WIBTA for not returning my dog to her previous owner?

In a cozy apartment filled with the soft patter of paws, a young woman’s heart sank as her phone buzzed with an unexpected message. Her beloved dog, Basil, a three-year-old bundle of fur with a charming limp, had become her world over the past year. Rescued from a shelter, Basil’s recovery from a painful injury had forged an unbreakable bond between them. But now, a stranger claiming to be Basil’s previous owner was stirring up a storm, demanding her return.

This isn’t just a tale of a dog and her human—it’s a tug-of-war between love, duty, and tough choices. The woman’s joy in nurturing Basil clashes with the guilt of denying someone who once cared for her. Readers can’t help but wonder: what’s fair when a pet’s heart is at stake? The story unfolds with raw emotion, pulling us into a dilemma that’s as heartwarming as it is heart-wrenching.

‘WIBTA for not returning my dog to her previous owner?’

I've (26F) had my dog basil (3F) for about a year now. i got her from a shelter and i knew she had been surrendered by her previous owner (she had a limp there which turned out to be an improperly healed fracture). i had kinda gotten the idea that her previous owner either didn't want her anymore because of the injury or because they couldn't afford to take her to the vet.

I've helped her recover from it and she's been able to walk around just fine now for a few months (although she does still have her limp sometimes when she runs). This is the part im conflicted about. Someone claiming to be basil's previous owner (??M) messaged me on insta yesterday. I dont think the shelter would have given him my personal information so he mustve just seen one of my pictures of basil somehow.

But he wants her back. He showed me some of his pictures of her and it really does look like her. he said he's more financially stable now and the only reason he surrendered her in the first place was because he couldnt afford the vet bill. i really don't know what to do here. i do not want to give up basil. I love her so much and she is such a sweet dog.

But i keep thinking about what i would do if i was in that guy's situation. I'd feel horrible too :( but i have really bonded with basil especially in helping her recover from her injury. I havent responded yet but im leaning towards saying no. Im worried that he'll guilt trip me though. WIBTA if i didn't give her back?

EDIT: thank you to everyone who has replied. I won't be returning basil. i've blocked him and changed my insta to private. she's microchipped already and i'll be more careful about what i share of her online just in case.

Navigating a pet’s past can feel like tiptoeing through an emotional minefield. For the woman in this story, Basil’s previous owner’s request stirred a whirlwind of loyalty and doubt. On one side, she’s poured her heart into Basil’s recovery, transforming a limping pup into a joyful companion. On the other, the previous owner’s financial struggles led to a tough but responsible surrender. Both sides tug at the heart, but the clash reveals deeper questions about pet ownership and responsibility.

This dilemma isn’t unique. According to the ASPCA, about 6.3 million pets enter U.S. shelters annually, many surrendered due to financial hardship (aspca.org). The woman’s bond with Basil reflects the commitment shelters hope for, while the previous owner’s outreach highlights the pain of letting go. Legally, surrender typically severs ownership rights, as most states view it as a permanent transfer.

Dr. Alexandra Horowitz, a canine behavior expert, notes, “Dogs form strong attachments to those who care for them consistently” (nytimes.com). Basil’s recovery under the woman’s care suggests a deep bond, and disrupting it could stress the dog. Horowitz’s insight underscores why the woman’s instinct to keep Basil aligns with the pup’s well-being.

For solutions, clear communication is key. The woman could kindly explain Basil’s happy life, reassuring the previous owner while firmly declining. Registering Basil’s microchip and informing the shelter about the contact, as Redditors suggested, adds legal protection. This case reminds us that pet adoption is a lifelong promise.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit’s got a knack for serving up opinions as spicy as a food truck taco. Here’s a roundup of what the community had to say, raw and unfiltered:

YEGredditOilers − NTA. Buddy surrendered the dog. It isn't his place to ask for the dog back.

Caspian4136 − NTA Block him and forget he ever messaged you. If it's him, it's his loss as he gave her up. It could be a scammer looking for a bait dog though. Either way, she's YOUR dog now.

vladadog − Make sure Basil is microchipped and the chip is registered. NTA. You legally adopted a dog freely surrendered to a shelter. You've had her a year and invested love, time, and $$$. She is your dog. I've been doing rescue for over 25 years. I am very sympathetic to Basil's previous owner.

I don't blame him for doing what was best for her at the time or for reaching out now hping perhaps you weren't so attached to her. He didn't abandon her chained to a fence or dumped out by 'farm'. He did the responsible thing to give her the best chance he could.

If I were you I'd (of course) not give her up but be kind and reassure him she's doing really well now even with the residual limp. He made a hard choice. Basil got very lucky. And there's no going back now.. AND == make sure Basil is microchipped and the chip is registered!

A_platipi-duo − NTA you were willing and able to take care of basil... the previous owner cared more about his wallet than basil and I wouldn't put it past him to do it again if there's ever another bill ... I treat my pets as family I would never give them up to avoid a bill and then demand them back from someone who took them into their family... pure and simple he gave up basil (his family) because of money

madamesim − If we must surrender our pets because an unfortunate situation like this, we accept the fact we are doing just that: giving them up in hopes of someone being able to provide a better life. And that is what you did, you were able to provide that, and you shouldn’t have to give the dog back because things changed for them.

We had to do the same thing once, and we never dreamed of going back and asking for them to return them to us. If he’s in a better place now he should look into doing for another shelter dog what you did for his, since his old has a nice loving home now, and go find one that he can provide a better life for.

txa1265 − NTA States have their own rules, but in NY for example surrendering means completely eliminating all claims of ownership to the animal. Because EVERY shelter has countless tales of people who can't afford or don't want to deal with treatment but then want the animal back after someone dealt with it. We adopted a dog at 9 months as his third home who was deemed 'unadoptable' ...

and while he was a handful we did a full round of training all the way through 'canine good citizen' ... then the shelter posted a picture of him with his ribbon and one of the families that gave him up raised a stink trying to get him back. Nope. (reality is we still deal with after-effects of how they 'contained' his energy and he is about to turn 8!). So no. They surrendered, you adopted, and if the shelter gave your info that is HIGHLY unethical!

Meteorite42 − I'd also recommend you let staff at the shelter where you got Basil know.. NTA for not wanting to return Basil to an unstable home environment.

Steampunkpug − He surrendered her. You legally adopted the dog from the shelter. She is your dog. I’ve been in a similar situation, but the shelter reached out first though and gave me all of his info. Enjoy the time you have with your pup!

renee4310 − Keep her. I would . She’s already been through enough.

New_Reaction3715 − Nope. Please don't give him the dog.. What happens if Basil has another illness or issue? That previous owner is not fit to have any pets.. I would suggest you block him. Register a police complaint. Alert the shelter. Put up CCTV in your home.

These hot takes from Reddit are bold, but do they capture the full picture? Some see it as a clear-cut case of ownership, while others weave in compassion for the previous owner’s choice. It’s a mixed bag—kind of like a dog park on a sunny day.

This story of Basil and her devoted owner leaves us pondering the messy, beautiful bonds between humans and their pets. The woman’s choice to keep her furry friend speaks to the love that grows through care and time, but it’s hard not to feel a twinge for the previous owner’s loss. What would you do if a past owner knocked on your door, asking for your pet back? Drop your thoughts below—let’s get this discussion barking!

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