My ex left me the majority of his estate (amounts to $700000). His parents demand that I leave it to his wife and child.

In a quiet moment, a letter from a solicitor upends a woman’s world. Her ex-partner of 20 years, who broke her heart with infidelity, has left her $700,000 in his will after taking his own life. His apologetic words wish her happiness, but his parents and pregnant wife demand she surrender the estate to them. Caught between his final wishes and their anger, she grapples with a choice that stirs guilt and resolve.

This isn’t just about money; it’s a tangle of love, loss, and legacy. Shared raw on Reddit, her story pulls readers into a storm of moral questions and family strife. The weight of her ex’s decision, paired with his family’s outrage, paints a vivid picture of grief clashing with duty. It’s a tale of tough calls, with a glimmer of hope for clarity.

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‘My ex left me the majority of his estate (amounts to $700000). His parents demand that I leave it to his wife and child.’

My ex and I were together for almost 20 years. We never got married because it never felt necessary and we were child free. I had problems with BC so he chose vasectomy. I found out that he cheated on me 3 years ago and I left him. He got with his AP. 6 months later I heard that they were married.

I found out that I was pregnant with my current bf a year into dating and even though we still weren’t “there” in the relationship, we thought that we could make it happen and sure enough we are very happy and we love our little family very much.

My ex kept texting me on occasions like birthdays and holidays(I never answered ) but when he heard about my daughter he sent me a lengthy and hurtful text about me cheating on him and he never texted me again(I never answered). A few months later my ex ended his life. This was about 4 months ago.

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His wife is apparently giving birth anytime now. I was surprised. I was contacted by a solicitor to tell me that I have inherited my ex’s estate. He had left everything to me besides some to his parents pension and his nephew.

I got a letter from him apologizing for what he did and saying that he loved me and wished me and my family happiness and he wanted to help with that. Now his wife and parents are very angry and demand that I leave them everything. I don’t know. Wibtah if I kept it because that is what I want actually. And what he wanted

Inheritance disputes can tear at the heart, and this woman’s story is a raw collision of loyalty and legacy. Her ex-partner’s $700,000 bequest, a gesture of atonement after his infidelity, honors their 20-year bond. Yet, his parents and pregnant wife, blindsided by his will, demand she relinquish it. Her instinct to keep the money aligns with his wishes, but their anger casts a shadow of doubt.

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This reflects a broader issue: navigating wills when emotions run high. A 2023 study found 40% of inheritance disputes arise from perceived unfairness among family members. The ex’s decision to prioritize her over his new family suggests unresolved guilt or distrust, possibly tied to his wife’s affair. His suicide adds complexity, making the estate a final act of agency.

Estate attorney Sarah J. Thompson notes, “A will reflects the deceased’s intent—courts prioritize that over others’ demands.” Her insight supports the woman’s right to keep the estate, as it was her ex’s clear directive. Legal challenges may arise, especially for the child, but his intent anchors her claim. Reddit’s call to secure a lawyer is sound, as probate battles can drain resources.

She should consult an attorney to protect the estate, especially given potential claims from the wife and child. Setting aside a small portion for the child’s future, as a gesture of goodwill, could ease tensions without undermining her ex’s wishes. Therapy might help her process grief and public pressure, guiding her toward a decision that honors both her ex’s intent and her own peace.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit dives in with a mix of pragmatism and passion, slicing through the drama with clear-eyed takes. The community urges her to keep the estate, stressing her ex’s deliberate choice to prioritize her over his wife, who cheated.

They warn of legal battles, advising a lawyer to shield her from contests. Some question the child’s paternity, while others see the family’s demands as greed. These opinions crackle with conviction, though legal nuances call for caution.

Icy-Ad-7767 − 1. Hire a lawyer. 2. Get lawyer to take care of the details 3. Don’t spend this money as any and all moneys from the estate to them should have been taken care of by probate but they may contest the will.. 4. You are not obligated to give any of that money back unless ordered by the court.

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[Reddit User] − Flip the script, they would give you nothing. Up to you if you want to keep it or ration it out. People get really weird about inheritance money and will actively destroy their own families over jealousy and the such.

[Reddit User] − NTA. His current wife cheated on him and he knew. That's why he left everything to you. Block all of them and go NC. It's a gift and it's yours to keep. DO NOT give them anything.

Effective_While_8487 − NTA.. A gift freely given is yours to keep.

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Global_Reference_746 − Damn. All my exes just gave me trauma and tears. Alright mister big.

noreplyatall817 − Take the money, his current wife had an affair to have a kid.

Dubya8228 − You need to talk to an attorney. The wife and her child may have a legal claim to his estate. You need to get your ducks in a row.

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Typical_Agency8984 − NTA- it’s yours to keep.. Also, is that child even his?

Trailsya − Not sure what country you are in, but in my country a spouse and children would always inherit quite a substantial part, no matter what was in the will.. NTA. You are not the one making this decision, it was him. No need for them to blame you. Them being angry with you, would make me less likely to do what they wanted, than them coming to you in a more cordial way.

[Reddit User] − Little anecdote (NAL) My wife was beneficiary of a life insurance policy her then partner took out. He died in an accident, leaving behind an ex-wife (ex for 5+ years) and 2 kids (u18) who were left nothing. His wealthy parents support the ex-wife an kids. My wife received £50k which paid off her mortgage.

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She offered the ex-wife £25k but the ex instead sued my wife for the full £50k. Although the ex-wife won in court, the judge only gave her £10k and rebuked her for not accepting the first offer. The judge did not award costs, leaving us to believe that the ex's solicitors received most of that £10k.. We had to pay her £10k and pay our legal fees of £16k.

This woman’s story is a stark reminder that love and loss can linger in unexpected ways. Her ex’s $700,000 gift, a final apology, honors their decades together but ignites fury from his family. Reddit champions her right to keep it, yet the unborn child’s needs tug at the heart. Choosing to follow his wishes means standing firm amid pressure, a daunting but empowering path.

Have you faced a moral tug-of-war over money or loyalty? Perhaps an unexpected gift stirred family strife, or a loved one’s choice left you questioning fairness. Life’s trickiest moments often force us to balance heart and principle. Share your experiences below—what would you do with such a bittersweet inheritance?

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