AITA for leaving to have my break in another room when someone else walked into the one I was already in?

In a bustling workplace, where customer complaints echo like a relentless drumbeat, a small break room offers a fleeting oasis of calm. An 18-year-old employee, craving silence to soothe her headache, settles into her usual spot, only for a coworker’s loud phone call to shatter the peace. Seeking refuge in another room, she hopes for a moment’s quiet—until she discovers her locker’s sticky note mysteriously relocated, a petty jab from a colleague who took her exit personally.

This isn’t just about a misplaced label; it’s a tale of clashing personalities and unspoken workplace tensions. The young woman’s introversion collides with her coworker’s wounded ego, leaving her questioning if her quiet escape was rude. Readers will feel the sting of misunderstanding and the weight of navigating social cues, diving into a story of boundaries, sensitivity, and the quest for a peaceful break.

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‘AITA for leaving to have my break in another room when someone else walked into the one I was already in?’

Apologies for any grammer mistakes, writing this in a waiting room and I think im being called up next so im not really spell checking anything. Okay so for some context my workplace has 4 small break rooms. We're allowed to take our breaks whenever we want and because we dont have alot of employees at the moment most of the time when I take my break no one else is present in any of the rooms.

I prefer the quiet since being yelled at by customers constantly gives me quite the headache, and im pretty introverted normally so I quite enjoy break time. The break room I prefer to use is labled as 'room A' and its where my and a few others lockers are located.

Okay now, I was enjoying my break as normal and my co-worker Selly walked in to grab something from their locker, shortly after their phone rang and they took the call. They were in this call for only about 2 minutes, and it didn't sound like they were gonna end it anytime soon, so I moved to break room B.

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This wasnt out of malice or anything, I just like my peace and quiet. The next day I noticed the stickynote that labled my locker was missing, I assumed it fell off, put a new one on it, and went to start my day. Break time hits and theres someone in room A so I go to room B and thats when I found my old stickynote on a random unused locker.

I was confused and asked the guy that was in room A if he knew who moved it and why. He said 'Oh Selly moved it because he thought you were going to move lockers anyway.' This answer was very confusing so I went and found Selly to ask him myself if he was the one who moved it and why.

After I asked he said 'Oh I thought you wanted a room to yourself since you so rudely left room A when I walked in for only a moment'. I told him that me leaving had nothing to do with him, and that I just liked the quiet, but his response was something like 'well now you can have all the peace and quiet you want'

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and got into his car before I could respond. He seemed really mad, and honestly I just want to know if I really did do something wrong. I dont always catch if im being rude so maybe I really am the a**hole here, thus I wrote this post to find out. 

A two-minute phone call disrupting a quiet break shouldn’t spark a locker-label vendetta, but Selly’s overreaction highlights how miscommunication can escalate workplace tensions. The employee’s choice to seek silence was a natural response for an introvert overwhelmed by a noisy environment, yet Selly’s petty retaliation reveals a lack of empathy and an inflated sense of offense.

Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a psychology professor, writes in Psychology Today , “Introverts often need solitude to recharge, especially in high-stress settings.” The employee’s preference for a quiet break room aligns with this, as constant customer interactions likely drained her energy. Selly’s assumption that her exit was a personal slight ignores this context, reflecting poor emotional intelligence.

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A 2020 study in Workplace Psychology  notes that workplace conflicts often stem from mismatched communication styles, particularly when extroverts misread introverts’ need for space. Selly’s actions—moving the sticky note and snapping defensively—suggest he prioritized his feelings over mutual respect. Dr. Whitbourne advises, “Clarify intentions calmly to defuse misunderstandings.” The employee could explain her need for quiet to Selly, perhaps via a neutral mediator like HR, to prevent further friction.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit gang swooped in like a coffee-break cavalry, serving up support with a dash of snark for Selly’s pettiness. It’s like a watercooler chat where everyone’s rooting for the quiet kid and rolling their eyes at the drama. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

CastleElsinore − Nta - it's more rude to listen in on someone's phone conversation. Plus, the other person should have found an empty room to take the call in instead of intruding on you. The post-it is just petty.. It's not a 'call hr' but I'd note down the time, date, and incident in case it escalates

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AKlife420 − NTA, he was on a call so you left. If that was me in his position, I would have figured you were giving me privacy to talk on the phone. Also, he shouldn't have moved anything. He's being an a**hole.

Bottom_of_the_bottle − NTA Selly needs to shut the f**k up and mind their own business

Amber11796 − NTA - how did they know your break wasn’t just over? Also, I’d feel so awkward standing around while someone was on the phone especially if I wasn’t planning on or actively hanging out with them to begin with.

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Cautious-Job8683 − NTA. Selly was rude for taking a call in a room that was already occupied instead of an empty room. He was also rude for moving the name tag from your locker for no reason. You are NTA for not wanting to stick around to listen in on their conversation. The only person that thinks his conversation is important is him.

DoomsdayDonuts − NTA. People are SO WEIRD. If anything was rude, it was entering a quiet break room where one other person is hanging out peacefully and talking on the phone when there are other break rooms to go talk on the phone in.

KittKatt7179 − NTA, but you should tell Selly to stop touching things that do not belong to him, and if he is not a supervisor, he does not get to decide for you where your locker should be located.

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EwwDavvidd − NTA. But Selly sounds difficult to work with.

Last-Campaign-3373 − NTA, but if he keeps being huffy, you might want to mention it to management, just as a heads up. Say you don't want trouble, and don't want anything to happen to him unless it escalates. Nothing will probably happen, but you'll have covered your b**t just in case. Unless you have a toxic management structure, in which case, do your best. Hopefully he'll get over it in a few days.

WhereWeretheAdults − NTA. Some people are just constantly looking for something to be mad about. Look at his response, '...I walked in for a moment.' No, you left because he decided to take a call and have a full conversation. You did the proper thing in this case, quietly left.

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But he's making himself the victim here because it was '...for a moment.' That little lie is what he bases his entire defense on. When you pick apart the lie, he has no defense and you see him for who he is, someone looking for something to be mad about.

These Redditors backed the employee’s quest for peace, calling Selly’s sticky-note stunt childish and rude. Some saw his phone call as the real breach of etiquette; others urged HR involvement to nip escalation in the bud. But do their hot takes capture the whole vibe, or are they just loving the petty tea?

This workplace tale proves that even a quiet break can stir up loud misunderstandings. The employee’s choice to prioritize her peace over Selly’s ego was a small but mighty act of self-care. It’s a reminder to honor your needs, even when others misread your moves. Have you ever faced a coworker’s overreaction to a harmless choice? What would you do in her shoes? Drop your stories below.

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