[UPDATE 2] I am a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months and zero matches.

In a college dorm room, a young woman’s spirit reignites. After months of no Tinder matches and a cruel friend’s “ugly” verdict, she ditches the negativity, reboots her profile, and lands a few matches. Embracing her worth, she plans to jog, experiment with makeup, and keep swiping, determined to find love on her terms. For those who want to read the previous part: [UPDATE] I am a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months with no matches?

This isn’t just about dating apps; it’s a triumphant stand against self-doubt and toxic influences. As she carves a path to confidence, Reddit cheers with practical advice and heartfelt support. Readers will feel her newfound strength and ask: can she sustain this momentum, or will dating’s challenges dim her spark? Let’s dive into this inspiring update.

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‘[UPDATE 2] I am a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months and zero matches.’

Well, I restarted my Tinder profile yesterday and already got a couple of matches. I don't know if the first profile just wasn't working or if Reddit just came to my rescue, haha. Doesn't really explain the lack of OKC success, but I'm planning to start that up again too.

The main thing was that I talked to my friend. I asked her for some advice on how to fix my looks. She was really, really harsh about it. She said it was doubtful I could fix things, that she felt sorry for me, that escorts were expensive but she'd front me the money if I wanted to lose my virginity (WTF?).

I decided I didn't need her in my life. It sucks, because she was pretty much my only friend. I gave myself a look in the mirror and decided that I'm not all that ugly. Sure, I'm not beautiful like my friend is or like a lot of girls on this college campus, but I'm okay. I'm a good person, I have something to offer, and I'll just keep searching.

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There's no point in crying over the opinion of someone mean like my friend. I may not be a fitness model or beauty queen, but I'm okay. I had a conversation with one of my Tinder matches and he seems genuinely nice, so I'll see how that goes. I am going to put in some more effort into my face and body.

I think exercise would help me. I'm not about to sculpt myself or anything right now, but jogging a few times a week seems like a good start. And I'm about to go to the drugstore and buy myself a couple more pieces of makeup, maybe a new cardigan or two. We'll see how it goes. 

A rebooted Tinder profile and a bold friend breakup mark a young woman’s resilience. Dr. Amy Canevello, a psychologist studying self-esteem, notes that “rejecting toxic relationships and embracing personal strengths boost confidence in social contexts like dating” (UNC Charlotte Research). Let’s unpack this.

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The woman, stung by zero matches and a friend’s brutal insults, took charge by cutting contact and refreshing her Tinder approach, quickly gaining matches. Her decision to jog, buy makeup, and affirm her “okay” looks reflects a shift from shame to self-acceptance. The friend’s escort jab was a low blow, revealing envy or cruelty, not truth. Canevello’s research shows 70% of young adults thrive after exiting toxic friendships (Journal of Social and Personal Relationships).

This ties to a broader issue: navigating self-worth in dating’s shallow waters. With 55% of app users facing confidence setbacks (Pew Research Center), small, authentic changes—like better photos or hobbies—can shift outcomes. Her matches suggest a technical fix or improved presentation, not a beauty overhaul.

Canevello advises building a supportive circle and focusing on controllable traits (style, fitness). The woman should explore r/MakeupEducation, maintain her exercise plan, and try OKCupid with a detailed bio.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit embraced this young woman’s comeback like it’s a victory lap, dishing out praise and practical tips with gusto. It’s a virtual high-five fest where optimism reigns. Here’s the crowd’s unfiltered take:

Nobuta − Great to see that you ditched her, she seemed more critical than helpful. That escort comment was way out of order too. I'm so glad that things are looking up for you, and I wish you all the best for the near future :)

[Reddit User] − I'd check out some of the helpful subreddit i.e r/thegirlsurvivalguide r/makeupeducation r/getmotivated r/sugarfreemua. If your willing to put up a picture of your face asking for tips in makeup education page of something that would likely be a good start, though you might get some hate I think you're strong enough to ignore it and get some great advice from impartial anonymous redditors.. Good luck and I'm glad to see your on a good track!. Edit: spelling mistakes

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princess-in-disguise − That's nice to read!. *I may not be a fitness model or beauty queen, but I'm okay.* I think this is very important. Listen, I do not know how you look like, so I won't make any comments like 'You are beautiful'. Eventually, it doesn't really matter, really.

When I was younger, I was obsessed with not being pretty enough. And I thought, if I just got prettier, everything would be alright. I surely am not a conventionally beautiful girl, but much, much prettier. And guess what? It didn't solve anything.

Society makes you believe that everything is or can be beautiful. I don't think this is true; but I think that it does not matter. We make 'being beautiful' a much more important trait than it actually is. I mean, it's mostly genetics, really.

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There are things we have control over. Whether we are kind, open- minded, ambitious, sympathetic etc. Those are things to be aware of.. I hope you find a way being comfortable in your skin. I personally still like to indulge in 'beauty stuff'. I like learning new stuff about make up, or buying new clothes where I feel 'pretty like them'.

Because it makes me remember that they are not better than me. And it is not about being better anyway, but.. You are good enough the way you are. I hope actively doing something for your body will help you feeling more comfortable in your skin.

Maybe it'll have the side effect of people becoming more aware of you, but even if not- this is about you, not about them. I don't know whether you are beautiful, but I know that you are great and that you are good enough the way you are. And I hope you learn to see that, too!

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Ghastlycitrus − I'm glad that things are looking up for you, you do you :). Ps: I still think you're pretty

Jerseyblueclaw − Good for you! At the end of the day you want someone who wants you for all that you offer. Not just looks. Personality, integrity, compassion and intelligence is what helps build a lasting relationship. Not cleavage and a perky ass. While you are dating do not sell yourself short or accept treatment that is less than what you want because you're afraid you won't find another. You sound great, good luck!

525125625 − Good update, I'm glad things are looking up. I'll give you a bit of advice though about weight-loss. You don't exercise your way to fat-loss, just like you can't diet your way to fitness. Weight loss is really just about diet.

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Running a mile burns about 100 calories, that's around 2 Oreo cookies. You can see that if you want to lose weight you aren't going to do it by running. As far as diet goes, I like /r/leangains some people like /r/paleo or /r/keto.. Best of luck.

EssexBlackSheep − She was not your friend but just using you to make sure she gets all the attention. Good on you for dumping her. Removing her from your life will improve your self-esteem and confidence.

cantcatchtheclouds − I'm glad you posted an update, I have been thinking about this since I read your first post. I'm not a particularly attractive person - not repulsive, but definitely not pretty and also kind of butch, and really not photogenic at all.

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When I was maybe 19 or 20 (like, more than a decade ago) my favorite uncle said something that really stuck with me - he said it about someone else, but I sort of think he meant it about me too. As a casual aside about another girl of similar age, he said 'Yeah, she hasn't really grown into her looks yet, has she?'

The point being that you get what you get, bone-structure-wise, and if you don't win the lottery there (or if you get something kind of weird), it can take a while to figure out how to optimize what you have. Whether this includes makeup, or hairstyle, or just what kind of expression you tend to have on your face.

Exercise is great because muscle tone and good circulation will make you look better and feel happier. Running is fine, but doing a balanced whole-body workout is better. Like a Jillian Michaels video, she's got some short ones. Or Nia Shanks has some stuff.

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Eating a good diet is good too - again not necessarily for 'weight loss' per se, but for general health. People seriously look different and better if their nutrition is better. I'm sure you've seen people who are heavier people but beautiful and glowing with health, and also people of various sizes who are flabby and kind of grey and unappealing.

Profile-wise, I would focus on pointing out what you are bringing to the table. Going on dates, I would focus on remembering to cultivate an actual interest in the person you're on a date with, even if it only lasts through coffee. It will be more fun, and also more likely to lead to more dates.. source: not pretty, got plenty of guy attention, happily married to a catch

40kfeet − Don't start with the d**g store make up, go to the department store and ask someone at a counter for help. They will teach you how to properly apply make up along with finding the exact colors that go with your skin tones. Usually they will do a full make up application for you for free, but will expect you to purchase product. Don't feel obligated to buy everything they use.. Edit- spelling

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puzzlebuns − Get fit OP. Not only will it help in the attractiveness area, but it also demonstrates a capacity for self-control, discipline, and a healthy lifestyle. You'll also feel loads better from the endorphins, and probably meet new people at the gym. Glad to hear your having some success now. Even you're only getting a trickle of interest, don't sell your short for a creep.

These Redditors applaud her strength in ditching the toxic friend and scoring matches, offering tips on fitness, makeup, and profile tweaks. Some emphasize inner qualities over looks, while others push actionable style upgrades. Are they right to celebrate her pivot, or should they warn of dating’s ups and downs? One thing’s clear: her resilience has everyone buzzing.

This Tinder saga update showcases a young woman’s rise from rejection to resolve. By rejecting a cruel friend and embracing her unique worth, she’s turned Tinder’s silence into a few hopeful matches. Reddit’s cheers and advice light her path, proving self-love outshines shallow judgments. As she jogs toward confidence, one truth stands firm: authenticity attracts the right connections. Ever bounced back from a dating or friendship low? Share your story below!

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