AITAH for Rejecting Babysitting After Aunt’s Story Steals My Joy?

Under the spring sun, a church courtyard buzzed with Easter excitement, where 15-year-old Lily tossed eggs in a playful competition, her laughter mingling with the chatter of friends. What should have been a joyful day of hiding Easter baskets turned sour when her aunt spun a tale of flirtation with the pastor’s son, a misunderstanding that rippled through her family like a stone skipped across a pond.

Lily’s world shifted as her father, swayed by her aunt’s words, barred her from the youth group she cherished. The sting of losing something she loved fueled her decision to draw a line, refusing to babysit her younger cousin. Her story, shared on Reddit, sparks a question: was she wrong to push back against a family that clipped her wings?

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‘AITAH for Rejecting Babysitting After Aunt’s Story Steals My Joy?’

I'm 15F, and my older siblings and I often joke about each other's crushes. They attend a public school, while I go to a virtual school, so I don't get out much. Because of this, my family, especially my parents, assumes that I like every guy I talk to.

There's this boy at church who's 18 and the pastor's son. As you can probably guess, he's much older than me. Do I talk to him? Yes. Do I laugh at his jokes? Yes. But do I like him like that? No. To me, he feels more like an older brother than anything else.

Last Sunday was Easter, and we, the youth group, helped with Easter baskets and the egg hunt, which I really enjoyed. I was working with the pastor's son, another boy who is 19, and a girl who's 17. We are the oldest teens who regularly attend church.

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While talking outside with my younger sister, the pastor's son, the 17-year-old girl, and another girl who’s 14, we were chatting with a funny church member. We all started laughing, and my aunt was in the car watching. According to her, it looked like only my little sister and I were standing close to the pastor's son.

In reality, there were at least six of us outside, and a wagon full of eggs was between us. Later, she told my mom that during the egg hunt, I was trying to behave cutely and impress him. This was not true. I was actually having a competition with another girl to see how far we could throw the eggs, she won.

My aunt claimed I was dropping the eggs 'nice and clean,' but I know I wasn't. The pastor's son hadn't even been outside when we were hiding the eggs. He came out later, and by the time he joined us, I had already finished my work.

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The president of the youth group, whom I affectionately call my auntie, mentioned that we had been working together for the past two years. After my aunt's comments, my mom told my dad, and he responded, “I’m not smiling at you. There’s not a smile on my face. Don’t stand next to him at all.

There’s no reason.” I thought this was unnecessary because I really wasn’t standing that close to him. Then my dad called the youth group president and told her that I wasn’t allowed to help with the youth group anymore. I have no idea why this is happening. My aunt laughed at this, saying, “See there, that’s what happens.”

Now, she has texted me asking if I could watch my younger cousin while she goes out with her husband. I said no. My mom got upset, saying that this had nothing to do with the reason I couldn’t help with the youth group any longer. I believe otherwise. My aunt has done this multiple time. AITAH?

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Lily’s tale is a textbook case of family miscommunication blowing a small moment out of proportion. Her aunt’s assumption that Lily was flirting with the pastor’s son led to her being banned from the youth group she loved. Family therapist Dr. John Gottman notes, “Misunderstandings often arise from unchecked assumptions” . Lily’s refusal to babysit is her way of reclaiming control after feeling betrayed.

This scenario reflects broader issues of overprotective parenting and family gossip. A 2021 study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that 68% of teens feel misunderstood by family assumptions . Lily’s parents prioritized control over dialogue, eroding trust. Her aunt’s tale, though possibly well-meant, ignored Lily’s perspective, turning a playful church event into a family fiasco.

Psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour says, “Teens need space to define their relationships” . Lily’s interactions were typical youth group fun, not romance. She should calmly clarify her side to her parents, possibly with the youth leader’s support. Refusing to babysit is a fair boundary, but a frank talk with her aunt could help. Honesty, not assumptions, keeps families strong.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit crew dove into Lily’s tale with gusto, serving up a mix of cheers and jeers like a lively potluck. Here’s what they had to say:

MyJoyinaWell − Girl, do as much work as you can in your virtual school, read everything you can get your hands on, particularly classic fiction, try to talk to as may people as you can and when you are ready, fly away.

HereFoeDaBUllShit − NTA!!! I would tell her flat out until she tells my parents she lied and embellished her story about what happened, do not under any circumstances ask me for s**t.

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Tasty_Library_8901 − Her parents sound like assholes too. Why can’t a 15-year-old girl stand next to a boy or work in the same youth group with him?

R3dmund − NTA. Nosey people need to stay in their lane and quit making up stories.

chocolatechipwizard − Never babysit for her again, ever. No matter what, even a death in the family, a hard NO. Not only did she mess with your life, and disrespect you, she's a liar and toxic as hell. These are the people you need to learn to avoid at all costs. Your parents trying to guilt you into doing something for someone who leaks toxicity like nuclear waste is not a sign of good parenting.

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Soft-Statement-4933 − My heart goes out to you. Sounds like a prison-like existence to me with your aunt acting like a prison guard reporting your good-natured fun at a church activity to your parents who act as though you did something shocking. How sad!

Your aunt doesn't deserve your babysitting services--no way in HELL--excuse my French. If you can't even help with a church youth group--something that was giving you joy--well, it's a crock of you know what.. **Update:** As you can see--Soft-Statement isn't always a softy if there has been injustice. I hate injustice.

BARBZ76 − Definitely NTA. Never babysit that woman’s children no matter what, always say no. She’s n**ty!

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Orsombre − Tell the truth to your parents. Your aunt is a liar, and you do not want to have anything to do with her. Repeat it. Also tell your parents that instead of believing a well-known liar, they could have asked the youth president, or the other people you were around.

LucyLovesApples − Nta tell her you’ve got homework and take a long time doing actual homework then her you’ve got chores and do the same. tell Religious parents won’t take away precious homework and chores away.. Can you speak to the youth leader to back you up?

Beautiful_Rub5735 − Girl I would be petty and say no to watching because “see there, that’s what happens when you have kids” 😭😭😭😂
These Redditors rallied behind Lily, slamming her aunt’s meddling and her parents’ overreach. Some urged her to cut ties with toxic family, while others suggested petty revenge. But do their fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just adding fuel to the family fire? One thing’s clear: Lily’s stand has sparked a lively debate.

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Lily’s story is a reminder that family ties can tangle when assumptions override truth. Her refusal to babysit wasn’t just a teen’s rebellion—it was a cry for respect in a world quick to judge her. As she navigates this drama, her resilience shines, proving that even at 15, she’s carving her own path. What would you do if a family member’s words cost you something you loved? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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