[UPDATE] My (29M) wife (27F) has been working from home the past few months and has started having her high-school ex over a lot. I told her this is unacceptable.

The soft glow of a living room lamp once cast a warm light on a couple’s shared life, but for one husband, that warmth turned icy cold. Hidden cameras, tucked discreetly in his home, captured a heartbreaking truth: his wife’s cozy work-from-home sessions with her high-school ex had crossed into undeniable betrayal. What began as a nagging suspicion exploded into a confrontation that left their marriage teetering on the edge.

This Reddit update peels back the layers of trust shattered by infidelity, pulling readers into a raw, emotional saga. The husband’s discovery and the wife’s tearful reaction paint a vivid picture of a relationship at a breaking point, inviting us to explore the fallout of broken vows.

For those who want to read the previous part: My (29M) wife (27F) has been working from home the past few months and has started having her high-school ex over a lot. I told her this is unacceptable. Am I the the wrong for this?

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‘[UPDATE] My (29M) wife (27F) has been working from home the past few months and has started having her high-school ex over a lot. I told her this is unacceptable.’

So last week I posted here about my wife spending time at our house with an old ex that she used to have from high school. He had been coming over and working from home with her ever since COVID started. At first I thought nothing of it as they were just simply helping each other with their work. Then they started to hang out and stuff more.

When I caught her laying down with her head in his lap I had enough. I told her he could no longer come over. She was mad and took offense to this but agreed. Most people here agreed with me that it was sketchy for her to do this. I was made aware that he could still be coming over during the day and leaving before I get there.

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I ended up buying a camera that I could set up and hide while I am at work. I put one in the living room and one in the bedroom. The first day they were set up I saw nothing unusual. The second day was when it happened. The ex came over. At first they were just working, but then he started to get pretty touchy with her.

It progressed until they needed up going to our bedroom and sleeping together. I was shocked. I wasn’t sure what to do. As soon as I saw my wife again I questioned her if she had been seeing him anymore. She denied it. I told her that I had cameras installed in the house. Her face changed completely then. She knew what I had seen.

She immediately started crying. I told her to leave the house. She tried to apologize and explain but I wasn’t having any of it. Since then we have talked to each other once. I told her that I don’t see how anything can happen besides a divorce.

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She said she doesn’t want that and asked if I would go to couples counseling one time before making that final decision. I reluctantly agreed. I don’t expect it to work and I’m mainly doing it to humor her. I’m still looking and trying to contact divorce attorneys as I’m typing this.

Infidelity slices through a marriage like a jagged blade, and this husband’s discovery of his wife’s affair underscores the devastation of broken trust. His decision to use cameras, while controversial, stemmed from a gut instinct that her denials couldn’t quiet. The wife’s choice to cheat, especially in their shared home, amplifies the betrayal.

Dr. Shirley Glass, a noted psychologist, wrote, “The betrayal of infidelity is not just in the act itself, but in the secrecy and deception that accompany it”. The wife’s lies, even when confronted, eroded the foundation of their bond, leaving little room for reconciliation.

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Infidelity is a widespread issue—studies estimate 20-25% of married individuals cheat. The wife’s actions reflect a choice to prioritize her desires over her vows, while the husband’s pain mirrors the shock of violated trust.

The husband should prioritize self-care, seeking individual therapy to process his grief. Couples counseling, as suggested, is unlikely to rebuild trust given the wife’s repeated deception. Legal advice is crucial as he navigates divorce.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit users unleashed a torrent of sympathy and outrage, unanimously condemning the wife’s actions. Many called her affair—especially in the couple’s bed—a brazen violation, urging the husband to pursue divorce over counseling.

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Others warned against trusting her remorse, seeing it as regret for getting caught. These fiery takes capture the community’s disdain for betrayal and support for the husband’s resolve.

[Reddit User] − I’m really sorry this happened to you. I wish people could be honest and truthful the first time they are asked before evidence is released.

_never_say_never_ − First of all, get tested for STD’s. Her “friend” might not be exclusive with your wife. Secondly, so sorry about the demise of your marriage. Because even if you go to counseling and decide not to divorce her, the marriage is over. It was over the first time she broke her vow to you to forsake all others.

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Now you know she’s an unfaithful deceitful liar that can look right into your face and demand apologies from you for having perfectly normal suspicions. How could you ever trust her again?. Keep looking for that lawyer.

Lucycat777 − Do not go to couples counseling. That is for repairing a marriage. You don't have a marriage. She blew it up. She needs individual counseling and she is NOT OWED reconciliation. That's up to you only! She is not sorry, she is just sorry she got caught and is losing her security - you.. 

thefixer123456 − I am sorry that you are going through this ordeal.. Here are a few things for you to consider:. \- She continued to cheat on you even after you caught her the first time.. \- She lied right to your face when you asked her about him coming over.. \- She is only upset that she got caught.

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\- Couples counseling will only look to shift blame on you for her cheating. You will end up very frustrated and even more upset + you are wasting money on it. Why do you need counselling when she screwed up? You do not need to humor her on anything at this point.

It doesn't sound like you are going to reconcile but if you decide to take her back, can you trust anything that she tells you?. Are you prepared to police her actions for the next several years?.

I think that the counseling is a waste of time and energy.. Good luck and let us know your next steps! EDIT: One thing I forgot to mention: Cheating is horrible but it goes to another level when she did it in your bed! Burn that thing!

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RabicanShiver − Dude save yourself the hassle and just get a divorce. Your wife fucked another guy. In. Your. Bed. Jesus man...

brianmcg321 − F**k counseling. Just file and kick her out.

CShake420 − She brought an old bf into YOUR house, and had s** with him multiple times. She is g**ter trash. You will never respect yourself if you stay with this woman.

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02201970a − Stand firm on divorce. She didn't make a mistake. She made many conscious decisions to cheat and lie. If you take her back it will just happen again and again.

pschologicaltoe-99 − You know the most annoying thing what she said that WE should go couples councelling she is the seahorse that cheated, not you, she is one that lied, not you. There is no coming back from that and who knows how long its been going for.. Why does she insist on staying when she wants to f**k somebody else.. CHEATERS.

LastResortsSuck − In my opinion, couples counselling is for fixing differences of opinion, building understanding of wants and needs and generally helping people to be a 'couple'.. Why do you WANT that with a woman who does this to you? She's throwing a hail mary because she doesn't want her life to be turned upside down for a fling. Toss her aside. It's not worth the effort.

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This gut-wrenching update lays bare the wreckage of a marriage undone by infidelity. The husband’s shattered trust and the wife’s desperate pleas for counseling highlight the chasm between betrayal and redemption.

As he faces an uncertain future, the story resonates with anyone who’s grappled with broken promises. Share your thoughts—how would you move forward after such a betrayal?

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