your thoughts below and let’s unravel this family flare-up!

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