[UPDATE] AITA For Doubting My Late Boyfriend’s Loyalty After Mysterious Discoveries?

In the stillness of a cemetery, a 29-year-old woman stood frozen, her heart racing as she faced a stranger by her late boyfriend’s grave. Weeks earlier, a box marked with her initial had sparked fears that the man she loved for three years, taken tragically just a month ago, might have betrayed her. Grief had already shattered her world, but doubt threatened to tarnish the memories she clung to. Now, an unexpected encounter promises answers—will it heal or break her further?

Her journey, raw and unraveling, captures the fragile dance between mourning and mistrust. Supported by therapy and her mother’s embrace, she’s inching toward healing, yet the shadow of that box and the woman’s tears looms large. Readers, step into a story of loss, courage, and the quest for truth amid heartbreak.

For those who want to read the previous part: AITA For Doubting My Late Boyfriend’s Loyalty After Mysterious Discoveries?

‘[UPDATE] AITA For Doubting My Late Boyfriend’s Loyalty After Mysterious Discoveries?’

Hi, it's been a little while since I was here totally paranoid about something absurd to be honest when I made the post I expected a different reaction like people saying 'open the box go and confront the ex-girlfriend!' I was looking for support because I knew it was crazy. I'm very happy to have found such kind people who cared about me without knowing me.

After posting I really knew I wasn't okay and I had to take care of my mental health the first thing I did was call my mom and tell her I needed help because I was going downhill she came in less than an hour that whole night I cried in her arms afterwards she helped me find out about a psychologist,

and we also found a thanatologist, we were able to schedule an appointment a few days later so far I had a few sessions I won't lie and say I'm fine now because I still feel like life sucks for taking it away from me and sometimes I feel like I'm floating disconnected of the world or I forget that he is no longer here and my first instinct is to look for him or call him if something happens to me, it is being difficult but at least I already asked for help and I am receiving it.

So I'm in a better place now but there's still a long way to go and I know I have to do it without him. Regarding the box I thought about returning it to his mom but I really thought it was most likely about his ex  (it was) and I didn't want his mom to feel bad for giving me something that wasn't mine I decided to give it to his friend,

and for him to get her into the right hands, he has truly been a rock for me even though he is also grieving because he lost his best friend (they were friends since high school and studied the same in college). The general reason for this update is that a few days ago I spoke with her, I know, I know that everyone was against contacting her but it was not intentional and the truth is, beyond hurting myself, I felt much better afterwards.

I ended up seeing her again in the cemetery I approached her at first she just looked at me confused when I told her who I was she just saw me the way everyone sees me lately with pity. We were silent for what seemed like an eternity and then she started telling me something funny about him when he was a kid she told me a lot of things that I didn't know about him I must say she was very kind,

and sweet and she is so much like him in personality and maybe it's because they grew up together or because I feel so desperate to find him somewhere but I really felt that they had the same way of speaking and the same sense of humor, even though she was very afraid to talk about their time as a couple it ended me telling me a little about them she told me that for some reason or another they were never able to fit together as a couple even though they loved each other so they decided to walk away before getting hurt.

It turns out that the last time they spoke was 2 years ago when he wrote to congratulate her on her wedding, they didn't talk much beyond wishing each other the best. She told me that she was glad that he had found a person like me and that he had been happy. Also thanked me for the box she said that it contains very valuable things for her. That was all.

There was no infidelity and she only confirmed that he was a wonderful person and I was very lucky to have met him. The only thing that made me sad was that even though he was always the best with me, I came to doubt his integrity as a person. Now I just have to continue with the therapy and try hard to learn to live without him. Thank you all.

Navigating grief is daunting; adding suspicion is like walking through fog with a flickering lantern. This woman’s encounter with her late boyfriend’s ex at his grave transformed her fear of betrayal into a bittersweet connection, confirming his fidelity. Her choice to hand the box to a friend, avoiding its emotional weight, and her accidental meeting with the ex show a delicate balance of self-preservation and truth-seeking.

Grief expert David Kessler notes, “Closure in grief often comes from embracing the unknown, not forcing answers” (Grief.com). Her relief at learning the ex’s last contact was a wedding congratulations two years ago aligns with this, restoring her boyfriend’s image. Yet, her guilt for doubting him highlights grief’s complexity—love persists, but so does human fallibility.

A 2022 study found 55% of bereaved individuals seek therapy to process unresolved emotions (American Psychological Association). Her therapy, including thanatology, is a vital step, addressing both loss and the shame of her doubts. The ex’s shared stories, mirroring his humor, offered a bridge to his past, enriching her memories without breaking them.

For next steps, she should continue therapy to process guilt and lean on supportive friends, like her boyfriend’s friend, for grounding. Journaling about her boyfriend’s positive traits could reinforce his legacy.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit’s back with a mix of compassion and frustration, cheering her closure while calling out those who missed the update’s point. Here’s the community’s take, served with empathy and a pinch of sass:

Wchijafm − Had to Google this but for others: A thanatologist is someone who studies death and dying from multiple perspectives—medical, physical, psychological, spiritual, ethical, and more. Professionals in a wide range of disciplines use thanatology to inform their work, from doctors and coroners to hospice workers and grief counselors.

WeeklyConversation8 − People read the post. It literally says **UPDATE**. She talked to his ex. **There was no cheating**. She's married and they last talked two years ago.

marblefree − I am glad you got closure. I'm a widow and it can be so difficult. It's the stupid stuff like a show recording that he watched or a new song coming out from a band he liked.. Sending hugs.

Cr4ckdaddy − It’s like none of you in the comments even read the post

violue − WOW at all the people clearly responding based on the title.. OP, I'm glad you've gotten closure on this whole thing and even some new stories of your late boyfriend.

[Reddit User] − It doesn’t make sense to, but I absolutely understand the desire to. I had an ex girlfriend like 25 years ago who a friend told me had 3rd hand information she cheated one night with a then buddy of mine. There was no proof, they both denied it, and I chose to believe them. We continued dating another year before breaking up amicably because we were moving to different states.

I’ve been happily with my wife for 16 years. Great family, things are going really well. As happens in life I’ve long since lost contact with both of them. Whether it actually happened or not is completely irrelevant to my life right now. That being said, if there were a magical oracle I could pay to give me a 100% true answer as to if it happened, I’d pay up.

jonasnoble − I'm very very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you met with her, and hopefully have begun your journey to healing.

JeffyTheQuick2 − Bravery conquers the worst (your fears of his infidelity) and gets the best results (the kind truth about him and her). I'm glad you two had the time together that you did, and talked with the woman who is also grieving losing a friend, and am also happy that his memory is untarnished; in fact it is better now.. I hope some day you find love like his again, and in time, you will.

cruelty − OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. This brought a tear to my eye. I think a tough truth is that there will always be a part of the people we love that we will never fully know. His ex doesn't know the man you knew, and you don't fully know the man she knew. But together, you've both grown and become the people you are because of him.

It makes sense that you recognized a part of him in her. She most likely saw a part of him in you. You'll carry that forever. I hope there is beauty to be found in that sentiment for you. Thank you for sharing your story, and please take care of your heart.

afreerideeveryday − I'm glad you could get closure

These Redditors celebrate her peace, but some misread the plot—does closure always need every detail, or is letting go enough?

This woman’s odyssey through grief and doubt is a testament to resilience. From a box that sparked fear to a cemetery chat that restored faith, she’s reclaiming her boyfriend’s memory while healing her own heart. Her story begs the question: how do you honor a loved one’s legacy when questions linger? Have you faced doubts about someone you lost? Share your experiences below—let’s explore the messy, beautiful road to closure together!

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