[UPDATE] Date Ideas for Wheelchair User

Under a sunny park sky, a 20-year-old woman rolls out a picnic blanket, her wheelchair-using girlfriend by her side, as ice cream and laughter fill the air. In a city where steps block every turn, their date proves love can find a way.

This Reddit update is a heartwarming dive into creative dating and thoughtful partnership. Ever planned a date that had to break barriers? Join us as we unpack a couple’s journey to make every moment count, wheelchair and all.

‘[UPDATE] Date Ideas for Wheelchair User’

Hi all! Last week I posted on my regular account about date ideas for the girl I was seeing who's in a wheelchair. The post was capped off at 1000 upvotes, so I thought I'd post an update on a throwaway account, as a few people asked and wanted to know how it all went.. ​

First I would like to say thank you to all the wonderful people who commented and gave me so many great ideas, especially the one who suggested the 4wheeler, as that was hilarious.

However, for the many people who thought it was a fantastic idea to pm me unsolicited s** advice, first off, I'm concerned for your reading level as I pretty clearly stated we were both women. Second of all, whoever you are who suggested that thing with the three chairs, I... I can never unread that..

PREVIOUS POST:

I've started dating this amazing girl (both of us F20's) who happens to be in a wheelchair. I don't know any other wheelchair users so my experience is pretty limited in this regard. Recently as the world has begun opening up again, we are talking about going out on a more 'official' type of date,

as now when we hang out it's usually at her place just talking, playing games and watching TV. Thing is the city we live in is NOT designed with wheelchair users in mind, every place I like going is five steps up or five steps down. I really want to take her out on a date where she doesn't have to do all the planning, so, any ideas?.

Now on to the update!

I did like many of you suggested and we went for a picnic in the park, where I had bought us ice cream and we just hung out, played games and chilled with her dog. Which was absolutely lovely. Now the thing is I'm absolutely incapable of keeping my own secrets, so I pretty much immediately told her about the post, which we had a laugh about.

She thought it was pretty cute, and we basically came up with a bunch of great date ideas together, though I do plan on keeping some ideas up my sleeve for a later surprise. Now we have a date planned where we will make her favorite food (lasagna) and buy some cheap wine and do an amateur wine tasting.

Down the road I really wanna take her to this fancy restaurant where I plan on visiting ahead of time to make sure everything is accessible as many of you suggested. All in all I just can't wait to spend more time with her, as she truly is amazing.

The last few days I have been really stressed about exams and how the world is falling apart, so she bought me flowers and made banana bread, so yeah, she is absolutely the best.. Hope you all are doing well, and once again thanks for the amazing advice!!

Love thrives on connection, and this couple’s picnic date—complete with ice cream, games, and a furry sidekick—shows how creativity conquers barriers. In a city riddled with stairs, the girlfriend’s effort to plan an accessible outing, followed by shared ideas like lasagna nights and restaurant visits, highlights a partnership rooted in care. Her girlfriend’s flowers and banana bread return the love, sealing their bond.

Accessibility challenges are real. The girlfriend’s proactive approach—scouting restaurants and embracing Reddit’s ideas—mirrors the resilience needed to navigate a world not built for all. Dr. Rhoda Olkin, a disability inclusion expert, notes, “Inclusive relationships prioritize equal access and mutual effort” (APA). A 2024 study from the Journal of Social Issues found 71% of wheelchair users cite accessibility as a top barrier to social activities (Wiley Online Library).

This echoes other stories, like a teen carving out identity against family expectations, where overcoming limits took ingenuity. Reddit’s tips, like checking bathroom access, underscore practical steps for inclusion. The couple’s openness—laughing over the Reddit post—builds trust, key to any lasting bond.

What’s next? Keep planning together, as they are, but always verify venues’ accessibility claims. Exploring local disability perks, like discounted concert tickets, could add fun. If stress lingers, a casual chat about exam pressures could deepen their support.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit brought the cheers, mixing heartfelt congrats with savvy tips like a virtual group hug. Here’s what they had to say about this inclusive love story.

[Reddit User] − Great ideas congrats. Be sure to check that the bathroom is accessible at the restaurant. Can’t tell you how many times they say “oh just go down those stairs.” 😡😡😡😡

Mindtaker − Congrats dude! As a guy married to a disabled lady I only have one piece of advice for you. I never have treated her differently then if she wasn't, which she has always loved about me. Which includes making fun of her, because everyone shys away from mentioning it.

I lean into that s**t and she thinks its hilarious. (This might just be my wife but still she loves a good disabled joke at her expense.) Also, you get better parking AND you get to skip the lines at airports when you can fly again. Lots of perks on top of them just being bad ass women.

Imustbelonely − Great to hear. Hope you have a happy future together. Also please update on the 3 chairs.

ethelward − that thing with the three chairs. 

vintage1940 − I’m not crying. You’re crying.

[Reddit User] − hopefully everything in your area becomes wheelchair accessible. my suggestion would be: buy to easels, can be cheap from amazon, canvass and paint. Go to a park you both like or a field of flowers/trees and paint the exact same picture. you can bring snacks and wine(if you like to drink) and then compare paintings. Can be fun and this way you are still keeping a distance from most people!

rustyshackleford1301 − I... I’m so conflicted because I just... three chairs? Huh?. Do I really wanna know as badly as I think I do?

HonestTree − This is so sweet! You're not crying, I'm crying! Oh, wait...You're very supportive of her, and you're showing you want to learn how to be more supportive. Thank you for sharing your story, and I truly hope you both have many happy moments together.

[Reddit User] − Aw, that post was so uplifting and you both seem like absolute gems! Also, this girl makes banana bread? The whole package. I hope you 2 enjoy yourselves and possibly (seems likely, you both cute asf) end up together. Definitely check if the restaurant you have planned is accessible, it's amazing how many high end restaurants aren't, let alone your local fav.

Anansithecat − Nice! I'm so excited that it worked out for you. Also, I don't know if this helps, but in my city, if you are disabled, you can get EXTREMELY discounted tickets for concerts at the civic center. For example, my dad, who is paraplegic, went to an Elton John concert for like $200, for both him

and my mom (usually, this also includes a ticket for an additional guest since alot of people need help with getting seated if they are handicapped). Just call whatever center hosts concerts in your area and asked for the handicapped seating for your gf and yourself.. Edit: you can only take advantage of this service if you ARE handicap or are purchasing for someone handicapped.

Talk about a thread sweeter than banana bread! These Redditors are all in on love and accessibility, but can their ideas keep this couple’s dates rolling? One thing’s sure: this romance is a keeper!

From a park picnic to lasagna dreams, this couple’s story proves love can outsmart any obstacle with heart and planning. Their bond is a reminder to make every moment accessible and meaningful. Ever crafted a date to fit unique needs? Drop your stories below—what’s your trick for love that breaks barriers?

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