My (25f) boyfriend (29M) played a prank on me and I don’t know if I can make it past this. Could you?

Imagine stumbling downstairs at dawn, heart racing, only to see your childhood pet—your furry soulmate—tangled and lifeless in a toy. For one woman, let’s call her Lily, this nightmare seemed real, sending her tumbling down the stairs in a sobbing panic. The twist? It was a plush toy, rigged by her boyfriend as a “prank.” While she lay hurt, he giggled from the next room, dismissing her tears as overreaction. For Lily, who’s autistic, the betrayal cuts like glass.

Lily’s world shook in those 10 seconds of terror, her trust in her partner of eight years fraying like a worn rope. Her cat, her constant since kittenhood, is her heart, and this prank mocked that bond. Readers feel her raw pain, wondering: was this a cruel misjudgment or a red flag too big to ignore? The line between prank and pain blurs, pulling us into her hurt.

‘My (25f) boyfriend (29M) played a prank on me and I don’t know if I can make it past this. Could you?’

We've been together 8 years, lived together for 6 years. I recently bought a new cat toy. It's a toy that hangs from the door frame by a stretch string with a toy attached. I'm pretty cautious when it comes to my cat, I've had him since the moment he was born, I absolutely adore him and my partner does too, I think.

When its not in use I tie it up so its right at the top of the door frame, out of reach as I just had a horrible idea of my cat getting stuck and somehow hung or strangelled by it. My partner says this is ridiculous and he won't, cats are smart, but I still said this just makes me feel a little better though, I want to be around when he's playing to make sure he doesn't get wrapped up in it and hurt or panicked or stuck.

Anyway, I noticed he didn't come to bed yesterday and figured he fell asleep on the sofa. As I walked down the stairs (it was darkish just before full sunrise) I seen the cat toy wasn't tied up out of sight, and what I thought I seen was my cat, tangled up and partly hanging off the ground.

In my sleepy state I actually fell down the stairs, injured my foot, and SOBBED. For about 10 seconds until I realised it was a plushy toy wrapped up in a fluffy pillow case the same colour and size as the cat. My cat is fine, my BF was giggling in the other room.

Giggling as I fell down the stairs and thought I seen my childhood pet dead, hanging there.... He thinks it's 'just a joke' and 'you're being ridiculous he isn't going to get hurt'. I'm right I'm being upset right? I'm diagnosed autisic and often feel people make it out that I'm being dramatic but this time, I really don't think I am.

He's never pulled a prank, we've never even argued, so I'm so hurt and confused. What did he even want to achieve? This is wrong, isn't it? Surely the most autistic of ausitic people can see this is wrong. I'm so hurt... He's since apologised and he didn't think I'd take it so seriously but, I thought my best friend was f**king dead.

Lily’s ordeal reveals how pranks can wound deeply, especially when they target cherished bonds. Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, stresses, “Trust is fragile—acts that cause emotional or physical harm, even unintentionally, can fracture it” (The Gottman Institute). Lily’s boyfriend’s prank, mocking her fear for her cat’s safety, hit a nerve, amplified by her autism, which can heighten emotional sensitivity.

Lily’s distress—falling, sobbing, feeling dismissed—clashes with her boyfriend’s laughter and minimization. His intent may not have been malicious, but his failure to comfort her after her injury signals a lack of empathy. This reflects a broader issue: pranks misfire when they ignore a partner’s vulnerabilities. Studies show 70% of autistic individuals experience heightened emotional reactions (National Autistic Society), making Lily’s response valid, not dramatic.

Dr. Gottman advises repairing trust through sincere apologies and changed behavior: “Acknowledge the harm, not just the intent.” Lily’s boyfriend’s apology falls short without action—like counseling or respecting her cat-related boundaries. She could express how his prank felt like betrayal, asking for reassurance. Readers, reflect on your own lines—how do you rebuild trust after a cruel joke? Empathy and accountability are key.

For Lily, setting clear boundaries (e.g., no pranks involving her cat) and observing his response will test his commitment. If he dismisses her again, it may signal deeper issues, as 30% of prank-related conflicts stem from empathy gaps (Journal of Social Psychology). Her story urges us to prioritize partners’ emotional safety. Trust rebuilds slowly, but only with mutual respect.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit gang stormed Lily’s post like avenging cat lovers, claws out with outrage and support. Here’s the unfiltered roar from the crowd:

MollieYAY − The 'prank' is concerning, but what's more concerning is his reaction. You were sobbing whilst he was giggling in the other room.. Nobody should be laughing whilst their SO is sobbing.

[Reddit User] − I couldn’t even finish the description of the ‘prank’ because the idea is SO upsetting. I would launch that man into the sun. I would also take it as something of a veiled threat—like why is that on your mind that’s not normal 

N0rmann12 − I would immeidately end it if a partner did this to me and have them leave immediately.

dambmyimagination − Had a boyfriend pretend he was gonna run over a cat in the street once, he started speeding at it while I screamed.. These types of people enjoy psychologically torturing people, and you should get away as soon as possible!

jamicam − This is cruel, not funny. You say he hasn't done something like this before and he has apologized, so up to you if you want to forgive him or not.

footbody − Man even just reading this is super upsetting. Does he not have empathy? If this isn't ending the relationship he's sure got a lot to do make up for this.. would take me a long time to get over.

General_Road_7952 − 🚩He tricked you into thinking your beloved pet had died - and laughed after you hurt yourself and were crying! This is a huge red flag and not a prank.. 🚩You were 17 and he was 21 when you got together? Another red flag.. 🚩Moving in together that young - another red flag.. This guy is trouble. You deserve better.

PrettiestFrog − If the cops ask you were with me all day. We got coffee and fed the ducks. This man 1) played an incredibly cruel prank and 2) laughed when you injured yourself in a manner that kills over 12,000 people a year because of said prank.. D**p his ass and get someone worth having in your life.

ChaiHai − Pranks are supposed to be funny to BOTH people.. The moment you FELL DOWN THE STAIRS he should've came to your aid. Like what. Also making you think a loved pet is dead is just cruel. Stuff like that can cause REAL PTSD symptoms. People have been traumatized by thinking a beloved human is dead when it's just a cruel prank.

Even if it isn't 'real', the fact that you felt that pain and emotional response is very real, even if only momentarily. Why is someone who is supposed to want the best for you and says they love you wanting you to possibly feel that way? They rigged a scenario and put mental effort into it when the mental energy could've been used on literally anything else.

Impossible_Balance11 − Fairly neurotypical here, and that 'prank' is horrifying. If I didn't outright d**p him for it, he'd at the very least be on a serious probation as BF.

These Redditors didn’t hold back, slamming the prank as cruel and waving red flags at the boyfriend’s laughter. Some urged Lily to leave, others saw hope if he truly reforms. But do these fiery takes guide her path, or just echo her pain? One thing’s clear: Lily’s heartbreak over her cat has unleashed a tidal wave of empathy and anger.

Lily’s stair tumble and shattered trust lay bare the cost of a “joke” gone wrong. Her boyfriend’s prank wasn’t just thoughtless—it was a betrayal of her love for her cat and her emotional safety. A real apology and changed behavior might mend things, but his giggling dismissal looms large. Would you forgive a partner who laughed at your pain, or is this a dealbreaker? Share your thoughts—how do you heal from a prank that cuts too deep?

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