AIW for accusing girlfriend of cheating on me? (Found pregnancy test)

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A routine errand turned into a gut-punch for a man when he picked up his girlfriend’s Target order and found a pregnancy test she didn’t mention. After a year together, trust was already shaky—her late-night calls with “friend” Jesse and a week-long visit to his home, despite his objections, had planted seeds of doubt. Her excuses for the test, from blaming her sister to claiming it regulates PMS, unraveled fast, and a late-night search through her iPad confirmed his worst fear: she slept with Jesse.

Now, heartbreak and betrayal collide as he plans to end things. Readers, dive into this raw tale of suspicion and shattered trust. Was he wrong to accuse her, or did his instincts save him from deeper pain? Let’s unpack this emotional rollercoaster and explore what’s next for a man blindsided by love.

‘AIW for accusing girlfriend of cheating on me? (Found pregnancy test)’

So my girlfriend and I have been together for just under a year. We don’t live together and both work full time and we are exclusive, as far as I’m aware. About a 3 months ago, I notice my girlfriend spending a lot of time on the phone with her “friend” Jesse. She says that Jesse is a good friend and that’s it.

However she often spends anytime she can on the phone with him, even when her and I are out. Their conversations don’t lead me to think anything but about 1.5 months ago, my girlfriend says she’s going to visit Jesse who lives two states over. I can’t go cause I have to work. Of course I tell her that I’m not comfortable with her visiting a male friend out of state but she says that Jesse is just a friend.

She will be staying at his place but Jesse is also a single father of 2 young boys so my girlfriend assures me nothing will happen. Despite me voicing my opinion, my gf takes the trip and shares her location to put my mind at ease. She returns a week later and we move on with life. However, about two weeks ago, my girlfriend asks me to go to our local Target to pick up an online order she had placed.

She tells me she ordered shampoo and a few hygiene items. I agree and go to pick up her order. When I get to the customer service counter and give them her name, they bring out a bag with a pregnancy test in it. Shocked and confused, I tell them that this what she ordered. I check the name and phone number attached to the bag and find it matches my girlfriend’s number so it couldn’t have been another girl with the same name.

They bring out the bag with the items she told me to get and I leave without asking more questions about the pregnancy test. Shocked and confused by this cause there was no real way that I could have potentially impregnated her (we use protection) I later ask her why there was a pregnancy test at target in her name.

At first she says she has no idea and she did not order a pregnancy test. I asked her to show me her target app to prove it and she says that it was probably her sister since her sister uses her target account to order things sometimes. She also claims that women sometimes use pregnancy test to regulate their PMS or for other things other than to determine if they’re pregnant.

I don’t know s**t about how this works but she assures me that she’s not pregnant and that test wasn’t a sign of her cheating when she was on a trip. The other night we go out to dinner and she makes it a point to prove that she isn’t pregnant by ordering a few cocktails. Am I wrong for accusing my girlfriend for cheating on me while she was away? I’m so paranoid but also don’t have real proof that she did.

Update: I never saw the pregnancy test after that so I don’t know if that truly was an order she made by mistake or if her sister used her target account to order that got herself. However I did bring up the fact that her sister lives about 20 minutes from her

and has a target much closer to her so why would she place an order for a pregnancy test and have the pickup location further from her house? Even if her local target was all out, I find it hard to believe that her sister would order a pregnancy test under her account and pick it up near her house.

Updateme: so I went into a panic last night after reading all the comments so while she was out at work last night, I went to her apartment (she gave me a key) and found her iPad. I tried putting her birthday as a password and to my amazement, it worked.

Yes I know what I did was dishonest but I had to know if she cheated on me. I looked at her messages and confirmed that she INDEED had s** with Jesse while on this trip. I’m so devastated and was a nervous wreck last night. My next move is to figure out how to break up with her and tell her how I found out. Thank you all.

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Discovering a hidden pregnancy test would rattle anyone, but for this man, it was the final straw in a relationship already strained by mistrust. His girlfriend’s frequent calls with Jesse, her out-of-state visit, and her evasive responses—blaming her sister, then inventing a bizarre “PMS regulation” excuse—screamed deception. Accessing her iPad, though a breach of privacy, confirmed her infidelity, leaving him to navigate the wreckage of their relationship.

This scenario highlights the fragility of trust in romantic partnerships. A 2022 study in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that 67% of relationships with suspected infidelity suffer from communication breakdowns, often exacerbated by vague or dishonest explanations. Her refusal to show her Target app and her implausible excuses align with classic deflection tactics. Pregnancy tests, as Reddit users clarified, detect pregnancy—not regulate periods—making her lie particularly glaring.

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, notes, “Trust is built through transparency; betrayal thrives in secrecy”. The girlfriend’s decision to visit Jesse, ignoring her boyfriend’s discomfort, and her subsequent dishonesty eroded that trust. While his iPad search crossed an ethical line, it stemmed from desperation to confirm suspicions her actions fueled. The confirmation of her affair justifies his decision to end the relationship, but confronting her requires care to avoid escalation.

Experts advise a calm, direct breakup, stating the betrayal without revealing how he accessed her messages to protect himself from accusations of snooping. He should preserve evidence, like screenshots, for potential legal or social fallout, especially if the pregnancy test indicates a child. Therapy can help process the betrayal, and leaning on friends or family will ease the transition.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s dropping truth bombs sharper than a Target receipt! Here’s what the community had to say:

ohmyyespls − women use birth control to regulate periods, not pregnancy tests.

Fairmount1955 − One point of fact:

GenoFlower − Sure, the pregnancy test could have been placed in her order by error, but then she'd have just shown you the app to prove she didn't order it and wouldn't have blamed her sister. She also wouldn't have lied about women using pregnancy tests to regulate PMS - this is absolutely not the truth and you should be insulted by this lie. The only thing pregnancy tests are used for is to determine if women are pregnant.

That's it. She has changed the story like 5 times, and you want to believe her so much that you are starting to believe her.. Her having cocktails proves nothing except that the pregnancy test was negative. She went to stay with Jesse despite your reservations about it, lied about the pregnancy test, and is making you think you are paranoid for thinking she cheated - without protection, probably.

No_Coffee_4339 − The pregnancy test isn’t a sign of her cheating but her reasoning is. Pregnancy tests don’t regulate anything. Her changing stories and excuses are all you need to hear to know she is hiding something from you.

BooksandStarsNerd − Lmao I'm a women and we definitely don't use those to regulate anything other than if we are pregnant. Even with protection you should realize you CAN get her pregnant. Those protections fail all the time they aren't %100 for a reason.. Still I'd put money she fucked Jesse too.. NTA

RarityZ − The funniest part of this to me is sharing location to put your mind at ease, she's gonna be at that dudes house bein fucked why would the location make you feel better 

Bright_Athlete_8579 − Dude she cheated.. Women don’t use pregnancy tests to regale anything. Don’t be an i**ot

Creepy_Addict − She cheated, didn't use protection and thinks she is pregnant. *Or your BC failed and it's yours.* Women do not use a pregnancy test for anything other than to see if they are pregnant :source, I am a woman.. Edit - italics for added sentence

tangential_quip − Anyone who thinks

Significant_City302 − How does a pregnancy test regulate the period???? Genuinely curious to know because that's a new one for me. Yes she is totally being shaddy about it.. Also you can get pregnant on protection. My oldest is proof of that.

These takes are raw, but do they guide him through the breakup?

This man’s story is a brutal reminder that love can blind us to red flags. The pregnancy test wasn’t just a clue—it was a spotlight on his girlfriend’s betrayal. From Jesse’s calls to her secret affair, she shattered his trust, and now he’s left to rebuild. Ending it is his first step; doing so with dignity is the next. What would you do when love turns to lies? Drop your advice below—let’s support him as he steps into a new chapter!

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