AITA for letting my toddler destroy 200$?

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In a living room buzzing with birthday cheer, a 1-year-old’s tiny hands clutched a surprising gift: $200 in crisp cash from a stubborn relative. Despite the parent’s protests—warning of inevitable toddler chaos—the relative insisted the child “have his money.” In mere seconds, the bills became confetti, sparking laughter and outrage.

This isn’t just a tale of shredded cash; it’s a clash of common sense and stubborn pride, with a toddler as the gleeful wrecking ball. As the parent shrugs off the relative’s blame, the story asks: when does letting someone learn the hard way cross a line?

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‘AITA for letting my toddler destroy 200$?’

At my 1yo child's birthday some relative gave him 200$. (I) said I'll take it and (R)elative denied. I: don't worry, I spend it on him or put it in his saving account; R: no, i want to give him money myself; I: *surprised pikachu face* that's not the best idea, he will eat it or something;

R: but that's his money and i want him to have it. At this point I'm just tired of this fruitless conversation and said sure, go ahead. And then i watched my son grabbing this money, rotate it in his little hands and tear it to pieces in like 3 sec.

Relative called me names because 'I knew it's gonna happen' and i obviously knew so i couldn't denied. But really is it that shocking, he's 1 for f**k sake and I told her to not give him this money. (On mobile and not native speaker, of course it wasn't 200$ but equivalent in my currency)

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A toddler turning $200 into scraps is peak chaos, but the real mess here is the relative’s refusal to heed the parent’s warning. The parent’s decision to step back, tired of arguing, let the predictable unfold—teaching a lesson, albeit at a cost. The relative’s anger, blaming the parent for “knowing,” ignores their own role in the fiasco.

This taps into a broader parenting truth: setting boundaries with well-meaning but misguided relatives is tricky. Dr. Laura Markham, a parenting expert, notes, “Parents must balance diplomacy with firmness to protect their child’s well-being.” The parent’s initial objection was spot-on—toddlers explore with hands and mouths, not wallets. Yet, their hands-off approach, born of frustration, risks escalating family tension.

Moving forward, the parent could calmly reiterate their reasoning, emphasizing child safety over pride. Keeping the torn bills as a quirky memento, as they plan, adds levity, but a bank replacement could ease friction. For future gifts, suggesting a savings bond or toy might redirect relatives’ generosity.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit roared with laughter and support, siding with the parent and poking fun at the relative’s folly. Here’s what they said:

jackalope78 − NTA. I mean, you told him not to give it to her, what did he think you were trying to do?

[Reddit User] − YTA don't tell your son what to do with his money

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museisnotyours − NTA. You hand a toddler a toy, not actual money.

AnnieJack − NTA. You said he’d eat it or something, the relative insisted on giving it to him. When the relative said you knew he would do that, did you reply, “Yes, I knew and I told you less than 5 minutes ago.”

Pause_And_Breathe − NTA. It’s your child, and if you don’t want something in his mouth, don’t allow someone to bully you into them putting it in their mouth. You knew what was gonna happen.

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RollingKatamari − Lmaooo NTA-why give money in bare cash to a 1-year old, kids that age either put everything in their mouth or f**k s**t up.

thatsnotacracker − NTA- What did they think was going to happen, that the 1 year old was going put that money in the stock market?

trujace − Thank you all for answers, I, in fact, keep the pieces for a entertaining purposes and try replace it in a bank following your advice. Some of you wonder why I let this happen and this can't be real, well, I'm kinda tired-of-your-s**t person and that's my way to cope with dumb persons - I let her do her ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Have great day everyone and don't let toddlers to dig in your wallet

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shenaniganrogue − NTA, of course! What did they expect?! Although I originally read this as 'AITA for letting my toddler destroy 2020?' and my immediate reaction was that's a pretty outrageous burden to lay at the feet of a young child.

[Reddit User] − X: Don't do it, that is a bad idea. Y: I am going to do it. X: Don't do it. Y: I am going to do it. X: Fine.. Y: How dare you let me do it?!?!. WTF? NTA

These Reddit quips are gold, but do they nail the lesson here? Was the parent’s shrug the ultimate win, or should they have pushed harder?

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This toddler’s cash-shredding spree turned a birthday into a lesson in stubbornness, with the parent caught between foresight and frustration. The relative’s blame misses the mark—after all, who hands a 1-year-old cash? Yet, the parent’s laissez-faire move sparks debate. How do you teach a lesson without fueling family drama? Share your thoughts below—have you ever let someone’s bad idea crash and burn, or stepped in to save the day?

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