Say Sorry, Shape Souls: The Parenting Hack to Teach Kids Integrity

Imagine a chaotic morning: cereal’s spilled, tempers flare, and you snap at your kid over something trivial. The air feels heavy, and that parental instinct to move on kicks in—but wait. One Redditor suggests hitting pause and saying “I’m sorry” instead. This small act of humility, they argue, can shape kids who value honesty over ego. The Reddit thread buzzes with heartfelt stories and witty takes, proving that apologies aren’t just for grown-ups. Let’s unpack this parenting gem and see why it’s striking a chord.

This tip resonates because it flips the script on the “I’m always right” parenting trope. From tearful confessions to snack-fueled apologies, the Reddit community shares how owning mistakes builds trust and teaches kids to do the same. It’s not about losing authority—it’s about showing strength through vulnerability. So, grab a coffee, and let’s dive into this lesson in integrity that’s got parents and kids talking.

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‘LPT: Apologize to your children when required. Admitting when you are wrong is what teaches them to have integrity’

Ever snap at your child, then brush it off because you’re the parent? Admitting mistakes shows them it’s okay to own up, fostering honesty and respect in a way lectures can’t.

This tip works because kids learn more from what you do than what you say. First, apologizing models accountability. When you admit you were wrong, you show them integrity isn’t just a buzzword—it’s action. Second, it builds trust. Kids notice when you dodge blame, and it erodes their respect.

By owning your errors, you create a safe space for them to be honest too. Finally, it counters the “I’m always right” parenting trap. That mindset teaches kids to hide mistakes out of shame, not grow from them. Child psychology backs this: kids mimic parental behavior, especially in handling conflict. Saying “I’m sorry” sets a powerful example for them to follow.

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This habit shapes kids who value honesty, paving the way for deeper lessons in character.

Apologizing also strengthens your bond with your child. It shows them you’re human, making them feel valued and heard. Plus, it encourages them to reflect on their own actions, fostering emotional growth and resilience in tough moments.

Have you ever apologized to your kids? How did it change your relationship? Share your stories or tips below!

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This Redditor’s advice isn’t just heartwarming—it’s rooted in how kids grow. Apologizing to your child is like planting a seed of integrity that blossoms over time. When parents own their mistakes, they model accountability, showing kids it’s okay to mess up as long as you make it right. But dodge that “sorry,” and you risk teaching them to hide errors out of shame, not learn from them.

Child psychologist Dr. Laura Markham nails it: “When we apologize to our kids, we’re not just repairing the relationship; we’re teaching them how to take responsibility” (source). Her words echo the Redditor’s point. An apology signals to kids that trust matters more than pride. It creates a safe space where they feel valued, not dismissed, fostering emotional growth and resilience.

This tip taps into a bigger truth: kids mirror what they see. A 2019 study from the Journal of Child Development found that children as young as four mimic parental behaviors in conflict resolution (source). By saying “I’m sorry,” parents set a template for handling mistakes with grace. Contrast that with the “never wrong” mindset, which can breed mistrust or perfectionism, as some Redditors poignantly shared.

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So, how do you do it? Keep it simple: acknowledge the mistake, say sorry sincerely, and explain how you’ll do better. It’s not about groveling—it’s about showing you’re human. Encourage your kids to share their feelings, too, and watch the bond grow. Want to weigh in? Share your thoughts in the comments and let’s keep this parenting hack alive!

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

The Reddit thread is a goldmine of reactions, from touching tales to sharp-witted zingers. Here’s what the community had to say, served with a sprinkle of humor:

bubbalooski − Being wrong is a part of life. Parents who don’t teach their children to deal with that are doing them a great disservice.

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LostDragon7 − My parents did a lot of damage to me by not having the humility and grace of knowing when they were wrong. Never apologized for being wrong, if I called it out they’d say “whatever. I’m your mother. What I say goes, so shut the hell up! If I told my mother she was wrong, I wouldn’t be here!”

It only bred trauma, mistrust in authority figures and people, and the therapy for it is difficult even years later. It might seem like a small thing not worth caring about, but it set me up for the “I have to never s**ew up, always be perfect, because even if I did nothing wrong I will still be blamed and take the fall for it.” That is not a good way to live as a child and teen.

If you want to do right by your children, do not be afraid or ashamed to admit you were wrong, that you seek to make amends, and that you are not a tyrant whose word is law regardless of what the truth is. Be smart enough to know you can be wrong. Show them you are an adult.. This life tip is absolutely something that should be broadcast to more people. Edit: what a kind hug award.Genuinely appreciate that and the amount of people who share my appreciation for how important this is for your children.

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PupperPuppet − This practice extends to any situation involving a power imbalance. When I was working, a fair few people commented that I was the only boss they'd had who not only admitted when I was wrong but apologized when it was called for. That's not something I did deliberately thinking it would get me loyalty. That was just a handy side benefit.

[Reddit User] − Parents and teachers that somehow think that by apologising, they are giving away their power and inviting disrespect. Children are products of our expectations, treat them as you would like to have been treated. Be honest as fair with them.

Stock_Friend − This one is pretty important. I had to teach myself in my twenties, after emotionally f**king up several other people, that learning to admit out loud when you’re wrong is arguably one of the most powerful things you can do in life and in the fifteen years since I’ve learned just how incredibly rare it is.  Also, as Eddie Izzard said; it shows you have integrity, and people like to have s** with people with integrity.

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TsugaruMJS − One day when I was like 8 my mom and I got in an argument before I went to school for whatever reason. I don’t remember the argument but I think she probably was a little harsh on me since, even though I was definitely being a little s**t, I was also 8.

When I got home, there was a snack waiting for me with a note apologizing for what went on that morning and telling me she loves me, etc. At the time I was just like oh cool a snack yeah everything’s fine.. But I also still remember it today as a fully-grown adult…

okaysidd − What if they “actually” think they’re perfect? I asked my mom if she’s done any mistake in life, she stated back and just said No. She believes she’s don’t no mistakes ever. (I’m 27 now, so it’s not a mom lying to a kid situation)

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poisonpurple − Yeah my parents never apologised for jackshit. I'm basically programmed to think I'm either wrong or gonna be punished no matter what.

phylemon23 − Yes! Growing up, I hated this as a child. I’m nearly 30 with my own house and family now, and my parents still act like this sometimes. I have made a very deliberate point of admitting when I’m wrong, to my kids as well as to seniors and subordinates at work.

Angry_ACoN − As a child of Narcissists, I want to share some of the consequences of this behaviour pushed to the extreme - think 'driving over your child's feet with your car (after placing said child behind the car) and blaming the child for it' type of unapologetic person.. For myself, I became apologetic to the extreme. I catch myself apologizing to inanimate objects several times a day.

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For one of my siblings, being accountable angers them. The more you present them with facts that show they should apologize, the angrier they get. They're known to have destroyed doors, a wall, and countless smaller objects (sorry) in their fit of rage. In a word, they're dangerous.

For the other, they never take any responsibility. They'll coldly look you in the eyes as you bleed out from whatever they did to you - be it voluntarily or not - and ask for an apology. I am not exaggerating. They once asked me to apologize to them after they hurt their knuckles from hitting me. To me, they're sociopathic.. Of course, my family suffers from many more problems than simply not apologizing. But it played a huge part.. Please. If you can, be accountable and apologize when needed.

These voices, from heartfelt to hilariously candid, show how deeply this tip hits. But do they capture the full picture? One thing’s certain: apologizing is a game-changer in parenting!

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Saying “I’m sorry” to your kids isn’t just about fixing a bad moment—it’s about building a foundation of trust and integrity. This Reddit tip reminds us that parenting is a two-way street, where humility paves the way for stronger bonds. Have you ever apologized to your kids and seen the magic happen? What’s your trick for teaching honesty? Drop your stories below and let’s chat about raising kids who own their mistakes with pride!

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