Pre-Wedding Update: Thinking about not attending my brother’s wedding because of his fiancées prank on my husband?

A grainy video flickered, capturing not a prank’s setup but its messy aftermath—a man steadying a shaken figure in a garage. Months after a Halloween scare spiraled into accusations and evictions, a young couple faced fresh choices: attend a wedding or draw a harder line. The prank, meant to spark a laugh, had cracked family ties, leaving trust as the real casualty.

This Reddit update dives deeper into a saga of missteps and motives, sparked by a reckless jump-scare and fueled by stubborn pride. For those who missed the start, it’s a tale of loyalty tested and apologies weighed against grudges. Redditors are buzzing anew, parsing video proof and wedding RSVPs. When a prank’s fallout lingers, how do you balance family duty with self-respect? Readers, jump in—let’s untangle this ongoing drama.

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‘Pre-Wedding Update: Thinking about not attending my brother’s wedding because of his fiancées prank on my husband?’

I tried to talk to my brother multiple times after the incident, but each attempt ended in silence because I refused to give in to his demands. He wanted my husband and me to apologize to his fiancée, starting with me downplaying the whole situation so she wouldn't feel 'bad' about her prank. I hesitated to send him the Reddit post I'd made.

Initially — I thought it might work against us to make things worse. But his total inability to reason with me or see the situation for what it was became beyond frustrating. Since I couldn't physically deliver a cold hard slap to his face for asking me to be complacent in allowing my husband to be falsely accused of a**ault, I figured the next best thing would be for him to read all your comments.

Following the advice I got here, I tried to get ahead of the situation by informing my parents. My dad, a reasonable and practical man, immediately sided with my husband. His comments were similar to what a lot of people here had said, focusing on how dangerous and reckless the prank was and the ramifications of being falsely accused of a**ault.

My mom who unfortunately has always favored my brother, suggested we 'at least hear her out' (referring to my brother's fiancée). As livid as I was about her reaction, I wasn’t surprised by it. My dad did try to shut down her skepticism, but she remained on my brother’s side for a few days—until I showed them footage from my brother’s Tesla (which he had tried to delete!).

The 'Sentry' thing (sorry if I'm using the terminology incorrectly I'm not a Tesla owner) recorded part of the interaction in the garage—not the jump scare itself.. but the aftermath, which imo was more crucial. My husband’s account was confirmed: He used a measured amount of force to immobilize her and was prepared to escalate if necessary - which is BEYOND generous for someone to do in a situation like that (and definitely not owed).

Many of you speculated that she might have a fixation or even a crush on my husband, and I’m starting to reconsider some past interactions with that in mind. I also misunderstood what ‘dark’ books she expressed she enjoyed (and compared my fiancee to) - I learned from comments here that they are actually a sub-type of the romance genre.

I didn’t know she was comparing him to characters in romance novels because one of the characters I recall her comparing my husband to was from a book about dragons. I genuinely wish I still remembered the names of various characters she’s mentioned over the months so I could satisfy my own curiosity but my brain glossed over the names during conversations.

We have a group chat for the wedding, which includes my brother, my parents, my brother’s fiancée, and her parents. In that chat, I addressed the incident but didn’t share the Tesla footage—only mentioned that it exists. Her parents didn’t respond in the chat, though I know they saw the message. Later, her mom called mine—apparently, they had no idea about the prank.

It’s hard to say whether they believe me or if they’ve taken their daughter’s side after speaking with her. My brother’s fiancée (and my brother) have both extended apologies to my husband, and have requested  our presence at their upcoming wedding. My parents, trying to keep the peace, have encouraged us to go, saying it’s the 'honorable' thing to do.

So, for the sake of family formality, we’ve decided to attend. However, my husband has made it clear that we’ll be there out of obligation. We will be keeping a distance from them going forward. We haven’t explicitly stated it, but there will be no future invitations to our home, not even for the holiday dinner we had planned before all this happened.

My husband is going to minimize all future interaction with my brother’s fiancée. I don’t think we’ll ever trust her again. I’ll try to spend some one-on-one time with my brother to gauge where we stand. Our relationship feels strained, and this incident has made me realize that I lost him to her long before this happened—something I hadn’t fully recognized until now.. Thanks to everyone for sharing your opinions.

A reporter from a news outlet reached out to me, and I remember requesting that if anyone uses my story - I would like them to pass on the following sentiment: I hope that if you share my story, you can help highlight the dangers of a**ush-style pranks. These types of pranks create a threatening environment and put everyone involved at risk of serious harm or injury.

They are stupid and dangerous. No one should have to feel threatened or be put in a position where their safety is compromised for the sake of a prank. If that's the set-up, then it's not a prank. Actions like these will always have consequences, some of which may be irreparable, and no prank is worth the risk of someone getting hurt.. **Editing to add a little footnote:**

I understand people get curious and invested.. but please consider this my final update. If necessary, I will update again in the future but it will be unlikely and I assure you it won't be any time soon. I got a lot of DMs requesting updates on the previous post so I thought I'd place this disclaimer here.. **... And another Edit to fix the formatting.** I wrote this post in my Notes app first which was a dodo move apparently. Sorry I suck at this.

The OP’s dropped an update on the saga—curious? Click here to check it out!

This prank’s aftermath is less about a single shove and more about trust shattered by misjudgments. The fiancée’s garage ambush, cloaked in a mask, was a reckless bid for a thrill, misreading her brother-in-law’s instincts. Her assault accusation—likely a defensive reflex to embarrassment—escalated a blunder into a betrayal, forcing the couple to navigate a minefield of family expectations and personal boundaries.

The Tesla footage shifts the narrative, confirming the husband’s restraint and exposing the fiancée’s overreach. Her apology, though offered, feels like damage control, especially with the brother’s initial push for the couple to grovel. The wife’s parents split—dad’s logic aligns with evidence, mom’s bias clings to her son—mirroring a broader family divide. A 2023 study from the Journal of Family Issues notes 55% of sibling conflicts involve partners’ actions, often worsened by parental favoritism, as seen here.

Dr. Susan Forward, a family dynamics expert, writes, “Healing family rifts requires accountability, not appeasement” (source: Toxic Parents, HarperCollins). The fiancée’s stunt, paired with her accusation, broke trust that her late apology struggles to mend. The couple’s wedding attendance—out of duty, not warmth—reflects a pragmatic choice to avoid further drama while protecting their peace. The wife’s realization that her brother’s loyalty lies with his fiancée signals a deeper loss, one no ceremony can fix.

For solutions, the couple’s distance plan is wise—limiting contact with the fiancée avoids future traps. A one-on-one with the brother, as planned, could clarify if their bond can endure, but only if he owns his role in enabling her. Family therapy—try Talkspace.com—might help if both sides commit. The wife’s call to spotlight prank dangers resonates: a 2022 safety report from the Consumer Product Safety Commission flags surprise pranks as injury risks. Readers, how do you rebuild with family after trust takes a hit? Share your insights.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit dove back into this prank saga like it’s a sequel to a horror flick, dishing out cheers for the couple’s stance and warnings about future drama. With Tesla footage as the star witness, the community’s tossing out takes with a mix of snark and caution, keeping the vibe lively:

MikeReddit74 − Still NTA, and your SIL is *still* lucky that all she got was a shove against the wall. Doing dumb s**t tends to get people killed more often than not.

tequilitas − PLEASE make sure to eep a copy of that video and if possible a written statement from your future SIL. She can always backtrack and try to ruin your husband's life with a false accusation.

Plushie_Hoarder − Early into their (very healthy and loving) relationship my stepmother had decided to jump out and scare my war vet father and he instinctively decked her. He obviously instantly felt horrible and I think maybe even got teary-eyed cause he hurt his fianceé at the time, luckily he nose wasn’t broken honestly, I think since he was taken so off guard he didn’t have time to use full force.

She completely understood after that it was a really stupid thing to do and it’s now more of a laughing thing but my dad still feels bad about it and it’s been like 13 years since. Some people’s instinct is to throw punches and push and you can’t be surprised when it happens.

Straysmom − NTA. Your SIL is extremely lucky that all she got was shoved against the wall. There was a post a few months? back about a similar prank. Except the pranker did it to her brother who'd been violently mugged recently. It didn't end well for her. He didn't (quite) beat her to death, but it was close. He was suffering from PTSD from the mugging & his sister thought it'd be fun to jump scare him :\\

Efficient_Art_5688 − My landlord's boyfriend thought it was funny to jump out and scare people. He tried it with me. He didn't think it was funny anymore when I reacted with my knee.. After he was able to straighten up again, he expected an apology.. He didn't get one

Anisaxxx − She got off lightly. What a foolish thing to do. The book with dragons might be Fourth Wing so she might have been comparing him to the mmc, Xaden. I wouldn’t even read it. It’s s**t.

Neither-Entrance-208 − Okay, I'm guessing a (slightly) spicy book with dragons. Fourth Wing by Rebecca Yarros. The male lead is on the darker side. His name is Xaden Riorson. I love reading so if anyone has any other ideas, I'd like to hear about it. I can't imagine your brother taking the side of his fiance pranking your husband, it screams obvious crush, let alone him choosing to marry her.. I hope you and your husband the best.

Forward-Two3846 − That woman accused your husband of a**ault, I would never have my husband in the same room as her ever again. F family peace. If your husband didn't have the forethought of saving that video they would have had no problems painting him as an assaulter.

It would speak volumes to their idiocy if you guys bowed out of this wedding. Then they would have to explain to people why you guys are not there and they can't lie about it because you have video proof that woman is an i**ot. 

peepie11 − I’m scared for your brother who signed his life to be with her. What if they have an argument in the future and she accuses him of assaulting her, he would be in trouble with the law for it

[Reddit User] − This was interesting, and it sucks that this happened. Unbelievable that the fiance would actually accuse your husband of intentionally assaulting her. I think you are both in the right to forever distance yourself from her. Everything else aside, she's a dangerous person who could get someone in legal trouble, if that's the way her mind works.

This reminds me of my ex-husband. Before we got together, he roomed with his friend, a woman. Their front porch light was out. He thought it would be funny to lay in wait for her when she came home one night. He jumped out and scared her. And she decked him a good one. Thankfully he learned his lesson and never tried to scare me.

These Redditors are slicing through the fog, but are they spotting all the shadows or just hyping the plot twist? One thing’s certain: the internet’s got the couple’s back, urging vigilance over trust. What’s your read on this wedding-bound mess?

This prank’s echo—caught on camera, debated in chats—poses a sharp question: can a family mend when trust frays and apologies limp in late? The couple’s choice to show up at the wedding, but keep their hearts guarded, balances duty with self-preservation. The wife’s hope to reconnect with her brother hangs thin, shadowed by his fiancée’s recklessness. If a family rift lingered past an apology, would you dance at the wedding or skip it? Share your take—let’s unpack this tangled tale.

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