UPDATE: AITAH for kicking my brother out of my wedding for making my fiancé cry?

A wedding’s glow can dim fast when family refuses to let wounds heal. Imagine a couple, fresh from their big day, hoping to bask in love—only to find drama knocking at their door. For one groom, the sting of his brother’s cruel wedding speech, mocking his bride’s vulnerabilities, lingers like an unwelcome guest. What was meant to be a celebration became a battleground, with his parents now doubling down, defending the indefensible. Their uninvited pleas for “family unity” clash against the couple’s need for peace.

The groom’s choice to shield his wife has sparked a firestorm, yet he’s unwavering, choosing her heart over toxic ties. Readers might feel the weight of his stand: when does loyalty to family end and love for a partner begin? This update unravels a tale of resilience, where healing battles betrayal’s long shadow.

‘UPDATE: AITAH for kicking my brother out of my wedding for making my fiancé cry?’

Hey everyone, I posted here a little while ago about what went down at my wedding, and I just wanted to say thank you for all your comments and support. It’s been a rough week, but I figured I'd update everyone on what’s happened since then. After kicking my brother out, I stuck to my word and told my family we were taking a break.

I blocked my brother on everything, and my wife and I decided to focus on each other for the week, just trying to recapture some of the joy that was stolen from us on our big day. We went on a mini-honeymoon to a cabin we’d rented and tried to shut out the drama for a bit. However, as soon as we got back, my parents showed up unannounced.

They claimed they just wanted to “talk it out,” but the second they sat down, it was clear they were there to defend my brother. They kept repeating that I

My dad then hit me with, “Family is family. You don’t turn your back on blood,” and I honestly lost it. I told them that *my* family is the one I chose to build with my wife, and if they can't respect her, then they don't get to be a part of our lives. They left in a huff, saying that I was being manipulated and that my wife was “too sensitive.”

The day after that, my brother tried reaching out—through a mutual cousin this time—saying he

My wife and I have started couples therapy—not because there’s anything wrong between us but because I want to make sure that she feels supported and knows that I'm fully on her side. It’s been helping her process what happened, and I think it’s helping me realize just how toxic my brother's behavior has always been.

We’ve decided to have a small, private vow renewal next year—just us and a few close friends—to reclaim what that day was supposed to be for us. In the meantime, we’re focusing on our future together and cutting out anyone who doesn’t respect us as a couple.

So yeah, maybe I did fracture my family, but if my brother’s “jokes” are more important to them than my wife’s happiness, then I’m honestly okay with that.. Thank you again to everyone who reached out—it meant more than you know.

Family feuds can haunt like ghosts, and this couple’s saga shows how deep betrayal cuts. The groom’s brother humiliated his bride with a vicious wedding speech, and now his parents’ unannounced visit—brushing off the pain as a “joke”—has poured salt in the wound. The groom’s firm stance, blocking his brother and pausing family contact, is a fortress for his wife’s dignity. Yet, his parents’ plea for “blood” loyalty and his brother’s gall to demand an apology reveal a family blind to accountability.

This mess screams dysfunctional dynamics. The brother’s lack of remorse mirrors a bully’s playbook, enabled by parents who dodge the mirror. The groom’s not just protecting his wife; he’s rewriting a lifelong script of excusing cruelty. A 2023 study in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that enabling toxic behavior in families often fuels estrangement when victims set boundaries.

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, an expert in emotionally immature families, notes, “When parents prioritize one sibling’s antics over another’s pain, they fracture trust”. Gibson’s lens casts the parents’ defense as a loyalty trap, sidelining the bride’s trauma. The brother’s audacity—seeking forgiveness while offering none—shows entitlement, not amends. The groom’s choice of therapy and a vow renewal signals strength, reclaiming their narrative. Still, the parents’ push hints at fear of losing control, a common tug-of-war when boundaries tighten.

What’s next? The couple’s low-contact stance is wise, but a letter—calmly stating their need for respect—might clarify their line in the sand. For readers dodging similar family storms, Gibson advises naming the harm without attacking: “We’re hurt, and we need space until there’s accountability.” Therapy’s a solid anchor, and a trusted friend circle can bolster their joy.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit’s squad came through with takes sharper than a wedding knife, cheering the couple’s grit and torching the family’s excuses. Here’s the unfiltered pulse from the crowd. These Reddit roars beg the question: can family ever justify defending cruelty? Seems the couple’s new chapter’s got more fans than the old family script.

faithful_neighbors − NTA as we said in your previous post, s**ew your family. You deserve a good life with ur wife OP.

JellicoAlpha_3_1 − *Mom, Dad, Brother...here is a bill for our wedding and the reception. Until I am reimbursed in full, I am going no contact with all 3 of you. And for the record, this is my decision. My wife wants to let all this go and move on. But I do not. You all have made excuses for brother's s**tty immature behavior his entire life and now it's cost you one of your children.

The 3 of you will pay for the wedding brother ruined...even if you have to mortgage your house and work until you are 80 to do it, or this will be the last time any of you see or hear from me.*. NTAH Holding them financially responsible doesn't mean you forgive them. it just gives you the ability to have wedding 2.0 without them.

[Reddit User] − Plan a good life with your wife. That requires that you sever ties with brother and your parents. None of them has a moral compass.

Majestic_Bit_4784 − This is exactly why your brother is the way he is, your parents allowed this behavior with using excuses to defend him.. Who needs enemies when you have family like that!!!. I wish you and your wife all the best for the future

WiseConsequence4005 − NTA you're a good husband and honestly I'd say a good person, keep doing what you're doing.

Mounirab96 − **Wow, I’m honestly o**rwhelmed by the support and feedback from all of you.** 🙏 My wife and I have been through the wringer lately, and seeing this community rally behind us means more than I can put into words. Hearing your stories and advice has really helped us feel less alone in all of this. It’s tough standing up to family, but knowing we’re doing the right thing makes it worth it.

I’d love to keep the conversation going—your perspectives have been invaluable, and I’m still reading through all the thoughtful comments. If you’ve got any more advice or similar stories, please share! And if any of the responses resonate with you, feel free to give them some love with an upvote. ❤️ You’ve all been incredible, and your support really makes a difference. Thank you!!

Odd_Welcome7940 − NTA... Honestly the fact you think there is even a chance your wife may not feel 100% supported or free to speak her mind and decided to just I nediately do some couples counseling is a boss move. Good for you

xanif − Family is family. You don’t turn your back on blood,”.

Practical_Hippo9126 − Ill put here the same as in the first post, f**k your family, they are really one of a kind stupid.

mrmses − You did not fracture the family. You have been manipulated, sounds like your whole life, by your parents and your brother. I am so sorry this is your experience of a family and I hope you and your wife can build a healthy and happy future together

This update’s a testament to love’s muscle, flexing against a family stuck in denial. The groom’s resolve—choosing his wife over his brother’s cruelty and his parents’ guilt trips—carves a path to healing, even if it means leaving kin behind. Their vow renewal plan’s a bold middle finger to drama, a promise to rewrite their story. It’s a gut-check: sometimes, family’s who you build, not who you’re born to. How’d you navigate a family fallout to protect someone you love? Share below—let’s keep this real talk flowing!

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