26F my boyfriend 33M has some gross habits?

Picture this: you’re snuggled in bed, drifting in that cozy haze of morning sleep, when a loud, wet honk jolts you awake. That’s the rude awakening a 26-year-old woman got, only to discover her boyfriend was blowing his nose… into his hand. Three weeks into cohabitation, her dream of domestic bliss has turned into a snot-smeared nightmare. Repulsed and rattled, she’s questioning not just their sheets but their entire relationship.

This Reddit saga is a cringe-inducing dive into the unglamorous side of living together, where love meets laundry—and a serious lack of tissues. It’s a tale that makes you laugh, gag, and wonder: how do you handle a partner whose habits are, well, utterly gross? Let’s wade through this messy situation and see if there’s a clean way out.

’26F my boyfriend 33M has some gross habits?’

My boyfriend has some gross habits. My boyfriend is honestly so gross sometimes. He has a perpetually stuffy nose and I have found his boogers on walls, in the shower, on hand towels etc. whenever I hear him blow his nose I get triggered. This morning we are in bed sleeping and I hear him blow his nose like 6 times. Loud as hell etc.

I turned around on the last one bc it was annoying and there is nothing visible that he’s blowing his nose into. So I asked him where the f**k he’s blowing his nose and he says his hand… He has been blowing his nose and wiping his boogers god only knows where. On the blanket we both sleep with? The sheets?? I am sick and disgusted thinking about this. He’s M33 I’m F26. We’ve been together a bit over a year.

Probably approaching 1.5 years, however we just moved in together 3 weeks ago. I knew he was gross, but I just can’t do this. It makes me so repulsed that I can hardly fathom having s** etc. Especially since there are probably boogers on out f**king bed.. Every time I bring this up he gets defensive and says he can’t help his nose is stuffy etc.. Part of this was just venting, but what would you guys do if this was your partner.

Cohabitation can be a love nest or a petri dish, and this couple’s story leans hard into the latter. The boyfriend’s nose-blowing antics—smearing boogers on walls, towels, and possibly their bed—aren’t just gross; they’re a hygiene red flag. His defensive “I can’t help it” dismisses his partner’s valid disgust, while she’s left scrubbing both their apartment and her fading attraction. It’s a classic clash of respect versus recklessness.

Poor hygiene in relationships isn’t just a quirk—it’s a dealbreaker for many. A 2019 YouGov poll found 59% of people would end a relationship over bad hygiene (today.yougov.com). Relationship therapist Dr. Laura Berman notes, “Hygiene reflects respect for your partner and shared space. Ignoring it can erode intimacy” (www.oprah.com). Here, the boyfriend’s habits signal a deeper disregard.

Dr. Berman’s perspective underscores the need for boundaries. The woman could calmly explain how his actions affect her comfort and attraction, proposing clear expectations—like using tissues and cleaning up. If he doubles down, she may need to reconsider cohabitation.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving up a mix of horror, humor, and hard truths. From calls to flee to tales of their own hygiene nightmares, the community’s reactions are as raw as the situation itself.

[Reddit User] − okay, that's enough of reddit for today.

Amar_Akbar_Anthony20 − I knew he was gross, but I just can’t do this.. Then dont

NotSoMuch_IntoThis − That’s the beauty of dating. You have no legally binding contract to stay with them if they turn out to be f**king psychopaths or whatever this is.

Behla_Babe_96 − My ex husband had IBS-D meaning he basically had explosive diarrhea multiple times a day. I can't tell you how many times I'd go in the bathroom and they're would be literal s**t everywhere... on the toilet seat, the sink, the floor, the mat...

and I swear I, an adult, had to spend half my time telling him, another grown as adult, to clean up his mess. I fell completely out of love with him and towards the end I wouldn't even touch or talk to him, the very sight of him made me want to vomit. Get out while you can!

BigBunnyButt − I would leave. This is disgusting, kids have better manners.

Growell − Every time I bring this up he gets defensive and says he can’t help his nose is stuffy etc. I have bad allergies to the point where even things like Allegra only reduces symptoms. I still don't put my boogers all over the place.. He can't help his stuffy nose, but he can help what he does with the boogers.

MonkRocker − Good lord, girl.. what would you guys do if this was your partner. LEAVE.. Choose better next time.

-too-hot-to-handle- − I don't think I would stay with someone like this. I don't think anyone *should*.

recyclopath_ − You're THREE WEEKS IN to living together and he is THIRTY THREE blowing BOOGERS EVERYWHERE!?. Abort. Get the F**K OUT! You can't fix this! If it's this bad after the weeks, what other horrifying habits do you think you'll find in a few months if you stay!?

Chance-Antelope3291 − Imagine if he was single. Jesus christ. This is basic hygiene and respect. What are you doing??

But are these Redditors onto something, or just piling on the disgust? One thing’s clear: they’re united in urging this woman to grab a tissue—and maybe a new address—before things get stickier.

This tale of boogers and boundaries reminds us that love doesn’t always conquer all, especially when hygiene’s on the line. The young woman faces a choice: confront her boyfriend’s gross habits or pack her bags. What’s your take? Have you ever dealt with a partner’s dealbreaker quirk? How would you handle snot-gate in your own home? Drop your thoughts below and let’s clean up this messy debate!

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