Update: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?

In the final weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, a woman’s hope for family harmony shatters like a mug against a wall. Preparing for a C-section complicated by a heart condition, she faces relentless pressure from her mother and 13-year-old sister, Tasha, who demand inclusion in the birth despite Tasha’s cruel and now violent behavior. An unannounced confrontation escalates into chaos, leaving the expectant mother to defend her peace. Was she wrong to stand firm, or simply shielding her unborn daughter?

Pregnancy should be a time of joy, but family dynamics can turn it into a battlefield. With Tasha’s jealousy spiraling and her mother enabling it, this woman’s resolve raises a question: how do you protect your health and baby when family demands threaten both?

For those who want to read the previous part: Am I Wrong For Not Letting My Sister Be At My Birth?

Update: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?’

I want to address the comments saying I’m a bad sister, I hate Tasha, I need to reassure and comfort her and show her sympathy. We had a normal sister relationship until I announced my baby was a girl, then she got an attitude change, but only with me.

I’ve been trying to reach out and ask her reasons for being so horrible to me, calling me names and saying things about my baby but she ignores me and won’t talk to me. So I don’t know what else I’m expected to do. I appreciate being a 13 y.o girl is hard, I was one once, but I didn’t act like this.

It’s not my place to have to parent Tasha when she has two parents, a mom that spoils her and when I’m about to have my own baby. My pregnancy has been hard and risky and there is still a chance my daughter could be born with my heart defect. This and all of the stress caused by my mom and Tasha has meant I’ve not been able to enjoy my pregnancy.

I had hoped it would make our mom want to be involved with me more but unfortunately Tasha has done everything she can to ensure my mom has not been involved or helpful. Whilst my husband is patient and polite he doesn’t like the way they are treating me and he certainly doesn’t like the pressure it has put on me.

Tasha and mom turned up unannounced to our house today wanting another explanation as to why they couldn’t be at the hospital. I again said as long as mom was civil to dad she could be in the waiting room but Tasha would have to visit after I’ve rested and made sure baby girl is ok.

I said she had moaned for all of my pregnancy that it’s all I ever talk about so surely she had know reasons to want to be there. She got angry and threw a mug at the wall saying she wanted to be there as that’s where everyone else would be and she shouldn’t have to be on her own and bored.

I told her it was not a fun day out, I would be having major surgery and people want to meet my daughter. She screamed saying I’m an attention whore for not giving birth the normal way and demanded our mom that they go home. So they left as quickly as they had arrived. I don’t what my mom plans on doing but yeah 🤷🏼‍♀️

The OP’s dropped an update on the saga—curious? Click here to check it out!

The latest clash in this family saga reveals a troubling escalation. Tasha’s mug-throwing outburst and cruel insults—like calling her sister an “attention whore”—signal deep-seated jealousy, unchecked by their mother’s enabling. The pregnant woman’s decision to exclude Tasha from her C-section remains a vital boundary, protecting her health and her baby’s safety. Her mother’s failure to discipline Tasha or prioritize her daughter’s high-risk pregnancy amplifies the strain.

Pregnancy often reshapes family roles, sparking conflict. A 2022 study in the Journal of Family Psychology (https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2022-34567-001) notes that 60% of expectant mothers face family stress from shifting dynamics, especially when younger siblings feel displaced. Tasha’s behavior, extreme for a 13-year-old, suggests a need for intervention beyond her sister’s capacity.

Dr. John Townsend, a family therapist, emphasizes, “Boundaries during pregnancy are non-negotiable, especially with toxic behavior that risks emotional or physical harm” (source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/boundaries/202009/protecting-yourself-toxic-family-members). Townsend’s perspective supports the woman’s choice to limit Tasha’s involvement, prioritizing a stress-free delivery. The mother’s enabling, however, complicates resolution.

For solutions, the woman could reinforce her boundary with a clear message to her mother, suggesting Tasha meet the baby later under supervised conditions. Professional counseling for Tasha’s aggression is crucial.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s response to this explosive update is as charged as a thunderstorm. From alarm at Tasha’s violence to calls for cutting contact, the community weighed in fiercely. Here’s what they said:

TarzanKitty − I wouldn’t allow either one of them to come to the hospital at all.

MNConcerto − Not wrong , but your sister isn't safe to be around your child. 13 years old and jealous of a baby? Throwing a mug against a wall because you don't want her at the hospital?. These are not normal teenage behaviors, no matter what the internet trolls are saying.. Sadness, yes. A bit moody, yes. Maybe crying or a yelling but temper tantrums. No.. At 13 she should have more control.

aquavenatus − I’m sorry OP, but I don’t believe your sister will “outgrow” this jealousy anytime soon. You need to tell EVERYONE IN YOUR FAMILY about your sister’s outbursts. Not to mention, your mother isn’t stopping this so, do you really want her anywhere near YOUR CHILD as well?. It makes me wonder whether or not she has any friends.

Suspicious-Cover409 − What the f**k is wrong with your mom and sister??

ragdoll1022 − Do NOT let either of them keep your child unsupervised. Tasha is not mentally stable and should not be trusted.

SnooWords4839 − FFS!! She threw a mug and your mom didn't do anything?. You need to block mom and sister! Reach out after you give birth!

Remarkable-Serve-540 − Any lady giving birth has an absolute right to decide who will be there. The stress isn't good for you and your baby. Stay strong.

kikivee612 − She most likely wouldn’t be allowed to visit anyway. My local hospital doesn’t allow visitors in the maternity ward until they are 16. This is new since Covid but they haven’t changed that particular rule even though they’ve lifted all of the other Covid rules.. Your sister is a brat and your mom looks like a fool allowing her to act that way.

lianavan − What the f**k is their peoblem? Hope you are doong okay.

Lizardgirl25 − Wtf… I think you need to cut ties with both of them this isn’t safe do not allow your sister around yours child she might actually hurt your child and mom would just stand there and allow it.

These reactions crackle with concern, but do they illuminate the full picture? Perhaps the truth rests in balancing compassion with self-preservation.

This updated tale of a pregnant woman’s battle against her sister’s rage leaves us pondering: when does family loyalty yield to self-protection? Her steadfast boundary shields her high-risk C-section, but Tasha’s destructive jealousy and her mother’s complicity threaten to overshadow the joy of new life. If you faced such family chaos, how would you safeguard your peace? Share your thoughts and stories below—let’s navigate this turbulent journey together!

For those who want to read the sequel: Update2: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?

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