Update: AITAH My ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me?

In an unexpected twist to a delicate marital situation, a troubling update has sent ripples through a once-stable union. Three months after a post detailing an ex-fiancée’s disturbing attempt to lure a wife into betrayal, new evidence has emerged in the form of allegedly manipulated photos. The husband and wife, who have been working hard to move past their previous turmoil, now face fresh challenges as digitally altered images resurface and cast doubt over long-held assurances.

The update reveals that during a recent evening of art night, Jess—who once played a disruptive role—sent photos to Olivia that appear to contradict the husband’s account. These images, featuring details like tattoos and outfits inconsistent with past timelines, have fueled fresh anger and mistrust. The situation, blending social media manipulation and unresolved past issues, forces the couple to reexamine their boundaries and the influence of former relationships in an ever-evolving digital age.

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‘Update: AITAH – My ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me?’

I posted about how my ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me 3 months ago. Thing were good since then but last week has been crazy and I wish my wife were not as naive to let Jess back in our lives. I really need help on what I can do at this point..

For reference, I broke up with my ex-fiancée Jess 7 years ago and have been together with my wife for 5 years (married for 2). After the night of Jess's birthday, where she tried to get my wife drunk and flirt with strangers, I had a long conversation with my wife. I laid down why I was uncomfortable with her hanging out with Jess.

My wife agreed with most of what I said but she feels that enough time has passed now where we can let things go. She also talked to Jess and she told her that she had no idea about me and it's just one happy coincidence.

Jess also insisted to my wife that she moved on with her life after our breakup, found love and unfortunately the marriage did not last. She told Olivia that maybe we all could go out for dinner together and clear out the issues.

Jess also insisted that she was just having fun at the bar, and apologized to my wife if her drunk behavior made her uncomfortable My wife asked me if I would be ok with their friendship as she has not found a social group in the new town for a long time and Jess seems like a changed person.

She also told me that she would only meet these women during her art night, and not go out on girls' nights or trips. I felt that as long as Olivia was comfortable, I should not have any reason to be worried. We also had dinner with Jess once and Jess was very friendly.

She told me about what happened in her marriage, and how she is on her healing journey right now. She also apologized to me for her behavior during our last few months together. Jess also now owns a business and works as a freelance artist and graphic designer.

I also was gracious as we were just 23 and I harbor no ill-feelings. My wife also started hosting art night at our place once a month or so and I had to move to my office for my game nights. Last week, after the art night, Jess and one other lady hung back, and we were all drinking wine and chatting.

The other lady was asking questions about Jess and I. Jess told her that it was old history, and I went no contact with Jess for 4 years. That was the reason why she had no idea about Olivia. Olivia looked at me, and asked Jess, you mean 7 years ago right.

Jess said no, and that was when we broke up. However, we met every time I came back to my hometown. I thought she was drunk, so I corrected her again that it was 7 years ago, and she was misremembering things. Jess said may be, and we moved on. The next day, Jess sent a bunch of photos to my wife of me and Jess hanging out.

They were just innocent photos like us having dinner, at a music festival, working-out together, etc. The weirdest part was I had a few tattoos on my body that I got after I broke up with Jess. I also never owned the clothes the person in the photo was wearing. Even the photos were timestamped to 4 years ago (Christmas 2019).

Olivia freaked out because we started dating in summer 2019. I did make a trip alone to my hometown in Christmas 2019. However, I never met Jess. She started asking me why I did not tell her about meeting Jess. I tried to tell her that these things never happened, but she does not believe me.

She also called Jess and Jess told her that we met because I was back in town. However, we were just platonic at that point and it's not what my wife is thinking. I confronted Jess and she told me that I am stupid to not tell Olivia about meeting her, and also not telling her about Olivia. She says that I told her I am still single.

Olivia is very angry at me. She is not believing a word I am saying. I kept on telling her that I have not seen her for 7 years. Olivia says she does not mind me meeting her, but I should have told her as we were together. I volunteered to show her all my phone records during that time, but they only go back to 3 years on my carrier.

I am confused how those photos can even exist when I never met her. They are definitely photos from when I was with Olivia, as I look more muscular in these pictures and also have tattoos that I did not have back then.

I even told her she can call my friends and family and ask them about the trip, but she says that she has all the photos of my trip, and my friends and family will cover for me. Can someone please help me what I can do in this case. I need to convince Olivia that this is all false. But she is just angry at me and giving me silent treatment. I swear that I did not meet Jess during that trip and am caught up in this mess without my fault..

Update :. A lot of people are messaging me in DM offering to review the pictures. I appreciate your help. I am not comfortable sharing the fake photos online with strangers. I am going to have an acquaintance who is a photographer look at them today. I had two people who are digital artists look at them so far and both of them told me they cannot identify anything wrong with the photos.

Also, another thing I learned after talking to a friend yesterday was the music concert venue (from the pictures) was a park near my parent's suburb and I did indeed go there with my friend for Christmas tree event. He also confirmed to my wife that he was with me all the time and we never met Jess there.

He also shared two photos from his camera roll that showed me wearing a different t-shirt than the photo that Jess shared. My mom confirmed that the gym photo was taken in an exercise room from the YMCA my parents go to. My mom reminded me that I did use their guest passes during that trip.. I have no idea what is going on TBH.

Relationship experts stress that trust is the cornerstone of any long-term commitment, and digital interference can jeopardize even the strongest bonds. They note that when manipulated images appear, it is crucial for couples to engage in transparent, evidence-based conversations rather than letting suspicion fester unchecked.

Digital forensic specialists emphasize that in the current age, technology can be used both for genuine record-keeping and for deceptive manipulation. They recommend that couples consider independent professional analysis when photos or digital messages are contested, to avoid misunderstandings that can lead to unnecessary conflict.

Experts also caution that unresolved issues from past relationships can resurface unexpectedly, especially when new digital artifacts are introduced. Maintaining open lines of communication and setting strict boundaries around interactions with ex-partners are essential strategies for keeping the past from impinging on the present.

Finally, many experts agree that each partner must hold space for their own emotional processing. While one partner may feel threatened by traces of the past, the other can reaffirm their commitment through reassurances and shared evidence. Collaborative problem-solving, including professional mediation or forensic evaluation, can be vital to restoring trust and ensuring that the marriage endures amidst digital challenges.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit community remains as divided as ever on this issue. Some commenters argue that the husband’s vigilance is entirely justified, pointing to Jess’s history of disruptive behavior and alleging that the digital photos are clear evidence of a calculated attempt to destabilize the marriage.

Other community members caution against overreacting to potentially manipulated images, suggesting that the focus should be on rebuilding trust between husband and wife. The consensus, however, leans toward the need for immediate action—be it legal intervention or demanding a complete break from Jess—to protect the marriage’s integrity.

Forward_Most_1933 − What in the twilight zone is going on here? Jess is freelance artist and graphic designer! Has your wife not heard of photoshop? Olivia is really naive to believe Jess has good intentions here. I suggest you remove Jess from your lives immediately. You and your wife need to focus on your relationship.

Jess knows exactly how to drive a wedge between you two, using your wife's longing for friends, naivety, and kindness against her. This is only going to spiral more if Jess continues to be in your lives. I'd also be more upset at Olivia for believing her friend/your ex over her husband.

K_A_irony − Ummmm you probably need a restraining order against Jess. This is reaching some crazy stalker level. If this is all real I ASSUME Jess got some current photo's from that time period from yours or Olivia's social media and photo shopped them. Possibly you can get a computer forensic specialist to prove this, but you would need Olivia to be willing to believe it.

EZbakedGhost − You know for a fact those are photoshopped even if they’re done well and knowing what she’s done in the past trying to get your wife to cheat on you mention that. “She tried to get you to cheat on me before and now she’s using faked photos to make you lose trust in me, she hasn’t changed at all, she’s trying to ruin our marriage.

She is a graphic designer she is really good at using photoshop so no wonder those photos look real. Knowing all of that you’re going to trust her over me? Jess is not trustworthy, she is a bad person trying to ruin our marriage.” At this point you’re going to have to put your foot down Jess or You or it’ll just get worse. Jess in a known liar bring up how it hurts that she’s believing Jess over you.

Tall-Negotiation6623 − I think I found a hole in her story. I already made a comment but just remembered an inconsistency. If you had been seeing her when you came back, why would she had apologised at the dinner, for her behaviour at the last months of your relationship? Wouldn’t that already have been discussed?

If you guys had met up platonic for years then I would except you guys to already have talked it out. The behaviour during dinner sounds like you guys hadn’t spoken since the break up.

NovaPrime1988 − Look, if your wife is willing to believe Jess after everything she has done, then you are honestly better off without her. Olivia’s desperate need for friendship is blinding her to what’s going on. This would honestly be a deal breaker for me. What’s Jess going to accuse you off next? False abuse accusations? Olivia is not going to have your back.

This isn’t something therapy is going to fix. Your wife trusts your p**cho ex over you. The relationship is already done. Protect yourself and move on from both of them. I would also consider speaking to the police about the harassment from Jess, because I think this might get worse before it gets better. Possibly even hire someone to confirm edited photos.. NTA

FlygonosK − OP you and Olivia had fell in the mouse trap Jess put.. She obviously see you and her in Facebook, remember the way Olivia was invited to the Art thing. Jess is trying to separate you from Olivia as a payback from you to leave her and not accepting her back in that year after the break up. She made those photos of yours.

She probably took the original photo from a picture on Olivas or yours Facebook and edited it Talk to your wife and tell her this, but first look into your pics to see which one could be the one edited or fake.

Sadly if you can find it this would become a thing she said you said, and this will show you the true colors of both Jess and your wife Olivia, if Olivia end up believing in Jess, your marriage is doom and Jess either will try to get back or just will rejoice in your loss.

Sadly if in the future you have another relationship, she will try to find a way to do the same. So if this (Olivia issue) result in it was correct, you will have to take care of this more strongly. UPDATEME

rocketmn69_ − Tell Olivia,

Starting by stalking us, then trying to get you to cheat on me, and now photoshopping photos from something that never happened.

[Reddit User] − From the get go Jess knew who your wife was. She's acting maliciously and trying to break you and your wife up. No contact immediately and get a lawyer to file an emergency protection order between you and your wife and Jess. If you can swing it, hire a freelance forensic IT person that can prove that these photos are fake and photoshopped. 

MikeRoz − Olivia freaked out because we started dating in summer 2019. I did make a trip alone to my hometown in Christmas 2019. However, I never met Olivia. She started asking me why I did not tell her about meeting Olivia. I tried to tell her that these things never happened, but she does not believe me.

Your model mixed up Olivia and Jess here OP. A human might have made the first typo, but then the mistake reinforced the switcheroo for subsequent tokens and you end up with Olivia mad you didn't tell her about meeting Olivia. Whoops.. Excited to see where the story goes from here.

strongopinion4life − Yeah your wife is being dumb, just like that other post where a coworker kept feeding a bunch of crap to ops fiancé so she could steal her fiancé. Your wife is being naive and this is actully her fault cause why does she think she wanted her to cheat?

So she could show op that she is cheating and ruin their marrige. Ecerything she has done until now was with the goal of breaking you two apart. Come on your wife cant not be this naive!

This update spotlights the growing complexities introduced by digital media into personal relationships. With old conflicts resurfacing in the form of manipulated photos and renewed accusations, the couple now faces the hard task of deciphering truth from illusion. Should they pursue professional forensic analysis, or might therapy and renewed open dialogue be the safer route?

Is it fair to expect a spouse to sever ties with a former flame entirely, or is the burden of proof on the accuser when digital evidence is murky? Readers are invited to share their thoughts and experiences on handling digital misinformation and maintaining trust in an era where old flames can be resurrected with a few edits on a screen.

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