Update2: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?

In the sterile calm of a hospital room, a new mother cradles her newborn daughter, Adley, hoping for peace after an emergency C-section. But the joy of birth is overshadowed by a chilling family crisis. Her 13-year-old sister, Tasha, already barred from the birth for her jealous outbursts, crosses a shocking line by attempting to kiss the mother’s husband, Kerim, and sending a text blaming the mother for stealing attention. As medical complications and family drama collide, was the mother wrong to maintain her boundaries, or is she safeguarding her family from a growing threat?

The arrival of a baby should unite families, but Tasha’s escalating behavior—fueled by jealousy and unchecked by their mother—casts a dark shadow. With the new mother facing health scares and a husband reeling from Tasha’s advance, this story begs the question: how do you protect your family when a sibling’s actions turn dangerous?

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post, update

Update2: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?’

Hi guys I’m just really f**king confused right now but thank you all for following my story and giving me advice.. Rest assured we won’t be leaving Adley alone with Tasha.. If you want context my first two posts are on my profile. Basically after giving birth yesterday I have to stay in for a week as it was an emergency surgery.

As we had rushed to the hospital we didn’t have all the things I will need so Kerim went home to pack a bag of my things for me. He stopped off at my dads and apparently Tasha was with him. Kerim was polite and dad was asking lots of questions about Adley and I.

He left the room to get the presents he and his girlfriend had gotten for us and Kerim was left with Tasha. Apparently she was all over him but not asking any questions about myself or Adley. Kerim said she threw herself at him and tried to kiss him but he swerved and got up abruptly telling my dad that they needed to do something with Tasha as she was out of control.

He told me what happened as soon as he got back to the hospital. He’s really worried that people (my mother) will make him out to be a bad person. I think my dad has cameras in his house so I’m going to ask him if there are any in the hallway.

The OP’s dropped an update on the saga—curious? Click here to check it out!

The birth of Adley should have been a moment of triumph, but Tasha’s alarming behavior has transformed it into a battle for safety. Her attempt to kiss Kerim, coupled with a text admitting her need for attention, reveals a dangerous fixation, far beyond typical teenage jealousy. The new mother’s decision to exclude Tasha from the birth and limit contact remains a critical shield, especially given her own medical emergencies—a blood clot requiring additional surgery. The mother’s enabling of Tasha’s actions, dismissing their severity, heightens the risk to the young family.

Adolescent behavior can be turbulent, but Tasha’s actions signal deeper issues. A 2023 study in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry (source)  notes that extreme jealousy and boundary violations in teens often stem from unchecked emotional dysregulation, requiring professional intervention. Tasha’s behavior, from throwing a mug to targeting Kerim, fits this pattern, posing a potential threat to the baby and Kerim’s reputation.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist, warns, “Unaddressed toxic behavior in family members can escalate, endangering vulnerable individuals like newborns”. Durvasula’s insight underscores the mother’s need to maintain strict boundaries, including barring Tasha from unsupervised contact with Adley or Kerim.

For resolution, the family should seek camera footage to document Tasha’s actions and consider a formal complaint if her behavior persists. The mother and Kerim should enforce a no-contact rule with Tasha and limit interactions with their mother until Tasha receives therapy. A family meeting with their father could align support.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s response to this shocking update is as urgent as a hospital alarm. From calls for legal action to warnings about Tasha’s threat, the community rallied with intensity. Here’s what they said:

jacksonlove3 − Congratulations on your baby girl! Hope you are both doing well! You’re not wrong in anything here. I went back and read the prior two posts. Your sister is definitely dealing with jealousy over not being the “baby” anymore and jealous of the attention on you. She clearly seems to have a thing for your husband too which is gross.

Your mom needs to get her some serious therapy. I’m sorry this will probably not bring you and your mom closer as you had hoped. Your lil sis will alway be the golden child to her and will always get her way with your mom. I think it best that you put some distance between you and the two of them for awhile and concentrate on recovering and your new baby!

Lean on your husband and your dad for support in the meantime! Hopefully dad’s cameras daughter your sister’s promiscuous behavior!!! I’m sure you’re mom will still spin it in a way that takes the blame off your sister though.. Best of luck and a quick recovery!! Keep us updated!!

EggplantIll4927 − Ok first, congratulations! How is Adlet doing? Are you doing ok? I’m so glad she is here and you both are doing ok. Now you know the reason. Tasha has some serious issues going on and I’m heading right back to mom for allowing this behavior to ever rise to this level. you need to do nothing. Ban mom if she can’t put that aside for now.

Either Tasha did that to make a scene and pretend your husband made a pass at her or she’s convinced herself she’s the better mate. Whatever not your issue to fix or deal w up ith. And dang! But she sure is trying to ruin your birth experience isn’t she.

you focus on yourself, your Adley and Kerim, every one else? They can just myob, including mom. Be selfish, don’t try to fix this. Close your heart and mind to it all right now. This isn’t the time. Your parents can deal w their child while you bind w yours. Step back and prioritize yourself. I promise it’s yoir best move for your sake.. never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm

bookworm1421 − Op - no offense but, you are being kind of a doormat. You need to step up and step up LOUD and shut this s**t down. I know it’s going to be hard but, your mom is not and never will be your ally. She is 100% in Tasha’s court and always will be. She’s proven that over and over again. Now Tasha as escalated to a place that could tear your family apart and land your husband in jail.

No one is going to believe the grown man that a 13 year old threw herself at him. They’re going to believe the 13 year old. That means your family is in actual danger. If you aren’t going to completely cut off contract with your mom and Tasha (which is what you SHOULD do), then you need to put boundaries in place. 1) Tasha is NEVER left alone with Kerim…EVER. If he is in a room with her and everyone leaves the room, he also leaves the room..

2) Tasha is NEVER allowed near baby…and DEFINITELY never left alone with baby. EVER.. 3) Tasha is NEVER allowed in your home. EVER. You need to take this very seriously. I can’t say it enough, you’re family is in imminent danger. You need to take all precautions to prevent its destruction.. Good luck sweetie and, congratulations on your baby!

ConvivialKat − Congratulations! I hope you and Adley heal quickly and can head home very soon.. That was the good part of my post. Now for the bad part. Both you and your husband need to stop setting yourselves up for destruction. When Kerim arrived and Tasha was at the house, he should have either a) left immediately and told Dad to call him when Tasha was gone, or b) stopped Dad from leaving him alone in the room with Tasha.

He needs to be very blatant as to why he is making these decisions. It's not right that he has to take these precautions, but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do in life. This is one of those times. I know you had some desires and expectations with your mom. They haven't been met, and they aren't going to be met, so it's time for you and your husband to stop deflecting and start protecting.

DO NOT BE IN ANY BUILDING WITH TASHA. Just don't. I don't mean don't be in any room with Tasha. I mean, don't be in any building with Tasha. Any of you. You and your husband need to spend time bonding with your daughter. Just the three of you and no one else. Make sure the hospital has your sister on the NO ENTRY UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES list.

Once you get home, it should be exactly the same. Tasha enters your home, NEVER. NEVER. If you don't start taking proactive measures, instead of reactive measures (such as needing security camera footage to

aquavenatus − Congratulations on the birth of your child! I wish you a speedy recovery! As for your sister, get the camera footage and file a police report. At this point, she’s trying to set up your husband for child abuse. She’s trying to break up your family! She needs help (yesterday)!!!. KEEP YOUR SISTER AWAY FROM YOUR FAMILY!!!

Edit: I just read OPs edit. I’m not buying the sister’s “apology” at all. Something tells me she knows she’s in A LOT OF TROUBLE NOW due to her (recent) behavior. I still wouldn’t allow her near OP and her family for a VERY LONG TIME.

mak_zaddy − Congrats! I hope you recover, and I hope you don’t have to deal with too much Tasha-related stress. It’s also unfortunate that your mom will most likely try something because again Tasha didn’t get all of the attention at your dad’s and especially now that Adley is here!

I know others mentioned it on your previous posts, but if you haven’t already spoken to your nurses + care tell already, share your concerns about your mother arriving with little sister and that you don’t want her (Tasha) visiting. Once you feel ready to have Tasha (or if) you can let them know. But it will allow you + Kerim to enjoy time with Adley.

mogley19922 − Tasha needs therapy, I'm no shrink but she clearly has deeper issues than being a brat.

Inner-Ad-1308 − Tasha is no longer allowed access to any member of your small family. Cut her off. Period. She’s not right in the head and has never had consequences for her behavior… She attempted to s**ually a**ault your husband, threatened you and your baby. You and hubby need to go hard no contact.

If either of your parents want to see your baby- they are only allowed to ALONE. No Tasha, no talking about Tasha. Unless it’s about her inpatient treatment for her issues & that’s only after 6 monoid treatment. Your a Mother now. Be the Mom you deserved, protect your husband & child... And your husband needs to block your entire family off his phone & email

EvulRabbit − This update is where I thought it was going. 13yr old spoiled entitled brat has a crush. As long as OP was not pregnant, the marriage/him being taken/his and her age did not matter. But now OP has

For the love of everyone, do not let Karim or Baby girl be alone with her. It will start with making the baby cry, easiest way to get a baby to cry that is

If she gets another chance to be alone with Karim. She will try the advances again and when she doesn't get her way. She will claim he was grooming/touching her. This child's mom needs to wake up before it's too late. She is setting her up for failure and prison.

AvocadoHoodoo − Your sister is one phone call away from completely destroying your husband's life.. Keep those texts. REALLY see if your dad has cameras that caught anything.. Cut out your sister. She's not only unbalanced but dangerous.. I think it doesn't need to be said that she should be absolutely nowhere around your baby.. You guys may want to consider moving to another state. Yes, it's that serious.

These reactions pulse with alarm, but do they capture the full gravity? Perhaps the truth lies in the urgent need for protection and distance.

This chilling update of a new mother’s struggle against her sister’s dangerous actions leaves us grappling with a stark question: when does family become a threat to your own? The mother’s boundaries, forged in the crucible of a high-risk birth, protect her newborn and husband, but Tasha’s escalation and her mother’s denial cast a long shadow. If you were navigating this crisis, how would you shield your family? Share your thoughts and stories below—let’s untangle this web of loyalty and danger!

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