AITA for removing my brother’s GF from our Life 360?

The hum of a food truck’s generator filled the air, but in one family, a quieter tension simmered. A young woman, juggling unpaid shifts to support her brother’s business, cherished her role as aunt to his two kids. Yet, her brother’s girlfriend, Selena, cast a shadow—gossiping about relatives, dodging grandma’s pleas for time with the little ones, and now, hiding her own whereabouts on their shared Life360 app while tracking everyone else. That digital snub, paired with a ghosted invitation, pushed the woman to hit “remove.”

What happens when family ties tangle with technology and unspoken grudges? This story peels back layers of loyalty, boundaries, and the sting of feeling sidelined. It’s a modern saga that hooks us with its blend of app-driven drama and heartfelt family stakes, begging the question: where’s the line?

‘AITA for removing my brother’s GF from our Life 360?’

I (24F) have a younger brother Matt (21M) who has a GF (21F) named Selena. They got together back in 2021 and have had 2 babies during their relationship who I love dearly. Throughout their relationship, I have tried to be cordial and friendly towards Selena, I have heard many times of how people don't get along with their sibling's partner and I didn't want to be one of those people.

Throughout the years though, I have heard countless gossip from Selena about what she thinks about people in my family, including my mother. At the time, I would argue with my mother and sister (25F) in her defense, which now looking back I regret deeply.

My younger brother currently works a food truck that my parents have loaned him to make a living for his family while Selena stays home with the kids. During this time, my mom (52 F) and I have been working with him, sometimes without pay since some weeks it is too slow.

While working with my brother is fine, I have felt that Selena sees herself as a boss and sees my mother and I as only employees. There are times when my mom asks my brother if she can spend time with her grandkids, but he says no because they are with her family.

We set up a life 360 a few years ago when they only had one kid and I would babysit, so it was Matt, me my mom and my sister. Recently, I noticed she paused her location sharing (since jan 28). I didn't think anything of it but she would still monitor everyone's locations, since when my brother and I are working the weekends he lets me know when my mom is near as soon as he gets off the phone with her.

I didn't think this was fair since she is still able to view our locations. This morning I was talking to my mom and she was sharing how she wants to see her grandkids and how she invited Selena to an outing on Saturday Morning(she she ghosted my mom on). That was my final straw and I removed her from the account. So Reddit, AITA?

Family apps like Life360 promise connection, but this story shows they can also amplify rifts. The woman’s decision to remove Selena from the app wasn’t just about location sharing—it was a stand against feeling undervalued. Selena’s gossip, her control over grandkid access, and her one-sided use of the app paint a picture of entitlement, leaving the woman and her mother as outsiders in their own family.

The core issue? Boundaries—or lack thereof. Selena’s paused location sharing while monitoring others feels like a power play, especially alongside her dismissing the mother’s outreach. The woman’s removal of Selena, though impulsive, reflects a deeper hurt: her family’s labor and love seem taken for granted. Yet, her silence risks escalating tensions without resolving them, a common trap in family conflicts.

This dynamic isn’t unique. A 2023 Pew Research study found that 59% of adults using family tracking apps report increased trust, but 34% note heightened conflict when transparency feels unequal. Here, Selena’s selective privacy clashes with the app’s mutual-sharing ethos, fueling resentment. The woman’s role—unpaid worker, sidelined aunt—adds weight to her frustration, as does her mother’s blocked grandparent time.

Dr. Susan Heitler, a clinical psychologist, notes, “Unaddressed slights in families fester; clear communication is the antidote”. Heitler’s insight suggests the woman’s app removal was a cry for fairness, but without dialogue, it’s a dead end. Selena’s behavior—gossiping, gatekeeping—hints at insecurity or control, which a frank talk could uncover.

The woman could propose a family meeting, saying, “Let’s reset how we share time and support—starting with fairness.” If Selena resists, limiting contact while staying open to the kids protects her peace. For her mother, scheduling grandkid time directly with her brother might bypass Selena’s gatekeeping. Readers, how do you navigate family tech tensions? Join the discussion—can apps like Life360 unite or divide?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit brought the heat, tossing out everything from raised eyebrows to practical tips. Here’s what the crowd had to say, unfiltered and lively:

Aware_Welcome_8866 − ESH. I’m not sure your SIL is going to intuit that she’s been removed from the group bc she no longer shares her location and she doesn’t let your mom see the grand kids enough. Yes your SIL isn’t playing fair with the grandkids, but this one of those problems you have to discuss if you want to see change.

West_House_2085 − Who cares if you can track your SIL? Why do any of you feel the need to track any adult?

pinkimijina − What does Life 360 have to do with your mom spending time with her grandkids? This seems like a very odd and petty way to retaliate at your brothers GF. Since you are working with your brother, and mom, maybe you should all just sit down with his GF and have a real conversation about scheduling regular times for your mom and yourself to visit the kids

HappySummerBreeze − Life 360 is for family members sharing their location. Since she isn’t sharing her location it’s not appropriate for her to have access to yours

Clear-Ad-5165 − Why are you working for free, especially your bro doesn't even like you guys ans are only using you two. Slowly go NC as you two never see the kids anyways because he doesnt allow it.

Keely369 − It's too slow so he needs two extra staff to run the truck?!. I despise people who need to track other adults every second of the day. It's creepy AF.

LiveKindly01 − ESH. I'd talk to your brother about it. Create a set of 'family rules' for the 360 and one of them is you either all share or you're out. That's kind of the point of it. Otherwise it's not fair. He can't possibly argue with that. Ask her how she'd like it if roles were reversed.

Dense_Island_5120 − NTA. But there are separate issues that you seem to be overlapping, which is all mixing into more frustration. I think it’s in your best interest to set healthy boundaries between you, your brother and his GF/wife? Who bought the Life360 account?

It seems to be bought for the whole family in emergencies, but are you in control of the account access? Maybe your brothers GF doesn’t care about the Life360. Her access to that is between her and his GF. If it is meant for you and your mom, then why complicate it? Put you, your mother and your brother and be done with it.

Stop working for free for your brother and stop babysitting for free too much if you feel like an employee. Set healthy boundaries for yourself. I would recommend that your mother stands up for herself and tells her son that HE should take more initiative in setting up grandma time.

It is not up to the GF if she is not super into it. It is not your responsibility to tell your Brothers GF to set up time with your mom. You can be an advocating voice for your mother, but all you can do is recommend better options between your brother and mom. It is up to your bro to setup time with his mother (whether he wants to or not).

viiriilovve − NTA but your mom needs to have a chat with your brother, if she’s not allowed to see the kids then no more helping this AH

Plastic-Shallot8535 − Wth does this solve lmao Like damn. You really showed her by removing her from life 360.. Like sure…remove her if you want, it’s your account so NTA. Your brother has the ability to bring the kids to visit your mom too, you know. Try talking to him about your issues instead of passive aggressively removing someone from an app and hoping they get the message.

These takes range from fiery to measured, but do they crack the code on this family mess? One thing’s sure: apps stir up more than just coordinates.

A tap on a screen, and a family’s fault lines come into view. This tale of Life360’s digital drama reveals how fast trust can fray when fairness falters. Will a family talk mend these ties, or is this app snafu just the start of a bigger disconnect? It’s a story that nudges us to check our own family balances—tech or no tech. What would you do if someone flipped the script on your family’s trust? Share your take—let’s keep this convo rolling.

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