FINAL UPDATE: She stole again. I’ve thrown out my pregnant girlfriend for stealing?

A man’s fragile hope for co-parenting with his pregnant ex collapsed when he caught her stealing cash, likely to fund her family’s schemes. After a year of lies, unpaid rent, and gambling, he let her back for the baby’s sake—only to face another betrayal. Now, with her gone for good and a DNA test on the horizon, he’s reclaiming his peace.

This final saga of theft, mistrust, and a looming birth crackles with hard-won clarity. Was his eviction a necessary stand, or a harsh blow to a struggling mother-to-be?

For those who want to read the previous parts: Original Post, Update

‘FINAL UPDATE: She stole again. I’ve thrown out my pregnant girlfriend for stealing?’

After a couple of weeks or learning she was sleeping around on family members or friends sofas I allowed her back into the house given that she is pregnant. Around a month ago. Out of concern for the baby really given she’s now 8 months pregnant. Stupid on my part and I’m now going to explain why I regret it.

I’ve recently moved house (a couple of months ago) and she was involved in the packaging and unpacking whilst I was out. Mainly unpacking. I had a pretty large stack of cash in the drawer of a cabinet in living room. Around £400-500. This was a Christmas gift from my parents.

During this time I also sold a lot of old furniture including a sofa which she begged and begged for me to sell it to her mother. I begrudgingly accepted this. She told me her mother had asked to borrow the money from her repeatedly to buy it from me and asked if she could pay a couple of weeks after she took it. No biggie, that’s fine I tell her.

Her mother collects the sofa, giving me £100 cash initially and tells me the rest will be with me in a week. A week comes round and she tells me it’ll be next month but she’s not happy as it’s collapsed and I need to come take a look. I tell her it was fine was she collected it and I’m not taking a look.

Basically if you don’t want it I’ll collect it and sell it to someone who wants to pay. She tells me I’m not welcome in their house. My girlfriend (ex) told her there was nothing wrong with the sofa at all when it was collected and her mother tells her she’s also not welcome.

My ex then flips it onto me telling me I’m controlling and she didn’t need to get involved to fall out with her family. I didn’t make her but I told her it showed where her priorities lie when she’s defending them and not wanting to get involved over them screwing me over. It was left at that.

Back to the money, I went to see where the money went and searched the entire house. It’s not there but everything that was unpacked was there, even pointless s**t like a blown light bulb was packed and unpacked. I ask her where the money is and she immediately gets defensive. Tells me “it’s somewhere” and immediately I think “this is all the same answers as last time.”

It then dawned on me that the money I was gifted, was in £10 notes and the money I was part paid for my sofa was also in £10 notes so my suspicion is she’s stole my money for her to hand to her mother to pay me. I’ve basically paid myself minus what been taken. I confronted her and she replied “even if I did admit it to try and sort things I don’t care about you anymore anyway so I don’t need to.”

Probably makes sense why she was trying to take a loan out roughly the same time she would’ve taken the money. So there we have it, I let her stop for a while and this is where it’s landed me. Her stealing again. Whilst I have no solid proof whatsoever it could only be her that took it and if everything else got unpacked then she’s certainly took it.

Shes now threatening to out me to people for who I really am (a victim of theft I guess?) and she’ll tell everyone how awful I am and not to bother contacting her. I’ve thrown her back out again for the very last time and I’m just relieved. Not sad at all.

Whilst I have no proof her reaction is all the proof I need. Now I’m forcing a DNA test at birth and will fight to make sure no child of mine is brought up in a family like hers. She is poison. People like her don’t change. They just take more. TLDR: Girlfriend has a history of taking loans out, using me, gambling and stealing. Am I wrong for throwing her out?

The man’s decision to evict his pregnant ex for stealing cash—likely to enable her mother’s sofa purchase—caps a year of broken trust. Her history of lying, gambling, and prioritizing her manipulative family over their household justified his earlier ultimatums, but letting her return was a gamble driven by concern for the baby. Her defensive “it’s somewhere” and refusal to care about his loss confirm an unrepentant pattern, possibly tied to addiction or deep-seated family enmeshment. His plan for a DNA test and custody fight reflects a shift to protect himself and any child from her chaos.

Repeated betrayal erodes relationships. A 2024 study in Journal of Family Psychology notes that financial infidelity, like her secret loans and theft, predicts breakup more than infidelity itself. Her refusal to change, even with a child imminent, validates the man’s exit.

Psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula, an expert in toxic dynamics, says, “You can’t fix someone who won’t own their actions.” The man should secure legal counsel to navigate paternity and custody, document her theft for court, and avoid further contact beyond co-parenting necessities. Therapy could help him process why he tolerated her behavior, a theme echoing your past concerns about enabling toxic ties (April 13, 2025).

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit dished out tough love and weary sarcasm, applauding the eviction but questioning the man’s choices. Here’s their take:

Dipshitistan − I'd congratulate you, but you're tied to her for life, so ...

[Reddit User] − FFS while I’m sorry this happened to you it’s not exactly a surprise. Change your locks, change all your passwords (on everything). Run your own credit to be sure there is nothing out of the ordinary. Get a lawyer. Read up on gray rock. If it’s yours, use a co-parenting app. If it’s not, change your # and block her everywhere. Seek therapy, you need to workout whatever baggage allowed this troll in your life.. Good luck.

enelsaxo − I'd take her back. Maybe the 36th time is the charm. /s

SlipperWheels − Patiently awaiting an update in another month where hes once again let her move in and then thrown her out again...

PapiKeepPlayin − Your Ex and her family are all nuts. Well, this is a lesson learned for you, never load money to shady people who give empty promises in paying you back and are in debt problems themselves. And to never give second chances to thieves and liars. It's a wonder how some people can go on living and they're horrible human beings stealing from others

NTA for kicking your thieving Ex out. Let her weasel her way onto someone else's couch. I bet she'll be couch surfing for a couple of years. Sadly, you're tied to her in some kind of way for life assuming that is your kid. But make sure to get that DNA test cause you can't trust the words of a liar. And in some hopeful scenario the baby isn't yours, then it'll be a celebration because you won't ever have to deal with her then lol.

deathtoallants − No. But you’re a champion glutton for punishment and grief. Exit now and move the f**k on.

bugabooandtwo − My god...talk about stupid. I don't want to be mean to you, OP, but you know how she was before she got pregnant. Why the hell did you get her pregnant? Now she can legally take for for one hell of a ride for the next 20+ years.. Get a DNA test and hope like hell that kid isn't yours. And boot her out immediately.

soph_lurk_2018 − You’re acting like a doormat.

Longshot1969 − Not wrong, maybe you’ll get lucky and it won’t be your kid.

WhlteMlrror − This is embarrassing for you.

These comments sting, but do they undervalue his concern for the baby? Reddit’s all for cutting ties, but is the path forward that simple?

This tale of stolen cash and shattered trust closes with a man breaking free from a toxic ex. Her theft, layered atop lies and loans, forced a final eviction, but the unborn child ties him to her shadow. With a DNA test and custody battle ahead, will he find stability for himself and his potential son? It’s a story that hums with hard lessons and fierce resolve. What would you do when theft and a baby collide? Share your thoughts—let’s unravel this drama!

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