A girl [20F] from my [20F] BF’s [20M] class sent him pictures last night.

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Picture a cozy New Year’s night, a young couple snuggled up after fireworks, lost in the glow of new beginnings. Then, a ping on his phone shatters the moment: a classmate, notorious for her sharp tongue and bolder moves, sends revealing photos with a flirty “New Year, New Me.” For a 20-year-old law student, this is the latest jab from a rival who’s insulted her, lied to spark fights, and now won’t back off her boyfriend.

Her story is a fiery mix of love, loyalty, and a med-school mean girl, pulling us into the drama of a relationship tested by an unrelenting third wheel. With university life looming, where this classmate’s a constant presence, we’re left wondering: can this couple keep the peace, or will her antics break them? Let’s dive into this campus clash.

‘A girl [20F] from my [20F] bF’s [20M] class sent him pictures last night.’

Hi all. I'm a law student, and met my boyfriend Tom through mutual friends around the start of our first year. We've been together for eight months now and its the happiest I've ever been. Tom is a medical student, and we're both the first people in our families to make it to higher education.

In Tom's class there is a girl called Isabel. Tom told me she's top of the year and word is going around that she's a ''future world changer'' or something like that. They weren't close friends but she used to help him study sometimes, he says shes so smart that ''anyone would be an i**ot to turn down her help''.

Anyway I didn't meet her until me and Tom were grabbing some food and she came into the same place with her girl friends. The first thing I noticed about her was that she was absolutely gorgeous. Literally a solid 10. They started chatting and she asked who I was.

Tom said (and thinking about this makes me smile) with a huge smile that I was his girlfriend, and Isabel's response was to say ''Thought you had better taste than that?''. I was a bit hurt and Tom was confused, but neither of us thought much of it.

Anyway, we didn't deal with her again until a month or so later when Tom's flatmates left the place to him so he invited me over. We were watching a movie when Tom got a call from Isabel, who was crying, saying she'd been kicked out of a club for being stoned and it was nearby his place, asking if she could stay the night until the morning.

Tom wanted to say no but I didn't want to just leave her out there. When she got in she was absolutely drunk and high as possible. Giggling and laughing and reeking of weed. Her clothes were ruined from where she'd spilt her drink over them.

I helped clean her up. I always bring a change of clothes when I stay away, but I gave them to her to make her more comfortable. Instead of saying thank you she tried to say how ''cheap'' my clothes were and how she wouldn't be seen dead dressed like that.

I tried to tell her not to speak to me like that but she just made fun of my accent and how I speak. I put it down to the alcohol/drugs and didn't hold it against her. Ever since then Tom started to distance himself from her.

He still accepted her help with work but nothing else beyond that, and even that came to an end after she told him she'd only keep helping him if he went out with her. The final straw came not long after we came back for second year.

Myself and Tom went out clubbing. Isabel and her friends were there. Tom got extremely drunk and was being sick in the toilets. He could barely stand up and was confused. One of Isabels friends came up to us and announced to him that she'd seen me kissing another guy while he was being sick.

Tom got hugely emotional and wanted me to confirm/deny it. It took a lot for me to calm him down and convince him it was a lie, by which point Isabel had already ran over to ''comfort'' him. He realised it was her that made up the lie and shouted at her to leave us alone, and she started crying and went to the security accusing us of acting aggressively towards her, at which point we were both kicked out.

Ever since then she has left us alone. We spent Christmas with our families but were together for New Years. After watching the fireworks, we were snuggling in bed when Tom got an insta DM from Isabel. She sent him a few pictures of her with dyed hair and the words ''New Year, New Me.''

Let's just say those pics reveal much more than just her new hair colour. Tom was fuming. He swore at her and blocked her on everything. That's good, but when we go back to uni she's still going to be around. Her and her friends frequent most of the places we go to, and she's still in his class. What's going to stop her from bothering him again? He's said he wants nothing to do with her, but she obviously doesn't feel the same way. 

When a classmate crosses lines with inappropriate photos, it’s not just drama—it’s a power play. This young woman’s boyfriend has shut down his classmate’s advances, but her persistence, from insults to fabricated lies and now suggestive DMs, reeks of manipulation.

Isabel’s behavior—mocking the girlfriend’s appearance, lying about infidelity, and sending unsolicited photos—suggests a pattern of boundary violations. Dr. Lillian Glass, a communication expert, warns, “Such actions can escalate to harassment, aiming to destabilize relationships for control” (DrLillianGlass.com). Her academic prowess doesn’t excuse her disrespect, and her substance-fueled antics raise red flags about stability.

This scenario mirrors broader issues of peer harassment in university settings. A 2023 study from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence found that 25% of college students experience social aggression, often tied to romantic rivalries (Sage Journals). Isabel’s actions, especially the photos, could qualify as sexual harassment under many university codes.

Dr. Glass advises documenting all incidents—screenshots, timestamps, and witness accounts—for a potential complaint to the university’s Title IX office or student conduct board, accessible via resources like Know Your IX. The couple should maintain no contact, block her on all platforms, and inform mutual friends to avoid joint events. If Isabel persists, escalating to faculty or administrators is warranted. The girlfriend should lean on her support network and focus on her boyfriend’s loyalty, ensuring their bond stays strong amid the noise.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The Reddit crew swooped in like a lecture hall buzzing with gossip, slinging support and sharp takes with a side of humor. Here’s the unfiltered vibe from the crowd, crackling with outrage and advice.

ApostateX − That chick is toxic and obsessive. Your boyfriend took the right steps here and has been behaving just the way I would expect a good man to. So bravo to him for how he's handling this. No more kindness or 'benefit of the doubt' should be given to this woman.

Assume all behavior from her is going to be rude and manipulative. If you or Tom are out somewhere and run into her, if you do not HAVE to be at that location, then LEAVE. Make sure your mutual friends in his program know the history you posted here, and that they make sure you guys are not invited to the same events she is.

I don't know a lot about medical school, but if there are group projects or schoolwork that Tom and Isabel are assigned to do together then make sure professors know about her behavior and ask to be reassigned. If she continues this behavior, make sure you have as much documentation of these incidents as possible.

Take it to school administrators as evidence of s**ual harassment. Make sure the university steps in if the behavior escalates. Other than that, keep ignoring and block/delete anywhere you haven't already. Eventually she will either get a clue, move on to someone else, or escalate to the point where university administrators have the authority to get involved. Good luck! She sounds like an absolute p**cho.

shan4478 − If she is world changer then this world will be in bad shape soon. 😀

dragonlady1994 − You got some patience coz the moment she said to my man “I thought you had better taste than that” all hell would’ve broken loose lol you’re an angel

eveavaeve − I think your boyfriend was right to want to say no from the very beginning at the club. She’s obviously playing a damsel in distress and is out to steal your bf. Don’t ignore her snide remarks. Drunk or not. She’s incredibly rude and should be treated as such.

[Reddit User] − Isabel is rude, toxic, psychotic and, by sending Tom those pictures, could be held liable for s**ual harassment. I don’t know what Tom’s medical school’s policies are, but at my school the pictures and her other actions would be a HUGE breach of professionalism. Tom should consider filing a report documenting these things to the school. Judging by her actions, this girl is not fit to be a physician, regardless of how smart she is.

Kholzie − Tom said (and thinking about this makes me smile) with a huge smile that I was his girlfriend, and Isabel's response was to say ''Thought you had better taste than that?''. I think the actual truth is you don’t get far in many careers arrogantly running your mouth like that.

She obviously thinks she shits gold now...but the real world is pretty political and you don’t get very far not having the sense to play the game.. She’s a trashy hot mess and, frankly, at this rate no one is going to take her very seriously.

decolored − You in a movie or what

[Reddit User] − Looks 10/10. Personality -5/10 with her looks eventually going to transition into a dumpster fire at the rate she's going. She'll be the next heroine addict poster child.. ​. Anyway. TL;DR; I would have him start blocking her on any social media, and if she reaches out to him anyway, save the messages followed by, 'Don't message me. I've blocked you' and then eventually you'll have a big pile of stuff for a restraining order.

glovesforfeet − A little shocked people like her exist...

jerry_espinosa − Your mans is a keeper.

Redditors hailed the boyfriend’s loyalty but urged zero tolerance for Isabel’s games, from dodging her at clubs to reporting her to the university. Their mix of applause and alarm stirs the pot—are they nailing the strategy, or just amping up the drama? One thing’s clear: this classmate’s chaos has everyone talking.

This couple’s love story, tested by a classmate’s toxic antics, is a reminder that loyalty can shine even in a storm of jealousy. With the boyfriend blocking her and the girlfriend standing firm, they’re fighting for their peace—but university life means she’s still in the picture. Reddit’s rooting for a hard line, but navigating this mess takes finesse. Have you ever dealt with someone trying to wedge into your relationship? What would you do in their shoes? Share your take and let’s keep the convo rolling.

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